Hearing about gentle confessions of love to a man, most conservative women of all ages are perplexed. Many believe that recognition is a masculine affair. And it is a man who must confess his feelings, invite him to date, offer his hand and heart, and so on. And if the relationship is already stable, then a declaration of love is not required at all. The presence of feelings is already clear to the beloved man, because it is obvious and is expressed in the fact that the woman takes care of the family, leads the house, takes care of him and his things.
Although folk wisdom says that a woman loves with her ears, the stronger sex loves compliments and kind words no less. Declarations of love have one important quality that makes them necessary for couples. Declaration of love for a man is able to refresh the relationship, to restore the spice in them much more effectively than any exotic dish or change of image.
When may recognition be required?
Oddly enough this sounds, but there are life situations in which it is necessary to admit one’s own feelings. This need can arise at any stage of building relationships, moreover, the time spoken gentle words often determine their further development.
Each woman herself knows exactly when and what to say to her partner. But there are, so to speak, “general” recommendations from psychologists that determine the need for female recognition.
Declaration of love for a man may be required:
- in the event that the chosen one does not perceive the woman as an object for passion;
- then, when the representative of the stronger sex seems to be interested, but does not make attempts to rapprochement;
- in a situation in which a girl seeks to get the attention of a famous person;
- if you want to push for marriage;
- to bring freshness to the relationship.
These are the main life situations in which the activity of the weaker sex is required.
Some psychologists advise to make a declaration of love when suspected of treason. To a beloved man, to tears, he should feel good from the words he has heard, even if the person is not sentimental. Such confessions must look like an impromptu, a rush of feelings, but, of course, all words should be thought out and rehearsed in advance.
Are there any rules for recognition?
Of course, the best option is a heartfelt, touching and sincere declaration of love. Beloved man in his own words needs to talk about the feelings experienced. But this does not mean at all that the monologue does not have certain rules.
Speech should not be tightened. Even the most soulful words that sound for half an hour cause irritation or a desire to fall asleep.
A man must be addressed by name. The text should not resemble a memorized paragraph from a book. Words need to be used simple and intelligible, without floridity and claim to originality.
Do not "mumble." Speech in recognition flows like a stream. Diction is very important. As a "study guide" you can view any melodrama.
Recognition must have a clear logical structure:
The tie should arouse interest in the man and draw his attention to what the woman says. No need, as they say, to “reinvent the wheel”, any simple question is enough. What this question will be about depends on what kind of relationship people are in. If the couple has already taken place, you can start the recognition with the words - “Do you remember?”. It is impossible to specify what exactly should be remembered; there must be intrigue in good recognition. A man should be interested, strain his brain and memory, no need to give a ready-made solution "on a silver platter."
The content is about something. In this part, lyrical digressions, comparisons, epithets are permissible. You can tell the chosen one about his merits, this is the best content for a declaration of love. But in this part of the monologue, the word “love” should be avoided. Content should only lead to it.
The conclusion is, in fact, the very phrase "I love you." With a well-constructed monologue, it is said aloud, figuratively speaking, “slamming shut” like a trap, leaving the chosen one no chance but to react with an equally violent manifestation of feelings.
How to confess to an indifferent man?
A situation in which a woman has unrequited feelings for a long-familiar person is not uncommon. This may be a neighbor, classmate, work colleague or someone with whom the girl often encounters, but the man either does not notice her or is friendly.
This is explained not at all by the fact that a woman is “not in the taste” of her chosen one, but by the peculiarities of male perception. The representative of the weaker sex, which has long and constantly nearby, in the field of visibility, is not perceived by the brain of a man as a “hunting object”. Simply put, a woman does not see a woman. He sees a colleague, just a man, a companion for a smoke break, anyone, but not a woman.
Often struggling with this change in appearance. For example, they change their hairstyle, take off their jeans and start wearing dresses. This is a good and reasonable move, but it may not give the result that a woman seeks.
Declaration of love for a man is much better. It, unlike clothes and hair, will be heard only by one person, that is, it will initially create intimacy. Of course, words must be spoken on time. If you are in a hurry at work, you do not need to invite the chosen one into the smoking room and talk about your feelings. The best time and place is corporate. But only if the man did not drink too much.
