A wedding in the life of every person is one of the most important events. A woman dreams that the choice that was made by her will be successful. She wants a reliable man to be near, and the marriage did not break up at the first family difficulties.
May signs - myth or reality?
There are many different signs regarding wedding efforts, especially if the plans are for a wedding in May. There is an opinion that the newlyweds, who legitimized their relationship on May 13, will never be happy, they will certainly divorce. About marriage this month they say this: "Marry in May - then toil together for the rest of your life." But is there at least some truth in this statement? Are there any advantages, disadvantages of holding a ceremony at this time?
Benefits of May Weddings
So, the wedding at the end of May is an outstanding event. Statistics show that this spring month a minimum number of applications from spouses is submitted to the registry office. But this fact is an indisputable advantage for those who decide to sign. A wedding in May will be much cheaper from a material point of view. At this time, there are no huge queues in the registry office.
Young people can easily agree with the host of the festive evening, find a good photographer. In addition, there is a real chance to count on a substantial discount, because it is offered by many photographers, stylists, florists for those “courageous couples” who were not afraid to play a wedding on May days. The spring warm sun, whose gentle rays touch the bride’s face, as if refutes all distrust of May weddings.
Slavic calendar
In the Slavic calendar, Lelya is interpreted as the patroness of happiness, love, female beauty. In Latin, May was named in honor of Maya, the goddess of the mountains, beloved daughter of the god Zeus. Maya was considered the patroness of renewal, fertility, seduction. It would seem that the logic is completely absent, because it is in May that nature wakes up, while customs prohibit getting married this month.
Why is it undesirable to play a wedding in May?
So, the wedding is planned in May. Signs indicate that life will not be young, there will be continuous problems and scandals in the family. A similar belief was formed long ago; there are several versions of its appearance. It is likely that the May weddings were not encouraged due to the fact that at that time there was a lot of work in the fields, stockyards. If you lost precious time, spent it on wedding chores, then in the winter such newlyweds were waiting for real hunger. His beloved hungry husband no longer seemed so dear and desirable, it was his wife who accused them of being out of stock due to the wedding festivities.
In Russia, it was customary to celebrate a wedding not a day, but from three to a whole week. By May, edible stocks had been practically destroyed since last year, new vegetables and fruits had not yet been grown, there was nothing to feed guests at the wedding. May in Ancient Russia was aimed at caring for a new crop, there was no time to be distracted, wasting time on wedding ceremonies and feasts.
The wedding in May was absolutely inconvenient, and therefore there was a belief that, having married at this time, they were tormented all their lives. In the May folk calendar, every day was associated with plowing, dog, livestock walking. It is likely that our ancestors “invented” the myth that a wedding in May is undesirable. Signs and traditions gradually changed, but this one has survived to this day. The common people proceeded in their beliefs precisely from the peculiarities of life, devoting May to their usual, everyday activities, and not to wedding celebrations and idleness.
Matchmaking in May
On St. George's Day, that is, May 6, it was customary to talk about a future wedding, but the ceremony itself was not held in Russia at that time. According to the old style, May 6 was on April 23, that is, the matchmaking was still carried out in the previous month. May was fully dedicated to caring for the future harvest. According to the old tradition, on Jacob's Day (May 13 according to the new style, and April 30 according to the old style) there should not have been the slightest hint about future betrothal, any conversation about the wedding was considered offensive.
Evil spirits
May in ancient times was considered the time of "evil spirits." It is possible that due to superstition, the wedding was postponed in May. Signs forced to refuse to marry, because this month the wife "got from the evil one", and the real "rabies" will be born, not healthy children.
According to legend, witches at that time assumed the image of beautiful women, lured men, and then squeezed “juices” from them, made life unbearable. Times have changed, but is there a need for a wedding in May, is it worth filing an application with the registry office this month - doubts remain.
May astrology
Astrologers claim that the astrological signs of Gemini and Taurus rule this month. Both zodiac signs are very contradictory, complex, prone to conflict. Due to the inability to listen to Gemini, they are not able to find a common language with business partners, a spouse.
Those people who marry during this period will play in public, try to show others that everything is fine in the family, there are no problems. It is this behavior that leads to distrust, insincerity and causes the destruction of the family. Taurus and Gemini, astrologers assure, will constantly “interfere” with the relationship of the young people with a third person (mother-in-law, mother-in-law), the family will have a lot of envious and competitors.
According to astrological indicators, a wedding in May is undesirable. Features of the zodiacal arrangement of the planets are such that marriage is doomed to fragility, complexity in relationships.
About May Numerology
For May, the figure is five. This number is associated with wanderings and independent decisions aimed at individual well-being. The marriage, which will be concluded in May, according to numerology, will be deprived of harmony. People who decide to become legal spouses are required to respect and value each other, and not to pursue selfish interests in marriage.
The number "five" does not imply harmony; a desire arises to "live only for oneself." Any reminders of debt, obligations, in the "May family" end with mutual reproaches and insults. Numerologists are convinced that the five implies instability and change, new impressions. The May Five is not aimed at finding a balance in the relationship, but exceptions do happen, experts add.
If young people have firmly decided that they need a wedding in May, the features and signs associated with this month will not become an obstacle for them. When deciding to create something new this month: family, business, signing a business agreement, buying a property, you need to believe in the positive outcome of the planned events. In this case, a great wedding will take place in May. The features of the month will not become an obstacle, an obstacle to a happy and long life together.
Conclusion
All conclusions must be made by the lovers themselves, whether they believe in signs, or boldly prepare in May for the wedding ceremony. For those who are superstitious and do not want to fight with national signs, we recall that with a negative mood, those families that were created in June, July, and August also disintegrate.
From the point of view of photographers, the wedding at the end of May is beautiful, the photos are bright, rich, natural. The master does not need to look for a special angle: nature itself helps the newlyweds to capture the birth of their new family in the spring sun. The whole world seems to wake up with lovers, tuned only to positive, emphasizes tenderness and harmony.
Proponents of May marriages argue that the word "toil" is not associated at all with the fragility of the families at that time, but with the name of the Roman goddess Maya, which came from the word "nurse, mother." The bride’s bouquet, compiled for the May ceremony, will be remembered for a lifetime. It is not at all a matter of choosing flowers for him, but that after a long winter, devoid of bright colors and colors, all the bouquets will seem special, unique, and amazing. The organizers of the May wedding ceremonies offer brides small bouquets of lilies of the valley, which emphasize the innocence of the image of the newlywed. Self-confident girls can order bright bouquets of spring peonies.
In May there is no wedding excitement, many bridal salons make significant discounts on accessories, including a dress for the bride and a suit for the groom. Why not take advantage of such great offers?
Are there any arguments against having a wedding in May? Reviews of those who work in registry offices are confirmed by statistical studies. Most of the divorces come from couples who married in May. Astrologers are convinced that it is during this period that the Sun unites with Hyades and Pleiades, and therefore it is highly likely that a woman will be unhappy in such a marriage, deprived of male attention.
The easiest for many couples who got married in May and were unable to live together, is hoping for an “unlucky month in May.” It is the most luxurious, flowering, vibrant spring month. Modern youth often neglects national signs, the popularity of May weddings is growing from year to year. If a man and a woman truly love each other, neither superstition nor signs are important to them, they boldly enter into a marriage in the spring, including in May. A happy family is the best proof that people themselves build their relationships.