The problem of loneliness is very relevant for modern people. We all try to succeed, often in several areas of life at once. We are leading an interesting or very rich spiritual life, but here comes the moment, and you understand that everything is in pairs, but somehow it did not work out for you. And then you are surprised in half with embarrassment - why do not I have a girlfriend, am I good? Let's try to understand the problem.
Do surrounding young ladies have chances?
If you are sure that you have no problems with character and behavior, try to rationally evaluate your own lifestyle. How often do you go to places where you can meet and chat with women of the opposite sex? Or do you spend most of your free time exclusively on “male” hobbies and you just have no time to get to know each other? Sometimes the answer to the question "Why do not I have a girlfriend?" banal: you have no time and nowhere to meet and communicate. The Internet can help out in such situations. Or make yourself a rule: at least once a week, get out to discos, in a cafe or somewhere else where you can meet a life partner. There are also situations when a young man has too high demands. And he simply does not notice the ugly, in his opinion, girls or not smart enough. Remember, has someone paid special attention to you lately? If you reject one lady after another, do not be surprised that, having noticed this trend, girls will soon cease to show initiative in relation to you.
Is there something wrong with me?
“If I don’t have a girlfriend for a long time, maybe something is wrong with me?” Rational thought. The most common mistake of modern guys is the inability to communicate and arouse interest in the opposite sex. Someone is lost in
conversations with the girls and begins to carry complete nonsense, while others, on the contrary, want to seem “brutal” and repel it. The most important thing is to stay naturally and at ease, to be an interesting conversationalist. Follow fashion trends, learn to maintain a conversation on various topics. And then you do not have to wonder: “Why do not I have a girlfriend?”
Loneliness - time for development
Most modern educated and reasonably smart girls are afraid of those guys who start talking about relationships from the first minutes of communication. Some value their freedom, others, albeit suffer from loneliness, but simply do not believe in any promises immediately after meeting. During the first meetings, a statement of my status is enough - yes, I don’t have a girlfriend. But do not tell a new friend about how much you want to find her. Try to communicate more and don’t react to every girl who doesn’t mind going somewhere together or talking as a potential second half. Let the relationship develop naturally, because you first need to learn so much about each other, find common interests. And perhaps soon some feelings will appear, and she herself will not want to spend her time on anyone but you. Being in an active search, you have enough time to live for your own pleasure, to study and to develop yourself. Let go of your obsessive desire to be paired with someone, and very soon everything will happen by itself, and you will no longer care about the question: “Why do not I have a girlfriend?”