Friend Recognition Option
The very recognition of a long-familiar person should be easy and simply informing. Stormy passions at this stage are not appropriate, they will only frighten away the chosen one. A man needs time to understand and comprehend what he has heard.
Recognition Example:
“What do you think, (name), have we known for a very long time?” I’m looking at you now and I understand that there’s simply no other person like you. Smart, beautiful, talented ... You know, (name), you are so ... reliable that even your heart sets. I love you, (name) "
Recognition should not contain future tense. The phrases “achieve success”, “you will be a better father” or other similar statements are not acceptable. They betray that a woman makes plans for the future. At the moment of attracting the attention of a man, this repels.
What can I say to a not very determined man?
In a situation where a man needs a declaration of love, in his own words and actions, showing interest, but not making attempts to get closer, coquetry and playfulness should be shown.
After all, it is not known why a person does not dare to get closer and start a relationship. The reasons can be very different, from the reluctance to burden yourself or accept responsibility to the simple lack of free cash even for flowers. Unfortunately, this often happens due to loan obligations. Outwardly looking, men who are safe can have no money even for a cup of coffee.
Words and manner of pronunciation should convince the chosen one that next to this particular woman he is not in danger, even expenses.
Variant of recognition to the apprehensive
The following words can be an example of such recognition:
“Oh (it’s advisable to slip in this place or somehow provoke help to get help, you don’t need to thank for it), but you know (name), I went to the cinema yesterday (I need to mention a place interesting to a man), and everything I saw as if passed by ... but do you know why? I was thinking about you all, I still love you, (name). ”
The pronunciation is humorous, flirtatious. At the end of the monologue, you can quickly kiss a person, but not predatory. The chosen one should not feel that he is "driven into a corner", on the contrary, after a correctly made confession, the man experiences inspiration and confidence.
Do you always need to talk?
Said aloud, accompanied by a look in the eyes, a declaration of love to a man to tears can bring even the most "pachyderm" pragmatist, but not written on paper.
Writing at the initial stage, when there is still no relationship at all, is completely unacceptable for people who are not interested. It will not change the perception of a woman by a man. Moreover, a letter is an occasion, a chance to respond with a refusal to feelings. The best example of such a situation is described by Pushkin in Eugene Onegin.
But this does not mean that letters are not needed. In all other cases, except the above, writing is a great option to inform about your feelings.
When do I need to write letters?
You need to write about love in three situations:
- with “tongue-tied”, this does not need to be understood as an anatomical defect, many girls are so worried that they experience problems with speech;
- when the "object of passion" is not available for direct appeal;
- if you have absolute inner confidence that you need to do just that.
In addition, it is necessary to write about feelings for those who are in an established relationship, and not only in “Valentines”. A small note about feelings embedded in a jacket pocket or laptop bag almost always spills out into an evening bouquet of flowers and a night full of love.
How to write?
A letter containing a declaration of love to a man must comply with the following rules:
- unusual design is a very important point;
- the text should fit on one sheet;
- handwriting should choose a clear and understandable, without "curls";
- Signature and phone number required, if there is no relationship;
- only handwriting, "printed letters" are not good.
Making a letter is a way to show your attitude to the addressee. Everything matters - the type and quality of paper, the envelope, the color, the presence of perfumes. There is no need to take a sheet of paper for the printer and write down phrases on it, this indicates not much respect for the addressee and little interest in him.
The text itself should not be short, if this is not a playful note to the husband from the wife, of course. It should not be long either. The logic of construction is similar to verbal recognition.
How to confess verses?
Before resorting to rhyming strings, you should weigh the pros and cons. Not every person at the initial stage of relations, that is, when they are still completely absent, is able to respond normally to poetry. A man’s declaration of love should evoke a reciprocal feeling, and not demonstrate to the chosen one the “subtle poetic nature” of a woman or her degree of well-readness.
With quotes from famous poets, one can either put a man in an awkward position or create in his head the thought of excessive exaltation, that is, actual unsuitability for the role of a wife.
Poems are only relevant with an accurate knowledge of how a man will react to them.
Confessing love to a person, one should not forget that the main thing in words is their sincerity. No need to use ready-made templates or quote excerpts from books. No writer can express the fullness of feelings for a man better than a woman in love with him.