What is sex education? At what age should conversations with children on a "secret and shameful" topic begin? And how much does it cost to delve into this topic?
It is a deeply erroneous opinion that the sexual education of young children is only the right toys and clothes. That is, boys should never be allowed to play with dolls and toy dishes, and girls, cars, machine guns and boxing gloves are contraindicated . Although this, of course, is of no small importance in order to set the formation of a growing personality in the right direction.
However, do not worry if the boy begins to play the dishes or tries to sew a new outfit for the doll - the men were considered the best tailors and cooks from ancient times. Therefore, you do not need to scold or scoff at his offspring in this case.
Another question is if the boy, playing, tries to breastfeed the doll. This moment should already alert adults. Sex education, which, certainly, takes its roots in deep childhood, should first of all relate to the internal orientation of a person to his future role in the family: father or mother. A child from the age of two is quite capable of associating himself with his father or mother, repeating behind them in the game their behavioral stereotype. It’s great if the family has a climate of goodwill, mutual assistance and understanding.
And what is wrong with the baby climbing to help mom wash the dishes - many good fathers do not shun such a labor! Another thing is bad: when a father rudely jerks his little son: "What, are you a woman, wielding a rag in a sink?" Repeating subsequently my father’s words, an adult man will despise women's work, will never help his mother and wife, will become rude and callous. And it seems that the father was right, he paid attention to his son, gave an explanation of what men should do and what women should do. However, such sex education is more likely to cause harm to the child's psyche, rather than benefit.
But it is even more difficult to properly educate the future man in an incomplete family, where only women are around him, and there is no real male example. Sex education in such families he is completely leaning on women's shoulders. Of course, they try to present the basic information in these families to the baby through literature, films, performances, role-playing games. Later, the school comes to the rescue. And it’s wonderful if in a children's educational institution a boy meets a good teacher - a man who can set him an example of a real man - a family man!
Since ancient times, sexual education has been considered the second important issue in sex education. But sex should not be replaced by sexual education: the first is only part of the second. Although it is impossible to hide from him under false modesty or pretense indifference, telling a fairy tale to an interested child about where the children come from.
Of course, it is foolish for a young child to explain in detail how men have sex with women, how conception occurs with all physiological details. But here to answer the baby the question so that it becomes clear to him, it is quite possible.
The baby in her tummy is carrying an aunt. It can be difficult, even painful, but she loves her future baby very much, therefore she is happy to endure all this. And it was not easy for your mother to bear you, but she really, really loved you then, and still loves you! When the baby in the mother’s tummy grows to the desired size, they take it out in the hospital and the aunt feeds it with milk. Usually this is enough for the child. This version lays in the soul of the baby, whether it be a girl or a boy, respect, love for a woman-mother.
Later, more often by the age of 6–7, children begin to be interested in another question: how do children get into their mother’s tummy? Usually at this age, children are already starting to go to school. Therefore, the last question is not that the sexual education of schoolchildren should be started not in the 9th grade, but much earlier - starting from the first grade.
You can invite a medical worker or psychologist to the class, you can conduct a conversation separately for boys and for girls. But it is extremely important to conduct such classes at the proper level. Otherwise, our children will learn about the most tender and pleasant intimate side of life from rather dubious sources that can teach them all this in a dirty, nasty, perverted light.