Often from people around you (and sometimes from yourself) you can hear a phrase like: "I do not want to work," "infuriates work," "there is no joy from work." Perhaps the reason for the unwillingness to work is banal tiredness, or maybe the whole thing is laziness. It doesn’t matter at all. The only important thing is that, waking up in the morning, a man with horror imagines the coming day and is forced to literally persuade himself to go where he does not want to be. This situation repeats itself day after day, it seems that life goes completely pointless, past, and the end to this nightmare is not visible ... If this is about you, accept congratulations - half the population of planet Earth has encountered this problem! So why do people so often say to themselves (and others): “I do not want to work”? What to do with this problem? Today we will try to find the reasons for this reluctance. We offer and look for ways to resolve this difficult issue.
What is the reason?
Some psychologists say that a lack of desire to go to work is just a lack of motivation and an inappropriate field of activity for a particular person. Is this really so? If so, what to do with laziness? How to manage to direct all your energy to work that will bring not only joy, but also income?
The opinion of psychologists is as follows: the problem of exclusion from work begins in adolescence! Yes, remember only students who, during the next session, sighed deeply with the words: “I do not want to study, I want to work,” dreaming of the cherished day of graduation. And now this day has come, a former student found a job that brings financial independence, but still something is wrong. New complaints appear: “I don’t want to work - for my uncle, from paycheck to paycheck, for a penny, with people” (underline what is necessary). Usually it ends with a crown: “In general, I never want to do anything anywhere!” and, of course, either dismissal or a nervous breakdown. The question arises: are all people literally forced to eke out a miserable existence in a place that does not cause them positive emotions, or are they all in eternal search? To find a way out of this situation, it is important to understand why work no longer brings joy. The main reasons, of course, lie on the surface. Let's consider them in more detail:
- The most common reason is an incorrectly chosen profession. The fact is that it is extremely difficult for a graduate of a school at the age of 17 to understand what future he wants to secure for himself. Therefore, the choice of a university is usually carried out according to criteria such as the prestige of the profession and the opinion of parents and the public. The result is quite predictable - work in a randomly chosen specialty becomes real hard labor.
- Another common case is an activity that you like, but is characterized by a lack of career growth or a lack of knowledge. You have to regularly ask for help from more experienced colleagues, turn to the manual. In addition, the lack of career growth leads to the fact that in such a place a person is bored, so he does not want to work.
- Often complaints can be heard from people who are bored with their occupation. It would seem that a good company, a pleasant team, and the salary suits, but every trip to work causes disgust and unwillingness to develop in this area.
As you already understood, it is possible to list the reasons why a person does not want to work. Low wages, hostile relationships in the team, lack of interest in work - these are just a small part of the explanations that can justify the desire to quit. However, no one has succeeded in living according to the principle “I want money, but I do not want to do anything”. In order to earn something, you need to make some effort. And if the reason has already been found, it remains to solve the problem.
Motivation or new job?
If the reason explaining why you do not want to work is laziness, you should find motivation (we will talk more about this a bit later). In addition, there are various techniques that help to work almost without fatigue. One of these systems is called Pomodoro. You need to perform only five steps:
- First you need to determine the task, work on which you need to do.
- The next step is to set the timer for 25 minutes.
- Next is work without distractions.
- After 25 minutes, you need to take a 5-minute break. This is mandatory, even if you feel that you can simply continue working.
- The final step is to return to step 1 or 2.
Once you have "eaten" 4 "tomatoes", you need to take a long break in work - for 15-20 minutes. If during the work you are distracted by something (for example, you open a video with cats), the tomato “burns”, you need to start a new timer. At the end of the day, the number of tomatoes should be counted.
Why is this system so powerful? Psychologists and time management experts say: the whole secret is that a person rests in advance, before he really gets tired. For this reason, it is recommended to be distracted as much as possible in a 5-minute break. A long break is suitable even for a short sleep. You can replace sleep with a walk.
If the reason you don’t want to work is because of the low pay, try looking for a new place! We will talk about what is important to consider when looking for a new job below.
8 ways to motivate yourself
In almost any field of activity, the result of work and its quality depend on the ability to organize yourself. And behind every business, of course, is the goal and Mrs. Motivation. Without this couple, there would be no Olympics, gadgets from Apple and the Nobel Prize. So how do you motivate yourself so that the thought “I never want to work at all” does not even visit your head? We know the answer!
- Set a goal. It can be any: material or moral, external or internal. The main thing is a clear wording. Psychologists recommend thinking globally. I don’t “want to be the best lawyer in this department” or “I want to get a couple of interesting orders.” Goosebumps should run from a desire to achieve a goal: for example, this could be the foundation of your own company, which will have at least a thousand employees.
