They say that throughout history there are āeternalā questions. Far from the last place is taken, which has become, unfortunately, an almost rhetorical question of how to pull yourself together. It sounds in different situations, for different reasons. Is there an answer to it? Of course, but on condition that a person knows exactly why he needs it.
Let's look at a few situations in which the question sounds most often.
The first situation. How to pull yourself together so as not to say nonsense, not to offend the interlocutor or to give vent to your anger? Perhaps this is the most common, but relatively simple situation. You just need to practice a bit.
The first way. If you understand that thereās no more strength to listen to someoneās nonsense or insults, that your hand has already risen to strike, and you are ready to express everything you think about, take a deep breath. Very deep, so that stabbed under the sternum. Hold your breath for as long as possible, and then exhale very, very slowly. Know that the longer you exhale, the faster the anger and any other negative will go. Usually two or three exhalations, if you focus on them, are enough to pull yourself together.
The second way is even simpler. Just drink a glass of warm, very sweet water. Believe me, it helps, especially if you drink slowly
Finally, the third method is active. Never throw away unnecessary utensils or glass jars. They will come in handy at the moment when you want to kill someone. You pick up the old plate, with all your strength you launch it into the wall. Three or four plates, and you will forget to think about how to pull yourself together. Negative emotions will go away, and the mood will rise. Youāll even be funny.
The second situation. How to pull yourself together to stop being lazy and start to study (or work)? Here one can not do without a scientific approach and willpower. First you have to find a motive. Try to imagine your future without education, without a good salary. Talk to people of different professions, see how they live. Think about what is closer to you: life for 10 thousand a month or existence for a more worthy amount. Found a motive? Now select a workplace for yourself, set up a class schedule, and come up with a punishment-reward system. Did not do the planned? No walks, no communication with friends. Of course, this is difficult. Constant self-control will be required. But with a certain training and interest, everything can be achieved.
The third situation. How to pull yourself together and lose weight? The question is no less, and perhaps even more complicated than the previous one. Here we need iron will, which will have to be trained, very tough self-control.
We begin, as in the second situation, with the creation of motivation. You can put on your fridge your most unfortunate photo showing all the fats, all the extra folds. Very often this helps. Have a medical examination. Remember that among people who died in old age, there are no obese. They just die young.
We assume that the motive is found.
We compose a diet. Not a diet - it is of little use. Just competent, perfectly balanced mode. We try to stick to it.
Now we start a food diary. We note everything in it: what, when, what time they ate. In the morning of each next day, we conduct monitoring, check the results with a plan of proper nutrition, and correct errors.
Do not keep a lot of food in the refrigerator. I wanted to eat at night - they opened the refrigerator, and there it is empty. Goodnight!
Finally, we go in for sports. Or at least we walk. Believe me, the result will appear sooner or later. You are sure to lose weight. Sooner - if you control yourself. Late - if you give weakness.
You can theoretically answer the question of how to pull yourself together. But in practice this can only be done by the person himself, if he makes an effort.
Remember: the ability to control yourself is the key to a successful life. Good luck.