A person cannot be one hundred percent sure that he will never be left without work. After all, crises that occasionally arise in the country's economy will certainly lead to reductions. And this process can affect everyone, regardless of their specialty, professionalism and personal qualities.
And if a man is left without work? In this case, the family loses a significant, and sometimes the main source of income. At first, a woman can be sure that her love will certainly help to endure all the hardships and hardships. However, no doubt, sooner or later, the money issue will come first. And along with a decrease in the family budget, discontent will automatically appear with a man who is not able to realize his main function, acting as a getter.
How to survive these trials so that they do not destroy the family? How to help her husband find a job? What recommendations do psychologists give about this?
Motivation
How to make her husband find a job? For this, a woman will need, first of all, to pull herself together and behave kindly and calmly with her husband. At the same time, psychologists recommend in every possible way to emphasize the man that he is the main thing in the family.
If the husband cannot find a job for a long time, it is necessary to stimulate him to search in every possible way. To do this, it is recommended to plan any family affairs, such as, for example, a vacation trip abroad or the purchase of a new car. Various motivational examples will help in this matter. Psychologists recommend that wives, by the way, talk about the fact that the married couple they knew had acquired a new summer house or apartment. Such news, spoken by chance, can become an incentive for finding a job.
This is explained by the fact that by nature a man is a leader. That is why the spirit of competition, which is supported by the faith of loved ones in his ability, will enable him to give strength.
Motivation for misanthropes
Husband can't find a job? What should a woman do? Psychologists recommend motivating your soulmate based on the type of man. So, if he is a misanthrope, that is, a person who avoids communicating with others, then you must either do something that makes him love people, or choose a direction for activities where there is no communication at all. For this type of man, freelance exists. This is a remote work that does not involve contact or communication with people. It allows a person to earn money while being outside the team. Communication in this case is possible only through correspondence using the Internet.
If the husband cannot find a job, you can advise him to open a private enterprise. Such a direction will be an excellent option for those people who are good specialists in their field and who can do anything with their own hands. This offer will be attractive for tailors, jewelers, craftsmen making leather goods, etc. Such work will allow minimal contact with people.
Motivation for sons
How to help my husband find a good job? If the spouse is a sissy, then in this case, psychologists recommend a completely different approach to the woman. A man will have to talk as often as possible that he is already an adult and is able to work to support his family. But you should not scold him. On the contrary, a woman should praise her husband, telling him that he is a wonderful specialist and is able to show his high professional qualities.
Motivation for melancholy
What to do so that the husband finds a good job? If the spouse is a melancholic, then he needs to strongly indicate his independence and that he works very well.
Also, the wife should emphasize the moment that only the husband should find a job, as everything in the family begins to change for the better. Spouses will start to buy new clothes, go on vacation together, etc.
Motivation of cautious people.
It happens that a husband cannot find work for a year or more. It is possible that he is just a very careful person. What to do in this situation? To solve the problem, you will need to help the man find existing vacancies by studying ads in newspapers or on the Internet. After that, having phoned the personnel department of the enterprise, you will need to tell your spouse about the advantages and disadvantages of the selected posts. In other words, a person should help determine the right profession.
Manifestation of the weaker sex
If the husband cannot find work, then, according to psychologists, this whole negative situation falls directly on the woman's shoulders. After all, she has to not only housekeeping, but also to earn money. In this case, the man is quite capable of becoming a kind of piece of furniture.
Psychologists say that it is the woman who is most often to blame for such a situation, because it is with her permission that the situation in the family is such a negative one. How to fix it? For this, a woman will need to change her own worldview. She must make clear to her soulmate that she does not like this, and she no longer intends to pull everything on her shoulders.
The foregoing does not apply to cases in which a husband takes maternity leave upon mutual consent of the spouses. If a woman earns well, then her departure from work significantly worsens the financial capabilities of the family. If such an option suits both, then somehow you do not need to change the situation.
And if the husband cannot find work and the family needs money? Then the wife psychologists recommend playing a "weak woman." After all, what is most capable of inducing action? Responsibility for one who is weaker. That is why a woman should show that she very much needs her spouse.
A man must constantly feel that without his help and support some family affairs cannot be done at all. In such cases, a woman is recommended, for example, to complain about the administration, which literally overwhelmed her with overtime work. And to cope with her without the help of her husband is very difficult. In this case, the accounting spouse should instruct your partner to make simple calculations or to fill out a huge number of payment notices. Representatives of other professions can also come up with work for their second half. It is likely that such a step will allow the man to again feel self-confidence and will become an additional motivation for returning the status of the head of the family, breadwinner and earner.
Contagion of optimism
Why can't my husband find a job? Sometimes a spouse who is confident that he must support and protect his family, ceasing to perform these functions, panic. He is overcome by fear, guilt and awareness of his own inferiority. All this becomes the reason that at first he is angry with himself, and then with relatives, friends, his wife and children. Behind their sympathetic glances, he sees only mockery. As a result, the man turns into a sort of “sufferer”. He spends his free time on self-flagellation. Such a person seeks to escape from reality, plays computer games and surfs the Internet. The man is fully focused on his virtual world. At the same time, he completely forgets about the spouse, who is carrying the burden of family problems and constantly calming and reassuring him.
