Any person has relatives, but not everyone knows that several levels of kinship are supposed. It is also interesting that in addition to the usual names of kinship relations, there are also ancient names, some of which have received a different meaning in modern life.
Degrees of kinship
- The first stage of kinship is the relationship between daughter and father, son and mother, son and father, daughter and mother.
- The second stage of kinship should include the relationship between grandchildren and grandfather and grandmother.
- To the third degree of kinship relations equate those between great-grandchildren and great-grandfathers and great-grandmothers, as well as the relationship between nephews and aunts with uncles.
- For the fourth degree of kinship, cousins and brothers, nephews (nieces) and cousins of grandfather and grandmother are suitable.
- The fifth stage of kinship is equated with a relationship between a cousin niece (nephew) and a cousin uncle (aunt).
- The sixth degree of kinship includes family ties between second cousins and sisters.
The modern scheme of family ties is
often limited only by the kinship of the first and second stages, but we simply forget about the status of other close and familiar people. For example, one and the same young woman can be given four different statuses, depending on who assigns this status: son, daughter, daughter-in-law, daughter-in-law. And not everyone knows about the name of the wife of the son. It would seem that if the conversation is on the phone, your interlocutor, having heard such different names, will think that there are different women on the other end of the wire, but in practice she is one.
Who is called daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law, as well as daughter and son? The daughter-in-law of the son is considered a daughter-in-law in relation to the father-in-law (as the young one calls the husband's father). A son is an old name, the son of a little wife used to say. Perhaps such a concept has survived only in those families that honor Old Russian traditions. The daughter-in-law in Russia was called the wife of the son only as father-in-law, that is, the father of the husband. Currently, traditions have changed, and she is called a daughter-in-law in-law and mother-in-law, that is, both parents of her husband. The wife of a son in relation to his mother is considered a daughter-in-law.
If you follow the old customs, then the son’s wife could be called differently by his mother and father, the father had the right to call a young daughter-in-law, and mother to call her daughter-in-law. In the age of computer technology, that woman who has entered into a legal marriage with a man becomes just his daughter-in-law for all his many relatives. Both sisters and brothers of men have the right to call the legitimate wife of a man by that name. She will also have such a status for all husbands of sisters, as well as for the wives of her husband’s brothers.
The position of the daughter-in-law in a harmonious family
In families where they try to maintain warm relations in which deep respect, mutual understanding, sincere care, love prevail, the parents of the spouse do not presume the division of young women into their own daughters and those who married their sons, that is, outsiders from the point of view direct kinship of girls.
That is why in such families, mother-in-law often makes such appeals as “daughter, daughter” to the son’s wife. In the family, the role of the true guardian of the family hearth is assumed for the daughter-in-law or daughter-in-law. This woman not only gives birth, brings up the child (s), but also must maintain family relations with other representatives of her spouse's family. It is the daughter-in-law who is considered the link in the establishment of relations between her relatives and the relatives of her husband. The daughter-in-law is entrusted with a difficult task. Not all young women cope with it, but it is not for nothing that they say that the wife is the neck and the husband is the head. If a wife wants, she will always find ways to establish relations between relatives, creating a real family hearth, cultivate family relationships, and educate her children in such traditions.
Soft welcome - a harmonious family
The important thing is how the direct relatives of the young will accept the new family member (of course, it is important how the father of the wife of the son and his mother will influence the relationship, however, in Russia the residence of the daughter-in-law in the husband’s house was accepted, therefore the degree of influence on the relations of her parents is somewhat less). During the formation of a young family, everyone should be tactful in relations with the spouse of a brother or son, but the daughter-in-law needs to be patient, be friendly, show respect for the mother and father of her husband. If the mother-in-law “accepts” the daughter-in-law, dreams that her son would be truly happy in marriage, she will try to share her everyday experience with the new relative, and will accept her as her own daughter. In the traditions of Ancient Russia, there was a transfer of all knowledge, housekeeping experience, the wisdom of female family happiness from the side of the mother of her son to her daughter-in-law. A newly-made wife should understand that all the advice that her husband’s mother gives her is a desire to protect the young from a lot of mistakes, and not a trivial interference in their personal life.