What are weddings like? If you ask such a question, then not every host will be able to answer it correctly. Usually remember wooden, silver and gold.
Meanwhile, there are many more weddings. There are a hundred of such dates, and each of them has its own traditions, foundations, rituals, etiquette of congratulations and even a restriction in the types of gifts.
Congratulations on a china wedding is, first of all, a tribute to the whole twenty years that people have lived together. However, although the date is serious, this does not mean at all that it should be celebrated stiffly and decently. Rather, on the contrary, this particular anniversary has the least stringent restrictions and is the most fun of all existing wedding dates.
What is this date?
The past years clearly indicate all existing postcards and souvenirs representing congratulations on a porcelain wedding - 20 years. It is this date of the duration of life together that is associated with the fragile, beautiful and expensive material from which dishes, home decor items and many pleasant little things to the heart that create coziness are made.
Where did the name come from?
Traditions to celebrate the dates of life lived by spouses under one roof did not originate yesterday. The roots of this phenomenon are in the early Middle Ages and are associated with the fact that families were able to endure wars, epidemics and other misfortunes and live another year, or five years, or a dozen. It is this that explains and in some way strange names for today, which determine the essence of the choice of gifts for spouses. For example, the first year is a cotton, or cotton, wedding, the second is paper, the third is leather, and so on.
Indeed, after the first year lived together, the spouses in the distant times most needed fabric, because the first-born had already appeared, and the wife's dowry was somewhat worn out. People only learned to conduct their own household.
Congratulations on the day of the porcelain wedding involved gifts from porcelain, as in the distant past this material spoke about the prosperity and well-being of the family. The fragility of feelings or other interpretations and associations inherent in our days, related to the fact that marriage can break from an awkward movement and must be protected like a porcelain cup, were not relevant in the Middle Ages.
What is the meaning of the name?
Porcelain was equally expensive and status material in every European house - both in the peasant and the royal. Porcelain ware at the time of the establishment of traditions associated with weddings celebrations got only on special occasions and passed on by inheritance, like family cutlery. There was no question of any romantic evening tea parties in those days. The traditions of cozy family evenings with a beautiful cup of tea were born only at the end of the 16th century and among people involved in trade - merchants, bankers, guards of caravans.
The meaning of the name of the date is that the first-born just in these years already created their own families, household troubles and troubles were left behind, the household was already debugged, that is, there came a time when the couple could breathe freely and allow themselves much more.
That is, status gifts were needed, not supplies, but something that could become a matter of pride and inherit for future generations. Historically, on the threshold of the twentieth anniversary of their porcelain.
Traditions of this anniversary
Although the jubilee has a lot of traditions, these days they are not particularly relevant. Probably only one of them is important for a modern person - congratulations on a china wedding should be accompanied by a gift from this material.
If we recall what was once accepted in connection with this date, then the holiday began, like any others, with preparation for it. On the eve of the anniversary, it was necessary to get rid of all the cracked and worn-out existing porcelain dishes, the one that was inherited or was acquired.
The important point was the following: the products inherited from the ancestors were by no means given to other people, they were carefully buried, and some plant was planted over the place of the burial place. Of course, it was necessary to get rid only of the dishes on which there were chips, cracks and other defects.
Historically, on the festive table that day there should not have been any porcelain, as in the decoration of the room in which the date was marked. Crockery, caskets, other items from this material are congratulations on a china wedding. On the table and in the interior they will appear after this day.
How to spend this day for children?
There are a lot of options for how to make the anniversary of living together not only an event for guests, a feast and collection of donated services. At the same time, children can take a non-trivial approach, passing on their enthusiasm and enthusiasm to parents. Of course, living under one roof to make a surprise is much easier, but those who live separately are not without such an opportunity.
For example, you can go to visit your parents in the evening on the eve of the morning when the porcelain wedding begins, congratulations to parents can be left, say, in the refrigerator or in the microwave. Any place where people first look in the morning will do. If the house has a coffee machine, you can leave a couple of cups in holiday bows on it. Everything is limited only by one’s own imagination and desire, the cost of porcelain is different today, and you can buy something inexpensive, but which has not become less elegant and beautiful.
Should children participate in the preparation of the holiday?
This moment is quite individual, since the child can be 19 years old and 10. Of course, you can’t deprive children of the opportunity to please their parents, on the contrary, each spouse can attract the child to “his own side”.
How to congratulate each other?
Although there are many tips and ideas for congratulations on a china wedding, most of them come down to exchanging gifts. Of course, this is the essence of any celebration, and don’t need to give anything. However, we must not forget that any holiday is, first of all, its own attitude and mood.
It is these factors that determine whether the marked date will be remembered or whether it will be boring and monotonous. Accordingly, you should fill the anniversary with surprises, plan ahead all day and give your half joy, although you must be prepared for the fact that the response will be less romantic than expected.
The most important thing in congratulating each other on the number of years spent together is to move away from commonplace and not limit your own imagination.
How to congratulate my husband?
