In 2018, the movie "Temporary Difficulties" was released. The film told about a sick boy with cerebral palsy and his stern parent, who, wishing to raise his son as a strong, healthy person, treated him like an ordinary child, subjecting him to harsh criticism and upbringing.
Criticism and criticism
The audience’s opinion about the plot was the most controversial: some supported the father’s behavior, others condemned his rude attitude towards the sick boy. Harsh criticism and unquestioning behavior towards his son helped the boy become stronger, developed courage and determination in him, at the same time generated hateful feelings for a heartless parent.
Undoubtedly, reasonable criticism helps a person to realize his shortcomings and encourages him to move forward, but empty criticism and constant nit-picking aggravate self-esteem of the person, sow bitterness and emptiness in the soul.
Psychologists say that "special children" need the right attitude towards themselves. Excessive talk and concessions impede their development, make them helpless and unsuitable for independent living. Reasonable remarks, an objective assessment of actions and behavior will indicate to a person of any age his mistakes and mistakes.
Reasonable criticism
Do not forget that there are significant differences between criticism and criticism.
Criticism is an analysis of the positive and negative qualities or actions of a person, aimed at improving them, increasing a positive result. It can be taught in various forms and intonations, but it never bears negative, derogatory aspects.
Constructive criticism is wise advice, thanks to which a person understands how to achieve certain success in business. Criticism is direct and indirect. Encountering direct criticism, the subject receives an opinion directed personally at his actions, words, actions. In indirect criticism, a similar example is given in which the essence of a similar situation or person is expressed.
Disastrous words
Criticism is harsh criticism directed nowhere. She does not carry any positive aspects. A rude assessment and insults towards a person, nit-picking, ridicule, humiliation, emphasizing the personality’s shortcomings and weaknesses are criticism.
Criticism in the family
Unfortunately, all segments of the population are subject to harsh, inexorable criticism: the elderly, women, men, children. Most parents believe that criticism is the key to successfully raising a child. They mercilessly traumatize the psyche and self-esteem of the child, exposing him to offensive remarks, constant nit-picking and humiliation.
It harms the baby if this criticism is directed by parents at each other in his presence. When father and mother shout offensive words, find fault with each other, the whole world collapses in a child.
In the world of strong personalities and cold-blooded parents, there is an opinion that it is impossible to raise a good person with “calf tenderness”. From a kindergarten, their child understands that he is doing something wrong, that he is a sloven, careless, awkward, slow, too quiet or mumbled. A stream of endless nitpicking lays in the soul of a growing citizen insecurity in their own abilities, fear of developing and achieving something. Getting a bad mark, vulnerable excellent students are ready to jump from the bridge, leave home, just not to meet the stern look and contempt of a strict parent.
Wisdom and patience
Unfortunately, criticism is a disease of the century, every family is faced with it. Instead of support and understanding, wise hint and advice, native people are ready to destroy each other, disgrace, trample, fill with negativity. Maybe that's why so many unhappy people and pessimists grow up in every generation.
In a happy family, parents are full of not only love, but also patience for their offspring. If a “special child” is raised in a family, patience and wisdom are doubly necessary. Reasonable tactics and correct criticism will show the child not only his mistakes, but also tell you what to do in order to correct them or prevent them.
The unconditional acceptance of an imperfect personality gives an impetus to move forward, not being afraid to make mistakes in their actions. While empty criticism makes you sad, discouraged, degrades existing virtues and does not help to deal with shortcomings.
A child achieves great success in adulthood, regardless of their mental and physical abilities, if the parents have invested in it a solid foundation of faith in themselves and their abilities.
Differences of criticism
Parents should be clearly aware that picky criticism in raising a child affects the perception of the world and personality in a destructive way.
It has a number of significant differences:
- calm, friendly tone;
- emphasis on positive aspects;
- suggestions and suggestions to increase a positive result;
- assessment of actions not affecting the personal qualities of a person;
- The aim is to help, not to humiliate a person;
- creative, assists in further development;
- substantiates the opinion, indicating the strengths and weaknesses of the situation or detail in question.
Tough criticism acts differently:
- indicates flaws without giving clear explanations;
- humiliates and insults a person;
- contains signs of self-affirmation;
- shows the superiority of the parent over the child.
How does a critic behave?
- not able to listen, accept someone else's point of view, acts unconditionally;
- speaks in rude terms, uses intimidating moments;
- filled with picky little things;
- acts in a destructive way, prevents development.
Both children and adults are subject to criticism. Feeling the desire to resort to this tool, a person should be as careful as possible in order to help with words, and not harm.