The question of how to understand guys is asked by a lot of girls, because often it is not as simple as it seems at first glance. Most men are much less emotional than girls, express their emotions less often and tend to talk less and do more. This question torments the girls, not only if for now they just like the guy, but even in cases where the couple have been together for a long time.
Why understand guys?
Even with many years of relationships, people can have disagreements that lead to scandals and quarrels. In addition, sometimes situations arise when you do not understand what is happening at all. And some moments of mutual misunderstanding can completely confuse you, worsening your relationship.
Consider several aspects in which you need to learn how to understand guys.
Lies
Almost every girl at least once in her life came across male lies. So how do you know a guy is lying?
- Facial expressions and gestures. A person who is confident in his words behaves calmly, leisurely. If a liar is in front of you, then most likely he will be nervous, pull his hands, clothes, hair, fuss, bite his lips.
- A look to the side. If in a conversation with you the guy categorically does not look in the eye, looks away, turns away, then this can be considered a sure sign of lies. After all, as they say, eyes are a mirror of the soul, and if he has nothing to hide, then he will calmly intersect with your gaze, not afraid that you will guess about a lie.
- Redness. This symptom is characteristic not only for men, people often blush at times of excitement. And if you ask a question, and the guy’s face is filled with treacherous paint, then this is a good reason to think about the credibility of what he said.
- Response time. When a person tells the truth, he is able to answer questions quickly, especially if they are simple, do not require time to think. For example, if you ask: “Where were you this morning?”, And a man, instead of just answering, thinks for some time, then this can also be considered a sign of lies.
- The discrepancy in the details. It has long been noticed that lovers of lies often get confused in the details in their stories. For example, at first the guy says that in the morning he went to work by bus, and another time he says that he was walking. If you want to catch a young man in a lie, ask him several times in detail, and with confusion you can be sure that he is lying.
- Manipulation. In those situations when you are trying to recognize if a guy is lying, and he understands your intentions, he may say something like: “You love me, do you really not believe me?” If you heard something like this, do not give in, do not feel the guilt that they are trying to cause in you, and continue to insist on your own and ask what you want to know.
Jealousy
Not all guys are jealous of the open, there are those who rack their brains and rage with anger at the very thought that a girl may have something to do with another, but at the same time outwardly remain calm. In addition, girls may think how to understand that a guy is jealous if they are not already in a relationship. What are the signs of jealousy?
- Constant criticism. A guy can criticize everything that makes a girl attractive to other men - bright makeup, tight-fitting clothes, a fashionable hairstyle.
- Refusal to attend parties, clubs, noisy places. And all because there are going to many other men who begin to pay attention to the girl. It is difficult for a man to cope with jealousy, and in order not to suffer again, he prefers to stay home together.
- Insults and humiliation. Yes, oddly enough, if a guy rushes with the phrases “You are a terrible, fat, stupid loser, who needs you besides me at all”, then this is a very sure sign that he is jealous.
- Neglecting other men. For example, you can tell something interesting about your colleague, and the young man will not only not share your enthusiasm, but he will also note that this colleague is generally small in size, his car is outdated, and not in his years to hold such a position.
- Surveillance for social networks. In general, jealous women usually monitor social media activity, but this also occurs in men. He may ask what kind of guy this friend added to you, why a classmate puts you likes, and indeed, why do you need so many men as friends.
Treason
Unfortunately, in the world there are very few people who have never cheated in their lives. And the girls in this case risk much more, since men are more prone to betrayal. How can you understand that a guy loves you or lies and changes you?
- Appearance. If before a young man did not really look after himself, but now he has begun to shave more often, put himself in order, and buy fashionable clothes, then, most likely, this is not clean. Men generally do not really bother with regard to appearance, and if he began to preen, it is likely that he had someone or he got carried away with someone.