It is generally accepted that a woman is more sentimental than a man. To some extent this is truly true, but there is one “classic” masculine quality. Each representative of the stronger sex is prone to solving puzzles. They are the ones who often watch detective stories, solve crosswords, even women are most often not playing cards. This tendency can and should be used.
On the morning of the day when the porcelain wedding arrives, congratulations to the husband may look like this: in the place of the apartment where the spouse goes first after awakening, there should be a small trinket with a note. You need to choose a place so that it is impossible to miss the figurine, even if you have to put it on the toilet lid.
The first note should not be anything obscure, because the person has just opened his eyes. The text should remind of the date and direct to the next figurine. She should be where the spouse goes in the second place in the morning. This figurine sends to third place, and the text of the note may already be more complex and playful, and so on.
The number of “quest tasks” should not exceed numerically the “morning stops” of the spouse. If there are three of them, then you don’t need to arrange a race of five, and if there are two of them, for example, a bathroom and a kitchen, you can use interior items as a search item - a refrigerator, drawers, a table and everything that your spouse looks into.
Limitations are caused by the fact that it is important not to strain the person awake, but, on the contrary, to create a light and playful mood. That is, such a congratulation on a porcelain wedding is a joke that is funny and understandable only to two, leading her husband to a gift as a result.
Of course, this should not be limited. Beautiful appearance and personal mood are important throughout the day.
How to congratulate my wife?
Men are less observant than women, and often on the threshold of the twentieth anniversary of family life they do not even know what kind of flowers their half prefers. However, men are great pragmatists, and they can tell for sure what kind of wine a woman drinks, what kind of meat she chooses in a store, and what she cooks for the weekend.
Accordingly, you do not need to suddenly turn into Romeo and throw your half with petals of violets, of course, if before that there was no such romance. A woman may begin to be allergic to these petals, and all sorts of unnecessary suspicions sneak into her thoughts. The strength of a man after so many years lived together is in his predictability, stability and reliability.
But this does not completely cancel the originality in the approach to how a porcelain wedding should begin, congratulations in verse, for example, written on special paper from the store with gifts and lying on a box with a fur coat or in a large bouquet of flowers, will please any woman.
The most important thing on this day is to take a weekend at work and be sure to turn off the alarm. Let the spouse wake up later. And if she works, you can visit her workplace the day before and agree with the authorities about the weekend, keeping the visit a secret.
Thus, a gift will be a vacation, and this is the best and always unexpected congratulation on a china wedding. It does not cancel poems, beautiful cups and vases, you should not forget about this either.
In addition to the main gift, you should either supplement it with various accessories from porcelain or arrange everywhere a lot of little things made of this material, beautifully decorated.
What to say at the table?
Options for toasts appropriate to the occasion are just as important as choosing a gift. Toast is an important part of any festive feast, creating a specific atmosphere at the festive banquet, wherever it takes place and no matter how many guests gather.
The first toasts should be sincere and serious, if possible devoid of pathos, but after a couple of hours of festivities, a festive greeting with a porcelain wedding is fun and laughter-sharp, but it is important that the jokes are not ambiguous or evil.
An example of a toast to start the celebration can be such a speech: “Today our glasses are filled for a beautiful and touching occasion - you, our dear (names), have an important day. Your family is already twenty years old, but this is only the beginning of its long life path, in which all the most difficult is behind us, and ahead are only years full of happiness and love. For you, our dear (names)! ”
An example of a comic toast might be: “Dear friends, it is time to have a drink. Someone wondered why among the gifts there is no calculator and book of records? And over twenty years, probably a lot of things have accumulated ... And God bless him, do not remember the old. Let's drink and have fun, our calculator (names) will buy for themselves. ”
How to congratulate in verse?
A beautiful congratulation on a china wedding is the poetic content of the postcard attached to the gift. You can choose any verses, etiquette limits only the degree of proximity to the object of congratulation. Of course, spouses write more intimate and lyrical things to each other, and friends or colleagues write as neutral as possible.
An example of a neutral poem:
20 years is not a joke at all,
May you not see these years
Many more minutes to go
I wish you happiness and love for full years.
How to congratulate in prose?
A prosaic text is good because it does not need rhymed lines and allows you to more fully express your own wishes and thoughts. Nevertheless, this is an “adult date” - a porcelain wedding, congratulations in prose on such a day look more appropriate.
An example of a holiday text could be: “Dear (names)! With all my heart I congratulate you on a wonderful day. Today your family has grown up, but remained young. I wish you happiness, long years of joy and patience, wisdom and understanding, love and harmony. Always yours (name). ”
General rules for congratulations
Regarding greeting texts, there are some restrictions regarding only cards attached to the gift. The main condition is maximum brevity, a wish list and a signature.
Writing lengthy verses and even more so mentioning the gift itself, for example: “Accept this Chinese service imitating the dishes of the Ming Kingdom exhibited in the museum” is not possible.
In any holiday, the main thing is sincerity, a china wedding is no exception. Whatever the congratulations and gifts, this should come from the heart, and traditions can be neglected.