Today, the concept of “coaching” has become a fashionable trend in realizing a person’s capabilities, directing him on the right path and choosing the right life position. The transience of life processes, the thirst for a change of scenery, the unwillingness to put up with one’s own life force one to take extreme measures and look for ways. What is coaching?
Coaching is not psychotherapy and you should not confuse these concepts. This is a method of counseling and training that does not give hard recommendations, but seeks joint ways to realize the ultimate goals and solve problems. The coach is not a psychotherapist and he will not try to force your soul wounds to “heal” faster, calm you down and tell you what to do. First of all, he is a partner with professionalism, faith in a person and undoubtedly have his own formed personality.
Who needs coaching? Coaching is necessary for managers, psychotherapists, psychologists, consultants. To all those who in some way had an influence on thoughts. - The matter is very delicate and this can not be learned in books or electronic manuals for beginners. Coaching experience is passed from person to person. The main motto of this direction could be: “do as you do”, in contrast to the “do as I do” consultations that are usual for all of us.
The experience of previous generations with its bitter examples and mistakes is undoubtedly good, but the main task of life coaching is to make a person find the right solution, find a way out. It is aimed at consistency in achieving the task, that is, it leads to a reduction in errors in each subsequent iteration. That's why coaching training always comes down to the following collaborative model building in:
- competently setting a clear goal for the learner;
- search for successful behavioral models with a detailed analysis of these models and refinement of the learner’s action algorithm using the existing algorithm to achieve the goal.
Why coaching? Despite the growing popularity of this trend, you should evaluate your abilities and understand that this is a specific thing and not everyone is given, based on temperament and previous professional experience. It is sometimes difficult to become a coach because of the selfish nature of the manager (not to be confused with self-centeredness), that is, the habit of accepting oneself in the “top” position with its complex algorithms and circuits. But this is not at all what we need, because in the effective construction of coaching we need to take into account individuality, and not universality.
Fundamental in the world of the coach is the ability to ask the right questions and work with those answers that we get on the way out. Do not impose your own opinion and idea about how to do the right thing in a given situation, but help a person live the life that inspires him, and not you.
In real life, a coach is a formed personality, with his own position in life, which was able to solve the problems of being and found the meaning of life and is now ready to share his rich life experience with others, make the client smile at his problems, believe in their insignificance, that he can do much more, which means an opportunity out of easy overcoming.
A coach is not only an interested, committed professional, possessing all those human qualities that are necessary for a learner to be able to inspire confidence and see with his own eyes the light at the end of the tunnel, but first of all a person, therefore, before starting a vigorous activity on the path to improving the world of this, you need to work on yourself, do your own, so to speak, psychoanalysis. Therefore, remember that you are responsible for how a person will feel after communication (occupation) with you and not harm him, at least, with his moralizing.