There is a myth that the sexiest men are actors, athletes, famous musicians and other media personalities. Is this really so and what is sexuality? What is it expressed in - in steel muscles, the role of a hero-lover or, perhaps, in the intellect of a man? Let's look for answers together in our article.
What is sexuality?
There are many aspects of the definition of this concept. We will give the simplest: sexuality is the charm of the opposite sex, attracting its representatives in appearance, manners, behavior. This seduction is aimed at awakening in man one of the most powerful instincts - the instinct of procreation, or, more simply, reproduction. We conclude that the sexiest men are those that attract physically and cause a sexual response (in other words, desire) in women.
Thousands of years have passed since the transformation of the animal into a man, but the instinct called Freud libidinal, as it was, remains the main one. This, in principle, is understandable, because if the genus does not breed, it dies out.
In the wild, females attract males (and vice versa) with a very powerful tool - a special smell. This peculiar aroma drives the males crazy and puts the desire for procreation in priority place.
But what about people? Science has made such progress that we, too, can attract people of the opposite sex through smell. These are artificial hormonal agents - pheromones. They are obtained from substances secreted by animals during the mating season. But they are able to rekindle intimate instincts by a maximum of 10-25%. And where to get the remaining 75?
Girls are much easier in this regard. Candid clothes with a lot of tricks (push-up bras that make your chest insanely attractive, neckline), scarlet frank lips and insanely beckoning perfume are already a big part of the sexual image. Add here a little femininity and personal sympathy + intellect (which, however, is perfectly replaced by upbringing and knowledge of etiquette) - and the explosive mixture that strikes a man on the spot is ready.
And what about a man? The sexual body of a man is not always the key to success in women, and there are still fewer opportunities to flaunt it, compared with the weaker sex. How then to be men and how to attract ladies? Consider the concept of sexuality in the male version.
Sexuality in men
We outline the image of the ideal guy in terms of attractiveness:
- Character. Everything is simple here. A man must be a man. With a strong character, confident, persistent, charming and smart. But in no case should you confuse self-confidence with arrogance, and perseverance with obsession.
- Appearance. The sexiest men should be well-groomed, moderately stylish, ideally with a body in good physical shape.
- General image. Unfortunately, in our time, some kind of substitution of moral wealth with material, some girls believe that the wealth of men, expensive phone and status car make him insanely sexy. This is an erroneous opinion. Sexy here is not a young man, but his wallet. Male sexuality is not measured by the abundance thereof, but the status of a man nevertheless brings some share of attractiveness.
- Behavior. Yes, the behavior of a man is also a component of his attractiveness. We will not talk here about how a man should behave, because all this has already been described in the rules of etiquette. The main components of this behavior are respect and good breeding, moderation and observance of the most banal rules: opening the door to a lady, helping to move a heavy piece of furniture or office equipment will make you a real man in the eyes of a woman.
The sexiest men in the world - who are they?
Consider the first two five popular ratings.
British magazine "Hot World" (Heat World). The first place is traditionally occupied by the famous football player David Beckham; the second is thirty-year-old actor Ryan Gosling; the third and fourth were taken by the handsome Ryan Reynolds and Bradley Cooper; on the fifth is Jake Gyllenhaal. It is worth noting that Robert Patisson took the sixth place here, handsome Johnny Depp does not give up his eighth position. As you can see, to understand what is male sexuality, it is much easier with the help of real examples.
The famous women's publication Glamor sees the sexiest men like that. First place - the famous Mr. Fifty Shades of Gray - Jamie Dornan. The second is biker and Sherlock Holmes Benedict Cumberbatch, the third is Tom Hiddleston, the fourth is “Edward” Patisson, the fifth is British actor Henry Cavill.
These very sexy men have one thing in common: they are unusual, their media gives them the flair of an inaccessible dream, ideal. But this is not the main thing. Look into their eyes: what do you see? First, confidence. They are confident in themselves and their charm, and this makes them quite calm and calm. Can only an actor or athlete be sure of their relevance? Not. A doctor or engineer, teacher or taxi driver, manager or programmer - all of them can also be self-confident if they love their work and succeed in it. We will not voice the conclusion, let everyone do it himself.
