Many noticed that schoolgirls in the middle classes look older than their peers. Parents of boys especially often pay attention to this - some take it calmly, while others begin to worry: but does my child have a delay in sexual development? Suspicion is increasing every day: now all the son’s friends seem taller and more courageous, the girlfriends are really real girls, and their own bloodlet is still the same little kid that was a year and two ago.
There is no reason to worry - each vegetable has its own term! The fact is that puberty of boys “starts” a couple of years later than their girlfriends, and at the same time does not have a clear time frame. The first signs of sexual adulthood can be found in a young man at the age of 12 and 13, but even the onset of puberty (puberty) at 15 is in no way a deviation. Firstly, it is difficult to observe this process from the outside, since the boys during this period become terribly shy and secretive, and are not at all eager to show their parents the changes that occur in their bodies. Secondly, the position of an outside observer is far from the most correct, because the adolescent himself is very worried about whether everything is going with him as it should, and perhaps needs advice or at least encouragement. So it is very important to establish trusting relationships with your son ahead of time and be ready at any time to show good knowledge and possession of such a “subject” not from the school curriculum as boys' sex education.
As a rule, dad should remember how and how it started. First, the testicles and scrotum slightly increase in size, then the penis begins to “catch up” with them, and the first hairs grow on the pubis and armpits. Perhaps at this moment your guy’s desk will have a ruler that has rarely left the darkness of a drawer or briefcase, and there’s nothing strange or terrible about it. Although to him, and to you - all the more, these measurements will not give anything, since men do not have an organ with more individual characteristics than the penis. If you hint at this to your son in passing, perhaps this will save him from the unnecessary worries that accompany the puberty of the boys.
The modern information space and the "savvy" of the younger generation saves parents from explaining concepts such as erection or masturbation. But if you take one of the conversations with your son to such a phenomenon as pollutions (the first nocturnal ejaculation), it will not be superfluous. Since it is impossible to predict when this will happen, it is better to talk about pollutions earlier - at the age of 10-11. Let it be a straightforward, easy story in general terms: there is, they say, such a stage in the life of every man, he will happen to you too, treat him calmly - this means that you are growing up. Generally, less terms, detail! It is useful for you to read the medical encyclopedia, but it is not at all necessary to literally retell it to your offspring. It is enough for him if you briefly describe to him what puberty in men is. It is important to put the main idea into his ears: this is the case for everyone, it will be the same for him, but it does not matter a year earlier or a year later. Let him perceive his growing up as a natural process, and not try to accelerate it.
A good help in this matter is the fact that the puberty of boys is by no means limited to “below the waist”. At the same time, bones and muscles are actively growing, muscles are more clearly distinguished, facial hair appears, and the voice “breaks”. The boy gradually becomes a young man, a man. In communicating with him, do not separate one change from another, do not “go in cycles” on one thing. Speaking of shaving, touch on the topic of genital hygiene. Noting how he matured, talk about relationships with girls. No need to force - tell about contraception next time. Do not demonize masturbation, but you can make it clear that excitement is also removed well by playing sports. In general, show both ingenuity and tact.
Summarizing, we can put forward the thesis that has the right to life that puberty of boys is much easier psychologically, both for the son and for parents, if there is a good trusting relationship between them.