Life offers a person various tasks, the solution of which sometimes requires serious efforts. Dealing with difficulties alone can be difficult, and sometimes simply unbearable. In such situations, people usually think of relatives and friends.
Friend help
The phrase about the shoulder presented to a friend is firmly rooted in the mind. In the process of building close relationships, this is probably the central concept. A friend who helps, provides support in a difficult situation, is considered real. What is his shoulder? Friendly support is a point on which a person can lean in difficult times, having felt that there is a person nearby who cares, who will not judge, will not offend and will not humiliate.
Friends make life fuller, allow one to enjoy life, and even in the most difficult situations not to experience feelings of loneliness and doom. They can be called soul mates, who will always understand and support, even if a person is not right, they will help to correct mistakes.
What is the support expressed?
"Shoulder" can be expressed in words, spending time together, just attention and advice. Some expect financial help from friends, but the intervention of money often complicates friendships. If possible, a friend will help, but do not ask him to do this to the detriment of his own interests. Friendship is built on sincerity, kinship of souls and mutual acceptance of people, and not on selfish motives, so you need to try to keep it clean.
By and large, any relationship is work, only with all your heart working on it, you can have a real friend nearby, who can substitute his shoulder in a difficult moment.
Measure in everything
But this is not a vest in which you can cry for every trifle, simply throwing accumulated negative emotions and problems on a friend. When looking for a friendly shoulder, it is necessary to remember that this is an invasion of a person’s personal space, restoration of energy at the expense of this person. For this reason, you should not resort to the help of a friend too often, you need to respect and protect people who are able to provide support and substitute the shoulder. Along with problems with friends, you need to share joy.
The problems that arise, a person should solve independently, as far as possible, try to educate his character, learning life lessons. To substitute a shoulder for a friend means to show kindness to the neighbor by investing your time, attention and efforts. At the same time, it will be useful to remember that a person also has its own problems. Only mutual care and support will allow both to always have a shoulder set up by the other.