Divorces, like weddings, are always different. Both marrying and parting have good reason to do just that, and not otherwise. It is generally accepted that people create a family for love, only because everyone understands this complex of feelings as this feeling. The passion, which sometimes encompasses two unfamiliar people, seems to be a serious enough reason to tie the bonds of Hymen, and when it passes, it often turns out that the chosen one (or the chosen one) has shortcomings, and even vices that you need to either put up with, or ... Human experience suggests that it’s almost impossible to remake an adult.
And yet, if an impartial mind dominated the creation of a family, then weddings would occur much less frequently. And divorces, probably, too. Although who knows ...
What reason for a wedding to be considered good
In fact, most marriages are settled by calculation from at least one of the parties. Not every passionate love ends in a wedding, for it needs a good reason. What is it and how to understand this, in general, legal term? For example, it can be a pregnancy, especially in the case when the unborn child is desired for both men and women. Before such an argument all possible problems, conflicts or dissimilarities of characters recede. What will happen next is unknown, but so far everything is very clear: there will be a child, and he needs a father. At least that's what decent men think.
Calculation and love
There are other good reasons for marriage . This, unfortunately, is also a material interest, a desire to settle down in life in such a way as to get the most comforts at the least cost. Not always this approach leads to happiness, but sometimes it brings satisfaction. Money can beautify a little life.
And, of course, the best option is when future spouses experience a combination of physical attraction and respect for each other and are able to become real friends. This is love.
And still…
No matter how optimistic the newlyweds are, the inexorable statistics in a rather crude form reminds us that couples often part (up to 70 cases out of a hundred). Article 34 of the Marriage and Family Code regulates this process, and more precisely, its second part, according to which the application of a wife or husband is enough to initiate a divorce process. It is clear that without good reason, a normal person will not do anything like this, and if he wrote a statement, then for good reason. Sore. And again, there is some reason for such an act. There are actually not so many of them.
Good Reasons For Divorce
There are ten of them, like commandments. People get divorced if:
- One of the spouses does not want or cannot become a father (or, accordingly, a mother).
- Husband or wife committed (or regularly commit) treason. It happens that jealousy suspicion is enough.
- One of the spouses is an addict or an alcoholic. In recent years, another misfortune has been added - gambling.
- There are problems of a material nature, the inability (most often of the husband) to provide for a family or lack of desire to work.
- Spouses live with the parents of one of them (if they are hostile to the second) in combination with the inability to live separately.
- There is a manifestation of violence. It can be physical (beatings) or moral (constant mockery and humiliation, often manifested in public).
- What is called "stop loving." Usually this situation arises due to a lack of awareness of the spouse’s shortcomings and their unexpected discovery (“So you turn out to be so!”).
- There is constant swearing, quarrels and squabbles. Such a few people withstand for a long time.
- It happens that a person is just bored, especially if it suddenly turns out that he is stupid, but smart, skillfully keeping silent, skillfully pretending to be a wedding.
- Suddenly surging new passion or awakened old. In general, the love that accidentally descended.
What prevents a divorce
It happens that marriage from the outside seems doomed. Spouses swear, fight, make third-party connections and still do many things described above. And still do not get divorced. So, to save the family, they have good reasons that are unknown to others. They are different, but, as a rule, any of them fits into one of the most common six schemes:
- Housing problems. Sometimes there is an apartment, but such that it is practically impossible to exchange it, but there is no money for the surcharge and is not expected.
- Habit. This thing is stronger than love. Men are especially prone to this, they get used to that when they get home from work, they get lunch, washed clothes. The apartment is cleaned, and if the behavior is satisfactory, then sex will break off at night, free and safe.
- For women, marriage is a status sign. It is believed that if she is not married, then no one needs it.
- Money again. If one of the spouses has them, they often play the role of a centripetal force.
- “So doubt makes us cowards ...” - the usual fear of the unknown keeps many in a hateful, but well-known circle of routine. Again, where is the guarantee that the new spouse will be better? And if vice versa?
- Fear of loneliness.
Children
This factor stands apart, any other good reason "nervously smoking aside" in comparison with such a seemingly small problem. It happens that it is the child who ultimately makes the parents reconcile, who seemed completely unsuitable to each other. Moreover, the love that the heir has for both father and mother "peacefully forces them to peace", and even to something more.
If this does not happen, then a divorce is inevitable. Unhealthy atmosphere, scandals, screaming, fights, scenes of jealousy in the family are more dangerous for the child's psyche than the simple absence of one of the parents. What other good reasons are needed?