Boys and girls in love are ready to give anything just to be together. They go through many trials together, quarrel and reconcile, part and again return to each other, then go to the registry office and create a common family, strong and friendly. Logically, it would be necessary to add that they will live together their whole lives .... But in reality, everything can be very different.
Scary word cheating
It is betrayal that can cause the severance of a strong relationship, permanently avert loving spouses from each other, and break the life of an entire family. Why is this happening? Why does someone consider it possible at one moment to forget about his “soul mate” and go in search of new experiences? Or maybe cheating is not scary, but only strengthens feelings? They say that only the person whom we love the most can hurt us. There is nothing worse than betrayal of a loved one - and betrayal is precisely a betrayal. But before you condemn adultery, you should understand the reasons why they occur.
Most often, the couple begin to change each other when all the feelings between them have already died out. In this case, the betrayal is quite natural, since the relationship can not continue to continue, and neither husband nor wife can decide to end them. Marital infidelity appears at the first manifestation of a relationship problem. A husband or wife can show signs of attention to other people, hoping to arouse jealousy of the legitimate “half” and restore former love. Perhaps such a betrayal can be considered justified, as it arose from good intentions. The third reason for the unfaithfulness of spouses to each other may well be some kind of discord in the family, a dissatisfied intimate life, and any other problems that, in the opinion of a person who has changed, cannot be solved differently.
Can infidelity be avoided?
Cheating on spouses can be prevented. How? The simplest and most understandable is communication. Husband and wife should be honest with each other, openly discuss the problems of their family. Of course, the matter should not go as far as mutual insults and primitive clarifications of relations. The conflict cannot lead to anything good - it will all start with a spoiled mood, and the final result will be adultery.
If betrayal nevertheless has already occurred for one reason or another, it is worth making sure that they remain the only one. For this, first of all, it is necessary to stop blaming your soul mate. It is extremely difficult to reconcile, forgive and try to forget, but it is necessary, otherwise family life will never be the same, relations will not move off the ground and may soon collapse. So that adultery does not happen again, it is necessary to discuss with a partner what pushed him to it. Perhaps everything is not so scary.
In no case should you go to the other extreme - to blame yourself for the spouse’s infidelity. Our self-esteem must remain at the highest level, because only in a negligible degree, the betrayal of one person occurs due to physical defects or insignificant sexuality of another.
If you are determined to fight for the joint happiness of your family, try not only to forgive and forget adultery, but also try to restore your old feelings. The relationship can be revived by romance, which makes the couple remember what feelings they had before the wedding. It is worth going to the cinema together, in which the future husband and wife met or spent the happiest hours. You can go on vacation, which has been planned for a long time. You can share joint plans for a future life or just dream. The main thing is to let your beloved person feel that he still remains such that any mistake can be corrected and pressed further.