However, psychologists do not recommend a woman to focus on the problem. She should not show a reaction to self-criticism of the spouse and his unreasonable aggressive statements. It will be better if a woman begins to bring joy to the house and infect her husband with optimism. Of course, to do this in such a situation is quite difficult. In addition, psychologists do not recommend creating even the slightest hint of the artificiality of fun. After all, the partner will instantly feel this mood and perceive everything as nothing more than pity and an attempt to fool him.
If the husband cannot find work, what should the woman do? First of all, to be happy and try to create such an atmosphere in the house that will allow partners to move away from the negative situation and bring their relationship to a completely different level. But moving away from an existing problem does not mean forgetting about it. It must be solved without fail, but this is best done together. To do this, one should search for suitable vacancies and jointly analyze new opportunities.
Breaking stereotypes
At that time, while the husband is forced to stay at home, psychologists advise to relieve him of idleness. To do this, you will need to redistribute family responsibilities. The main thing is that there is no bust in this matter, because a man is unlikely to master all the homework. In addition, he needs to leave time to look for work and interviews.
A woman should not believe that if she fully provides for the family, she has the right to take the position of an authoritarian leader and communicate with her spouse using an authoritative tone and indicate what he should do. In other words, psychologists do not recommend that a woman behave as if she and her husband had forever changed roles. She is advised to select the right words and make clear to her spouse that he only temporarily helps her, and there is nothing derogatory in this work.
In such situations, a woman should be patient and not blame her husband for his idleness. It is also not worth scandals, especially in the presence of children. You need to understand that the crisis will surely pass, but the cracks that have arisen in the relationship are unlikely to be eliminated.
Become like-minded
If the husband cannot find work, what should the woman do? In such situations, spouses must become like-minded people. A man who wants to work and is trying to find a suitable job for himself, certainly needs help. As never before in such periods, spouses need an understanding of their soul mates.
A woman should understand that the search for a new job is not an easy task. Very often, submitted resumes remain unanswered, and interviews end to no avail. And if after another unsuccessful attempt the man falls into depression (and this is not at all surprising), then the woman should cheer him up and express confidence that he will succeed, and he will certainly achieve his goal.
As one of the first steps in this direction, a spouse can get a newspaper with job advertisements. And she should offer her husband to go looking for a job together. Often all these simple actions are very effective. Sometimes a person needs only a small push to start moving towards a new life.
In addition, if the husband does not find a job in any way, the wife should help him correctly and correctly draw up a resume. In cases where, in addition to the main specialty, he also has additional abilities and skills, this must be indicated necessarily. Most employers are satisfied with broad-based specialists. For example, in a CV for an electrician’s vacancy, installation skills for laying a network cable may be noted. Such experience may well become the main criterion for the selection of candidates. After all, there are quite a lot of electricians today, and those who have such experience are clearly not enough.
If the husband does not find a job in any way, then you can work together to search for it on specialized sites. Calmly and benevolently, a woman should tell her husband that he should not pay attention only to those vacancies that relate to his main profession. A family needs money, and there is nothing shameful about a lower qualification position.
You can help your husband find work by distributing this information among friends and acquaintances. This way, as a rule, allows you to quickly achieve your desired goal. Everyone knows that in our country there is a special resource, which is called "work on acquaintance."
Impact on the bummer
Sometimes a husband, left without a job, does not even try to start looking for her. At the same time, he does not want to do household chores. How to make a person who is quite happy with this order of things work?
Psychologists in this case recommend a woman to monopolize all the money she earns. They will need to be spent only on products and on the acquisition of the most necessary things for life. But do not deny anything to yourself and your child. But as for her husband, he does not need to give money even for cigarettes.
Psychologists also advise not to service the loafer. He should take care of himself only. In his presence, it is worth complaining that food has risen in price, and how difficult it is to provide for a family alone. If such measures prove to be ineffective, then the woman may present an ultimatum. Let the man decide whether he will look for work or the spouses will divorce. Sometimes the threat of losing a family forces lazy people to take certain actions to correct the situation.
Reading prayers
Believing women can turn to God or saints for help. How to help her husband find a job? Prayer addressed to one of the servants of the Lord is considered the most effective. Most often, wives who want their spouse to become a real breadwinner for the family turn to Matrona of Moscow - a blessed old woman who, even during her lifetime, met the requests of a huge number of needy and afflicted.
She helps people after her death. Prayer addressed to Matronushka is very effective for someone who really wants to find a reliable and quick job. The words of her text are as follows:
Blessed is our mother, Matron, help your servant of God (name) with holy prayers to find a job convenient for salvation and spiritual growth, so that he might be rich in God and not waste his soul in the worldly - vain and sinful.
Help him find a gracious employer who does not violate the commandments of God and does not force those who work under his supervision to work on Sundays and holy days. May the Lord God protect the servant of God (name) in the place of his labors from all evil and temptation, may this work to his salvation, benefit the Church and the Fatherland, to his parents for joy. Amen.
In any case, a woman should not give up. And then the husband will certainly find a new job, and all the difficulties will be forgotten.