Going down the aisle, the couple swear to remain faithful to each other. The Christian religion is very categorical, reckoning adultery to mortal sins. However, the forbidden fruit is even sweeter. There are few men who have not cheated on their spouses at least once. However, if you recall how many jokes are devoted to the situation "the husband is returning from a business trip ...", it immediately becomes clear that the ladies are in no way inferior to them in this.
Unfortunately, loyalty seems to many couples a burden completely unbearable. “Life is too long to be limited to only one love,” one of the great ones remarked very accurately. Today we’ll try to look at treason from an optimistic point of view and look for positive aspects in this situation.
Oddly enough this sounds, its advantages are even here. Experienced ladies' lovers joke that a good “leftist” strengthens marriage. With respect to the stronger sex this is 100% true. Men rarely confuse sex and relationships. Nothing prevents them from lovingly loving a woman and passionately wanting her friend. Moreover, the satisfaction of desires on the side often gives new colors to their life with a constant partner.
I note that this is not about promiscuous sexual relations, almost in front of the second half. (In this case, there is disrespect and neglect of a loved one). However, betrayal can take place, for example, on vacation. The wife is unlikely to be aware of such an affair, which means that her self-esteem will not suffer in any way. And the strong half will gain additional confidence in their irresistibility and masculinity.
Men, for whom sexual relations on the side serve as a kind of doping, are not so few. And, strangely enough, cheating helps them live before a golden wedding with one woman.
Now let's talk about another situation, which is also not uncommon. Spouses over the years made a cozy nest, got used to each other. They are comfortable living in the same territory, but both believe that sex does not play a special role in the relationship between husband and wife. You will be surprised, but there are a lot of such families (I personally know at least four pairs). At the same time, spouses can even agree that they satisfy their needs on the side. You can object that marriage without love has no right to exist, and you will be wrong. Any relationship model is good if it makes both happy.
Psychologists believe that for women, sexual relations on the side are much more dangerous than for men. It is difficult to argue that ladies are emotional creatures and live with feelings. But many modern women see nothing wrong with sex for the sake of satisfaction. There is not even any talk of love or affection. However, interest on the part of representatives of the opposite sex for a lady is always an incentive to self-improvement. Moreover, a woman’s confidence in her own attractiveness always makes the sexual relationship in a couple more vivid.
To top it off, I would like to touch on the following topic: sexual relations on the side as revenge for betraying a partner. Caught in a difficult life situation, many people do not know what to do. On the one hand, one does not want to destroy the family due to the campaign of the second half “to the left”. On the other hand, there is no strength to forgive. Often knowledgeable people are advised to answer the husband or wife the same, and the question will be resolved immediately.
Of course, this method does not help everyone. Much depends on the nature of the offended side. But people who believe that the betrayal of a partner gives them the right to go "to the left" is also not enough. In this case, the spouses, exchanging "courtesies", continue to coexist, as if nothing had happened. Moreover, putting themselves in the place of another person, they begin to better understand the motives of his behavior. But do not forget that the "case of revenge" must remain purely personal. This secret should not be shared with anyone.