Beauty = sexuality?
We smoothly approached the exterior. Is it the basis of sexuality? Beautiful sexy men are not uncommon, but also not uncommon are beautiful, but completely unattractive personalities. Therefore, the answer cannot be unambiguous. There are many examples where an outwardly very attractive person pushes away with his inner world or behavior. Many handsome men are known as daffodils and spend their lives in splendid isolation, while guys with a completely ordinary appearance struggle with the excessive attention of fans. So, appearance can be a component of sexuality, but does not equal it. The sexiest men often have a completely normal appearance, let us recall the legendary Casanova: someone, and it’s insanely difficult to call him handsome.
How to become sexy?
The first advice on becoming a sexy man will be simple truths.
- First, you need to be confident. It is unlikely that women will find attractive a man who stands huddled in a corner and is afraid to say a word.
- Secondly, well-groomed. A suit from the world's leading designers does not guarantee sexuality, but worn jeans and a dirty shirt will not add it either. Need a middle ground. Yes, and the ability to wear clothes. Some people simply have the gift of combining the most common parts of the toilet so that they seem to be taken off a ready-to-wear mannequin.
- Thirdly, natural charm and an adequate sense of humor are always a plus. Like, in fact, intelligence. If we recall the saying: "a man must be more beautiful than a monkey", then we add that he must also be smarter.
Which men are sexier, the woman decides. And intelligence + well-read, ability to maintain a conversation are not the worst ways to win her favor.
Enemies of Male Sexuality
There are real enemies who can destroy male sexuality in its infancy. Let's call them:
- Inaccuracy.
- Rudeness.
- The lack of a sense of humor or an attempt to pass for a wit with the help of petty vulgar jokes.
- Self-doubt.
With these rivals of male attractiveness, there is every chance of being alone. Fortunately, they are all afraid of willpower and easily eliminated with its help.
Sex test
We bring to your attention a small test with which you can determine the relative level of sexuality. Answer options: yes (3 points), no (1 point) and possible (2 points).
1. Are you always scrupulous about your clothes?
2. Do you prefer to dress in the same style?
3. Are you confident in yourself?
4. Do you suffer from excessive modesty?
5. Do you exercise your body, do you keep it in good shape?
6. Is it easy for you to talk to a girl you like?
7. Do you find yourself charming?
8. Do you have a sense of humor?
9. Are you the soul of any company?
10. Do you think that ladies should take the first step, and you decide how to proceed?
11. Do you have bad habits that repel others from you?
12. Do you think that a man should provide for his family?
Test results
Let's see the results.
From 35 to 25 points.
You have a fairly high level of sexuality. Your energy is in full swing, and the fairer sex flies to you like moths. But it is worth considering: are you too spraying your energy? Maybe you should keep it for your one and only?
From 24 to 15 points.
You are quite sexy and charming. You have no problem with the opposite sex. The only thing that can interfere with your acquaintance is the instantly surging insecurity in yourself and your strengths. Forget the phrase "I am just like everyone else, nothing special in me." Believe me, there is a girl who is looking for you, do not miss your chance and her joint happiness.
14 and below points.
You are an attractive average man / boy. You may be more attractive than many of your friends. Only trouble is that you do not know how to show yourself. Modesty is a good quality if it does not develop into uncertainty and fixation on one’s own shortcomings.
As you can see, the test for sexuality will not give you a 100 percent assessment of your sexuality, but it can be pretty good to tell you what you are wrong in reducing your own attractiveness.
conclusions
Sexy strong men watch us from TV screens and posters. On them go crazy women of all ages. It is very easy for insecure guys to give up on themselves against the background of their beauty, strength, energy. But it is worth understanding the main thing: the fair sex admire idols and stars. But next to them they want to see a simple, sweet guy. To become the best for your soul mate is not so difficult: more confidence, willpower - and you will not be alone.