- Search for an example to follow. Pay attention to those who have succeeded. It is likely that these people were once tormented by the question: “I do not want to work, what should I do?” Try to look at them without envy, analyze what is the secret of their success. You can even make a list of those you want to be like. And don't be shy about big names: your list may include Warren Buffett, Bill Gates, Oprah Winfrey and Elon Musk. Try to determine the unique abilities of these people, pay attention to how they achieve their goals, solve problems.
- Installation on growth. This concept is often used by psychologists. What does it mean? Everything is simple: treat any task set before you as an opportunity to learn something or improve your skill.
- Call for help social networks. Subscribe to those people whom you consider to be true professionals. So, if you dream of a career as a journalist, add yourself the leading Russian and world publications. Join the community for photographers, designers. It is worth noting that almost all social networks today work on the principle of “smart news feeds”. Therefore, you will always be aware of what is interesting to you.
- Not a problem, but a challenge. Of course, difficulties can unsettle you, and therefore do not want to work. But try to relate to the difficult work with a positive. Cheer yourself, feel free to praise! Break the complex work into stages - this will help maintain efficiency. It is much easier to complete several small tasks than one huge one.
- Reward. Sometimes a moment comes when there is simply no strength. I want to lie down and do nothing. How to cope with this condition? Promise yourself a reward! Firstly, we must not forget about the positive feedback from the customer. A high score, psychologists say, is able to charge and motivate the most. Another good way to set yourself up for work is to reward yourself on the weekend. Spend the day at home or enjoy something that brings you pleasure.
- Belief in one's own strength. When the obsessive thought “I don’t want to work at all, what to do?” Appears, healthy egoism can help ! When you do not have enough experience or business acumen, think about your achievements! This will help you overcome the inner barrier.
- Focus is on work. When you edit working documents, work on creating a business plan, think only about what you are doing. A few simple ways will help to concentrate. First, you need to ask yourself the question: “Why am I doing this?” Secondly, psychologists recommend using the visualization technique. Just imagine that you have already completed the task. Imagine exactly how the finished work looks.
If you don’t want to work at all
What about a person who, like a mantra, repeats the words: “I do not want to work at all ...”? What to do? Psychologists are trying to explain to him that the concept of "I do not want to do anything, give me a slave" is extremely utopian. Nothing in the world comes easily, and therefore you will have to fight for a place under the sun. What steps can be taken? Let's talk about this in more detail!
Revenue calculation
First of all, you need to decide on your spending. This is necessary in order to understand how long you will have enough of the funds that you already have. Will there be enough finance for the rest of my life? And before the end of the year? Not? Drive out your laziness and start working!
Work without days off
If the answer to the question of why you don’t want to work is connected with the absence of days off, immediately go to the management. The fact is that working without days off is harmful not only for health. The quality of the tasks performed is reduced, efficiency is lost, and therefore a person can make mistakes in his work that will lead to serious consequences.
Tired of working in the office: what to do?
If you don’t want to go to work at the office every day, try to find a job that will allow you to work right from home! There are many remote work options on job sites. Another solution to this problem is a dialogue with the boss. Try to find a compromise, because losing a job is much easier than finding a decent alternative. Offer management the option of alternating between fixed and remote work.
Don't want to work for uncle
What to do when there is no desire to work for leadership? The answer is simple: achieve success in your field and become a leader yourself! To do this, you need to show your best side, to establish relationships with superiors and colleagues. If this does not suit you, the thought “I don’t want to work for my uncle, but don’t know what to do” visits you, try to organize your own business. Of course, this will require a lot of strength, perseverance and time, but the game is worth the candle! Be patient, enlist the support of your family - and go for it.
No desire to work in a specialty
What to do if the specialty is no longer liked or initially did not bring satisfaction? You can learn another profession. By the way, it is not necessary to get a second higher education! Today you can find a huge number of trainings, courses that you can take without leaving your home! Another option is to find a job not in the specialty. Often you can meet people who have a diploma that does not correspond to the place where they work.
Dismissal: where to start?
When a person asks: “I do not want to work - what should I do?”, The help of a psychologist will be very helpful. The first thing to do is to evaluate your real capabilities. Think carefully about what exactly you want to change your work for. Do not forget - a new activity can be much worse than what you have! Be sure to prepare a financial “pillow”. After all, when you leave work, you (and possibly your family) will need to live on something. Of course, the best option is to prepare for a change of work long before dismissal.
By the way, psychologists recommend starting with trying not to quit, but just going on a long vacation. A change of scenery will make it clear whether you will miss your work and colleagues. It is likely that you have earned money and are too tired, and therefore thoughts appear in your head like this: “I do not want to work ... What should I do?” Without the help of specialists, you can understand that you are determined to quit. Then vacation can be dedicated to finding a new job! If you belong to the category of people who are not interested in any job, and the best thing is relaxation, entertainment and sleep, only the sponsor will help you. Find a person who can provide you, and enjoy life!
Whatever option you choose, do not forget: labor is physical and spiritual development. And work is a source of income and a way to realize the abilities that were given at birth. Find yourself a field of activity that will bring joy, and you will not work a single day!