Here it is - happiness! Finally, He appeared on the horizon, your life partner, with whom you want to connect your life. Having fallen in love, as for the first time, you don’t notice that he is not so good, and most importantly - his family status! He is married!
And no need to be tormented by the question of why this happened to you. The reasons and circumstances are different, but the result is the same: you are the lover of a married man. Now think carefully and ask yourself the famous question: “To be or not to be?” Should I be a fallback?
And even if he says wonderful words of love, you should not believe unconditionally. Is he going to divorce his wife and tie his life with you? Look at the deeds. Otherwise, there is a risk of forever staying in second place.
Before you become a lover, ask yourself a few questions. Are you ready to be alone in the evenings, celebrate holidays without him, spend the weekend with yourself, content with the snippets that he gives you? Do you want to live “from parish to parish”? Adapting to his rhythm of life? After all, he should devote the main time to his family, which means that while you will spend evenings without him, your man will spend them in an atmosphere of comfort and domestic warmth.
Do not forget that the lover of a married man is for him primarily a kind of entertainment, diversity in life and sex. While for a woman, these are dreams of a bright future.
If you do not set marriage as your goal, such a role may well be suitable. Situations in which both a man and a woman are married and are lovers become frequent, that is, in this case, you are the married lover of a married man. You just have a good time together, and then return to the legal spouses.
Why is a married man a lover
It would seem that men are missing? A beautiful wife, children, an established life ... But there are reasons why spouses become unfaithful wives and go “to the left”.
- The pursuit of diversity. Men are polygamous in nature. If his marriage lasts 10-15 years, or even more, it is obvious that he lacks variety and sexual experiments, for which he goes to his mistress
- Dislike for the wife. Yes, there are men who do not love their wives, but who do not leave them. Why? The reasons can be very different. Children whom a man does not want to leave without a father are common property. An important role is played by the fear of changing something in one's life. Therefore, it is convenient for such a person to have two women: one for home, another for love. The lover of a married man in this case may not hope that someday he will leave his legal wife, because such a lifestyle is convenient for him.
If he has fallen in love with you so much that he wants to leave his wife, think again, will you be affected by the same situation when you are already in your wife's place? Remember the proverb: “You cannot build happiness on someone else’s misfortune.” Connect your life with your loved one only if you are fully confident in him and your feelings.
The love triangle is always very painful for all parties. But only you yourself can decide whether or not to be a lover.