“You need to change your character traits and everything will work out” - most often this is what well-wishers advise when they see an old acquaintance dissatisfied with their position at work or their attitude to themselves from other people.
Some people think about how to change their character so as to solve existing problems and eliminate possible conflicts in the future. Often, this happens in couples who value family relationships.
At work, at home and with friends, people regularly encounter conversations about character. They say that for some people character helps in life and work, and vice versa.
With such attitudes, the question of how to change your character becomes almost the cornerstone on the path to happiness and success at work.
If there is a question, then there must be a solution to it. Given that this article is not academic, there will be no consideration of the theory of the psyche and psychology of human behavior . There will only be a consideration of the practical aspect of how to change your character and what it means, in essence.
It’s right when, before starting any action, people try to clearly present the result that they want to achieve or get.
If people want to change character traits, then they also want to achieve something or get something as a result of the changes.
A reasonable question arises: what exactly can be achieved or obtained, and why should one change his character?
- Consider the answer to the first part of the "reasonable" question through the motives of human behavior.
You can make a tattoo or piercing, you can change the color or style of clothing. People can and do it. As a result, people change the perception of others and change their attitude towards themselves. They gain access to public circles or “parties” that they could not get into before. Get the promotion that they dreamed about and much more.
Changing their appearance, people get a credit of trust from others.
In other words, people begin to do something with themselves in order to get something new that they don’t have. They strive for some kind of benefit and not necessarily material.
This is a benefit in that people strive to be valued and needed, they want to become prosperous in every way.
To achieve new benefits, people think about how to change their character.
- Consider the answer to the second part of the "reasonable" question through a model of human behavior.
To achieve the desired goal, you need to do everything that needs to be done and no less. A person can do almost anything to achieve the goal if the goal and means correspond precisely to his character.
If a person pursued fashion or was attracted to a crowd, then his desired goal is false. In this case, everything that a person does is doomed to failure or give a minimal result.
A feeling of dissatisfaction arises in a person when he is not engaged in his own business, not in his “own” place and is trying to reach a false goal.
When a person striving for something that is not a need of his innate nature, he does not achieve success and suffers. A false goal cannot be achieved.
The character of a person does not determine his success in life. You can be successful and happy with any character. The main thing that is necessary for this is to do “your” business. It is also important to find and communicate with people who accept a person as he is.
An abstract example:
The penguin will not change its character for the sake of moving to the "fashionable and cool" Canary Islands, it will die there without frost and other penguins.
Everyone should be in an environment of their own kind and will be happy.
Having reduced two parts of the answer to the “reasonable” question, we get:
- People are thinking of changing their character in order to get something in return.
- You can get something new in a simple way, if you are in a natural environment for yourself and go to the "characteristic" goal.
Is it possible to change the character to improve the quality of life?
There is a simple answer: why? To improve the quality of life, it is enough to get rid of false goals, imitate other people and find your own path of development.