Asexuality is a weak sexual desire or its absence at all, up to complete indifference to sex. This is not a disease, but rather a sexual orientation. And more often acquired than congenital. Asexual is a phenomenon that scientists have been researching since 1950.
Occurrence of asexuality
The concept of asexuality has existed for thousands of years. In many cultures, this has been considered and is still a manifestation of holiness. For example, monks, priests, girls who have taken a vow of celibacy. In ancient times, asexuality was even encouraged.
The popularity of asexualism
Asexuality has gained popularity since 2001. The impetus for this was the website of David Jay Aven. He created an asexual society on the Internet. The portal has already registered 50 thousand people from all over the world. True, they call themselves hetero-romanticists who have feelings for other people, but who have no sexual attraction to them.
Who is asexual? The meaning of this concept
Asexuals are called "generation X". The term first appeared in the United States, when scientists described the period from the sixty-fifth to eighty-second years. During this period of time, there has been a demographic decline that followed the sexual revolution.
Asexual is a person who is not sexually attracted. For one reason or another, sex does not interest him at all. Scientists have found that such people do not have any deviations in physical development. But they consciously refuse sex.
Asexuals are not without feelings. They are able to love. And they believe that deep platonic feelings are an ideal option. They are not excited by pornography. Intimacy means only pleasant long conversations, and the female breast or male member is simply the organs of the body. Sex therapists note that men most often become asexuals. And the number of such people is increasing.
Asexual groups
Asexuals can be divided into several groups:
- Singletones are loners. They can have sex. But at the same time they do not get pleasure, and they do not want to start a family. More often they enter into an intimate relationship in order to give birth to a child for themselves. Sometimes they just get a dog or a cat.
- “Beavers” are workaholics. For the sake of a career and money they refuse family and sex. They don’t like sports, they spend their free time on the Internet. Sometimes they are paired, but not for the sake of sex, but to maintain the image.
- Butterflies are an intellectual elite. They are careless, constantly travel and change their occupation. They love music and sports. But children and sex do not matter to them. They live only for themselves.
- The Blue Stockings are mostly feminists. Often vegetarian, yoga lovers. They like parties, attend exhibitions and galleries. Free time is spent watching TV. They think it's better to have friends than a family. Refuse intimate relationships.
- "Eternal children." People from this group become asexuals from their teens. The reasons may be the divorce of parents, strict upbringing, cruel attitude.
Causes of Asexuality
Asexual girls may not have a sex drive due to a very painful deprivation of virginity. Men - from disappointment in sex. The reason for indifference to the intimate side of life must be sought since childhood. For example, strict parents, wanting to protect the child from troubles, inspire him that sex is a shameful and bad occupation. The reasons for the occurrence of asexuality can be many:
- psychological trauma;
- low libido;
- squeamishness;
- bad past experience;
- disgust;
- feeling of alienation;
- depression;
- rape etc.
Asexuality sometimes occurs due to promiscuous and frequent sexual intercourse. A man tries to try the whole “Kama Sutra”, and after that loses interest in sex completely. The propaganda of free love in the media and on television can contribute to the desire to resist such obsession. Man unconsciously begins to shy away from sex, since there is nothing left secret, intimate, hidden. Interest is lost, and as a result, the desire for closeness disappears.
Why asexuals do not accept sex?
Asexuals - a separate orientation. These are mainly educated and well-read people. They are not against marriage or having children. Maintain relationships with the opposite sex and lead a normal life. Only refuse sex. For them, not wanting him is a normal occurrence.
Some consider this a waste of time. Although in order to give pleasure to a loved one, they periodically enter into an intimate relationship with him. Some asexuals are indifferent or averse to sex. The main reason lies in the previously received psychological trauma.
Asexuality - an inborn or acquired phenomenon?
With congenital asexualism, a person does not have an interest in intimate relationships, even during puberty. Although it is then that hormones are most active. If acquired asexuality, then this may be the result of psychological trauma or rape, after a sexual scene seen in childhood or as a result of rough and cruel sex. For example, when the first experiment was not pleasant and disgust appeared for intercourse.
Can asexuals have children?
Asexuals can have children if there are no deviations in health. Asexual is a man who just has his own attitude to sex. In physical terms, such people are no different from everyone. And with sex they can even experience arousal. They just don’t get pleasure from it. And as soon as an asexual girl becomes pregnant, she completely refuses further sex. But the child safely carries and gives birth.
Also, if a man became asexual, this does not mean changes in the physical plane. He still has sperm. The penis is excited, and the man can safely complete the sexual intercourse by sending sperm to the vagina to conceive a child.
Asexuality - a disease or a new orientation?
Many psychiatrists and sexopathologists do not consider asexuality a disease. But some experts disagree with them and call several prerequisites for its occurrence:
- endocrine and psychiatric diseases;
- poisoning with drugs or salts of heavy metals;
- lesions of the nervous system.
But according to studies, it was found that sex drive is individual, and does not directly depend on diseases. Some may want sex more than once a day, but for others it’s enough twice a month.
Consequences of asexuality
Asexual is a person who is at risk. His prolonged abstinence from sex can “come back” with serious health consequences. Abstinence from the point of view of medicine affects a person negatively. It is especially dangerous for men. Lack of sex affects sperm motility. There is a risk of prostatitis. Premature ejaculation during sex may occur. Moreover, the older the man, the harder his body suffers abstinence.
For women, this is also not beneficial. Prolonged abstinence causes tearfulness, irritability, nervousness. Many gynecological diseases can occur, up to oncology. Exacerbated premenstrual syndromes, menstruation is difficult. The work of the genitals and much more is disrupted.