- Changes in sex. A man, carried away by another, can either less often have sex with you, or, conversely, even more. In the first case, it is understandable why, and in the second it is a kind of smoothing out the guilt, or else he wants to apply the experience gained on the side, with you.
- Behavioral changes. Previously, he could tell you compliments, show signs of help, help. Now the man has become cold, irritated, inattentive. Or vice versa, before he had never given you flowers and gifts for no reason, but now he does it almost every day.
- Lies. A man can become absent-minded, first say one thing, then another. Or lie in sheer trifles.
- Stealth. He leaves when they call him, constantly hides the phone, closes social networks, you just have to appear next to him.
- Changes in the schedule. The man began to linger until late, hiding behind overtime work. Unscheduled business trips appeared in which he practically does not call you.
- New habits. Your young man suddenly has new hobbies that are completely uncharacteristic for him. For example, he was never interested in meditation, and then suddenly he got books, courses and videos on this topic.
Sympathy
How to understand that a guy is in love with a girl if he does not show it in any way?
- He began to call or write to you more often, and a real trifle could become a reason for this.
- He constantly finds himself in the same places where you are, supposedly by accident.
- Finds time for you even if he is very busy, he has a lot of work.
- Says compliments, admires you.
- Look - a young man in love always looks in a special way.
- Intuitive feeling. Even if you don’t know how to understand that a guy is secretly in love, and he does not actively show his sympathies, but you have a strong inner feeling that he has feelings, then most likely you don’t think so.
Love
You can meet for several years, register your relationship, give birth to joint children, but questions arise that haunt you. How to understand that a guy really loves you?
- Attention. No matter how busy, upset or tired, he will always find the time for you.
- Willingness to help. Every loving guy will always help you in a difficult situation. And you know that in any unforeseen circumstances you can turn to him.
- Support. If a person sincerely loves you, then he will support you in all important aspects.
- Heat. It can not be described in words, but you feel that with this person you are warm, comfortable, calm and reliable.
- Seriousness. A guy not only enjoys time spent together, but also makes far-reaching plans for the future, sees his wife in you, prepares for cohabitation and always includes you in his important plans.
Attraction
You can be just acquaintances, colleagues, friends, but at the same time feel something strange about you. How to understand if a guy wants you?
- Sight. He looks at you constantly, and not just looks, but as if undressing with a look.
- Compliments Moreover, they may not be general, but relative to your specific parts of the body.
- Touch. He constantly tries to touch you - straighten your hair, grab at the waist, touch your hand.
- Vote. In the case when a man is attracted, the timbre of his voice changes, becomes low and aspirated.
Dislike
Sometimes everything is fine in a relationship, but there is a feeling that something is wrong. Or it can be obviously bad, but the girl still has a hope that the guy loves her. How to understand that your boyfriend loves you or not?
- Lack of interest. He forgets to call, reschedules meetings indefinitely, does not ask about your plans. In this case, you do not need to build illusions, if a person needs you, he will always find the time, even if he is very busy.
- Provokes jealousy. A man can evaluate other girls with you, talk about his sympathies or desires for someone else. At the same time, you can be in a relationship, and he knows what is unpleasant for you. The conclusion suggests itself.
- Lies. If you are together, and he suddenly began to lie (or lied from the very beginning) - this can also be regarded as a neglect of you.
- Insults. A truly loving man will never say rude, unpleasant words to you. If your man is not shy in expressions on your account, then there is nothing to talk about serious feelings.
- No joint plans. The young man is in no hurry to make decisions, often you don’t even know whether you are dating or not. For all your attempts to clarify the situation, trying to get away from the answer.
What to do?
You must admit, no matter what question you may face, it is always important to know how to understand guys. There is no universal answer or recommendation. The only thing you can do to make life easier for yourself and the young man is to talk. Ask questions if you do not understand something, carefully listen to the answers, analyze. It is in sincere, open communication that people recognize each other. And if you stick to this rule, and not trick and manipulate, then the question of how to understand guys will bother you much less than other girls.