The transitional age in boys is a difficult crisis period. And not only for the children themselves, but also for their parents. Signs of a transitional age in boys are different, each has its own. Quite often, at this stage, adults and adolescents lose friendship and contact. Parents need to communicate with them more often, as they may miss one of the most important points in raising a child. If there are no adults near the boy in a very important period for him, then the teenager risks getting into bad company, which can result in addiction to alcohol, drugs and other unpleasant consequences.
General characteristics of adolescence and recommendations to parents
You must be able to hear your grown-up boy, empathize with his problems, help him mentally survive the difficulties. If parents know that they are right, you need to patiently explain to your child what his mistake is. Also try to make convincing factual arguments. So the child will quickly believe his loved ones. If parents had to criticize their son, then a serious argument must be made so that he understands. You can’t put pressure on a teenager, it’s better to just ask for help, because he will quickly make concessions to adults. Reproaches and humiliation very strongly affect the psyche of the boy, so you can not do this.
Compare your teenager with his friends is not worth it. After all, he is, first of all, a personality, individuality and does not have to be like other children. When parents communicate with their child, they should do it in a friendly tone, then he will trust them completely. Let the teenager control what he can do. Therefore, it is worth giving your child the independence that he needs so much. However, if you notice any changes in the behavior of the child (for example, his reaction to some things has become inadequate, he does not want to look into your eyes, etc.), then you need to think about this phenomenon very seriously. It is possible that there is a need to consult a narcologist. After all, it is during adolescence that you want to try everything forbidden, without thinking about the consequences. And as you know, they get used to drugs very quickly, but quitting this addiction without the help of a specialist is almost impossible.
A future man needs a father
When the boy’s transitional age begins, his father should be with him first. In order for a teenager to grow up as a worthy member of society, he needs to communicate with his dad as often as possible. The same, in turn, is obliged to set an example for his son. In adolescence, this communication is very important for a boy. If a teenager does not have a relationship with his father, then the child experiences psychological stress, an incomprehensible aggression, which he will try to throw out on his mother or other family members.
Therefore, the father must try to make it interesting for his son to communicate with him. At this age, a child needs a healthy lifestyle. To do this, organize sports for him, as well as monitor nutrition (it must be balanced). Then the child will understand that with this lifestyle there is no place for drugs and alcohol.
In some cases, a teenager may experience depression and carelessness. Studying at this age, as a rule, takes the last place. Psychologists say that the thinking of adolescents is becoming more developed, but they do not use it because it is more important for them to communicate with peers than with teachers.
Difficulties
The main problems of adolescence:
- a teenager believes that his rights are infringed, so he restores them due to quarrels and scandals with his parents;
- it seems to the child that they are being treated unfairly. As a result, he tries to prove that he is no longer small and can figure it out all by himself;
- love for him is now in the first place, and he does not need parents at all (as most teenagers think);
- thoughts of suicide quite often come to mind of adolescents. Therefore, parents need to do everything so that their child as soon as possible throws this idea out of their heads.
What is adolescence?
Mom and Dad remember how their son seemed to have recently reached out to them with his little hands, opened his toothless mouth, and today he has already become an almost adult man. What is adolescence? This is the period when the body begins to completely change physically and psychologically.
It was at this time that the boys reached maturity, although they were still children. The age of adulthood begins as early as 10 years, but each one ends differently, usually around 15-17 years.
Physiological signs
Let's look at the sexual characteristics of adolescence in boys:
- A thin voice turns into a coarser, more confident one, as many male hormones appear.
- The genitals are enlarged.
- It becomes more hair throughout the body, as well as on the face (beard and mustache).
- The muscles are increasing.
- The shoulders are getting wider.
- Spontaneous ejaculation occurs quite often at night;
- Acne and blackheads appear in the back and on the face. Over time, they will disappear on their own. Although doctors recommend treating them so that there are no scars and scars in the future.
This is how the sexual development of boys is manifested. During this period or a little later, adolescents can enter into the first sexual relationship. Therefore, it is necessary for an 11-year-old child to explain what contraceptives are and how to use them.
The behavior of a teenager, as well as character, changes dramatically. Many psychologists are sure that the characterization of adolescence is very complex. Some experts say the opposite. In their opinion, if you behave with your child as expected, to be his friend, then everything happens in an easy way. And if parents begin to patronize their teenager more strongly, then he can become stubborn and rude from an obedient and kind child. To argue with adults is becoming commonplace. Scientists have identified common signs of puberty in boys, but in each child this happens individually. Some earlier, others much later. The sexual development of boys can occur both very calmly and very violently, reflecting on the character. In any case, parents need to be vigilant and behave in accordance with the current situation.
Psychological signs
What are the psychological signs of adolescence in boys? These include the following:
- Teenagers are disposed to conflict situations, without rebellion they cannot imagine their existence.
- They react painfully to any situation, it seems to them that they have no friends, but their enemies surround them (including their parents).
- Teenagers underestimate self-esteem, and this makes them psychologically unbearable to live.
- The opinions of adults at this age are not considered at all, but peers are listened with pleasure.
- They react very sharply to criticism, aggression appears, from which everything around becomes bad.
- Learn exclusively from their mistakes.
- They are not afraid of suicide, they do not understand what kind of pain they bring to their families in their own words about the possibility of committing suicide.
- They are angry with their parents if they control them.
- They throw out all their negativity to others, stubbornly stubbornly. In addition, many children fight with adults not only with words, but also with the use of physical force.
- They want love, understanding and attention of parents. In dire need of help and moral support.
Tip
Each teenager has his own characteristics, both physiological and psychological. But you need to remember that they are still children. The age of 12-14 years is considered the most difficult and problematic, as the guys refuse to listen to any suggestions. By about the age of 17, they calm down and begin to perceive their significance in life. If the son does not have enough attention, love, care, then he takes it very painfully. He may have the confidence that he is indifferent to everyone. Therefore, parents are obliged to behave with the child in such a way that their child cannot doubt their love.
Mother help
The problems of puberty can be avoided, and mother should help her child in this in many ways, surrounded by love and care. The father, as a rule, does not babysit the child. Therefore, a child in his teens will not feel his affection and tenderness. Mom helps her son with love and support, because now he absolutely needs to feel needed. That is why parents need to be near their teenage child. Of course, one should be friends with him, but do not be afraid to be strict if necessary. It is impossible for a child, as they say, to "sit on his neck."
If a teenager has problems that he considers serious, then parents should be sensitive and understanding. You can not laugh at his problems or feelings, as this can lead to the development of complexes. Please note that when specialists describe the characteristics of the psychological and physical development of a teenager, they mean the general direction. Therefore, parents need to consider the individuality and character of their child.
Conclusion
Now you know the characteristics of adolescents, as well as what changes occur with him in the transition period. Be attentive to your children, surround them with love and care, and also respect their personality.