Not everyone has the upbringing and tact to part with dignity, to leave someone’s life, not slamming the door and inheriting loudly, but leaving behind cleanliness, order and bright memories. And sometimes there is not enough courage to talk with a once beloved person face to face, because in this case you can write a letter to a friend who will dot all the i. Of course, this is not the best way out and not the most worthy way to say goodbye, but sometimes there are no other options.
What should a farewell letter look like to a friend? A variety of hearts and flowers will not be appropriate here, drops of tears and blood inscriptions will also look pathetic and stupid. Although each has its own communication style and manner of separation. A letter to a friend you will not see again should be concise, bright and honest. There should not be insults, humiliations, all kinds of filth in it. For all this, it will subsequently be embarrassing and will want to change everything. A letter to that and a letter that you can think it over, weigh it, pick up beautiful words.
Now two options for farewell letters should be discussed. In the first case, you are the victim. For example, you were offended, humiliated, cheated on you, betrayed, trampled, and you want to break off your relationship, but explaining how painful and bad you are. The second option is much more complicated: the victim is not you. You will have to explain why you are leaving your loved one. And you will have to do this as correctly as possible, while not leaving hope, giving no chance of a revival of relations, otherwise it will be vile on your part.
In the first case, a letter to a friend who turned out to be a traitor should not seem pathetic. Do not shed tears, arrange emotional striptease and turn the soul inside out. Most likely, they will just laugh at you again. It is necessary to clearly, precisely, calmly, with a considerable share of sarcasm, explain to the person that he is no longer interesting to you and that you would like to quietly and peacefully end all relations. Do not enter into any skirmishes and correspondence, this will not lead to anything good. You can simply write it on paper and transmit it personally, rather than send it to social networks, you can put it under the Christmas tree a la “New Year’s letter to a friend who has no place in my life,” or you can send a letter by mail. It is better to contact the addressee officially (for example, Sergey, Katerina, Olga), do not use diminutive names and do not stoop to insults. A few sentences are enough to never bother you again.
In the second case, you need to carefully prepare. After all, it is you who will act as an apostate. You will need to try to smooth out the pain experienced by the friend who received this letter. It should be noted and noted that throwing someone through letters or correspondence is somehow low, so it will be great if you still get the courage and talk to the person in person. If courage is not your thing, then you can limit yourself to writing. A former friend, reading your message, should not earn additional complexes and phobias, so it would be nice to explain to him that he is a wonderful person, and it’s you who are responsible for the breakup, because “...” (various arguments may follow).
You can, of course, turn to the experience of the classics: read Marquez, Zweig, Pushkin, Yesenin, and many other writers who raised the topic of a farewell letter. This will help you tune in to the wave of separation, to understand that you are not alone in this world, that other people, including talented writers, famous actors, rock musicians and athletes, have passed through this difficult life stage. Parting is always loss, loss, it is tears and pain, but there, beyond the horizon, a new life is already looming, full of new acquaintances and adventures. A letter to a friend, even a former one, should be just a ferry that will take you from one side of life to another. Do not be afraid to burn bridges, do not turn back, because life is so beautiful if you feel in your soul that you are doing the right thing.