Infidelity is always perceived as betrayal and personal tragedy. Regardless of whether the couple finds enough strength and desire to glue and fix everything or breaks up, adultery hurts. And both of them.
Men who ask themselves “why do wives cheat” can cite as an example great works of literature, movies, which portray women in an unflattering light. They may begin to search for the enemy in a "vile female nature" who is organically incapable of being faithful or loving selflessly. Or in the images of the temptress Lilith, the courtesan of Messalina - a sort of vamp, subjugating men and depriving them of their will. But much more often the question must be posed in a different way: not “why do wives cheat,” but what in a particular union led to infidelity.
It’s much easier to “switch arrows” to another. Often not understanding, not understanding the elementary foundations of female psychology, deceived
(or those who consider themselves as such) husbands wring their hands, load revolvers, write pasquili, because they cannot understand why wives cheat. They sincerely expect from their companions purity, integrity, the ability to indulge and satisfy all their needs, as well as sexuality and attractiveness. But - in moderation, only for her husband. And quite sincerely, not realizing why the wives are actually cheating, they believe that the matter is their social status, money, licentiousness, or something else material and base. In these thoughts and conclusions, they completely lose sight of the most important thing: infidelity occurs where there is no satisfaction with the relationship as a whole. Indeed, for a union to be strong and reliable, and two to feel as if they were created for each other,
not only psychological compatibility is necessary. We also need a common vision of the goal, the meaning of life. We need attention to the needs of the partner, and more often than not financial and not material, but psychological. If a wife cheats,
she usually feels unhappy in marriage. Her needs are either constantly ridiculed or relegated to the background. Mother-in-law also add fuel to the fire:
"He dressed you like a doll," "He provides for his family." But at the same time, the most important thing is forgotten, for which people bind themselves by marriage. They cease to pay attention to each other and provide support. This is especially acute for women. If men motivate their infidelity most often by the need for sexual diversity, studies of why wives cheat show that, as a rule, they lack love and attention in marriage. An acute lack of communication,
tenderness, immediacy in relations with a spouse pushes them to seek outside recognition and approval.
This, incidentally, is very skillfully used by all kinds of gigolos and professional seducers. Knowing the need of every woman for attention, intended only for her, for approval and admiration, they are expertly able to manipulate the feelings of their victim.
Woe to that naive who will fall for the bait of such a seeker of easy money. But often the frustration of a woman in marriage and, as a result, her sensitivity to any praise is so strong that she falls in love without memory even with the one who only plays her. Wives are often cheated for emotional reasons. And only husbands, if they really love, are capable of their attention and affection to prevent infidelity.