The development of information technology does not stand still, and if in the last century people from different cities got to know each other and had an active conversation through letters, today not everyone can boast of such an experience. Correspondence could be delayed for many years, because the long-awaited answer was very long and substantial, and it had to wait for months. Currently, social networks have simplified communication between people from different cities, in the Internet space people find friends and soul mate. The girls, being the most curious, rack their brains over what questions to ask a guy by correspondence so as not to scare him away and not seem intrusive.
Girl's strategy
Now a lot of services have been developed for the exchange of fast electronic messages, and in a few days you can learn almost everything about a person. The main task before meeting in the virtual world is to determine who the acquaintance of the pen will become in the future: a friend, close friend or partner. Based on this, the girls develop tactics of action and pre-think for the guys a question that will lead to a pleasant conversation. You should not expect that a young man will instantly reveal all the cards and tell him everything in detail about himself.
It's no secret that girls are much more talkative, but too long speeches can scare off a pen pal, he will have the impression that his virtual girlfriend has forgotten about him and is conducting a monologue. Whatever the conversation was about, two should take part in it, and the talker, having told about herself, should wait for an answer from the interlocutor. Having prepared original questions for the guy, the girl will be able to talk to him and learn more about her personal life and interests.
First dating day
Very often, men are engaged in searching for friends on social networks, and girls, even with a great desire, are embarrassed to send a friendship proposal to the guy they like, and, rather, vote for the photos, become regulars on his page, but do not start dating. This fear is caused by the fact that in the view of women it is the man who must take the first steps, but not vice versa. It does not matter who initiated the acquaintance, the main thing is to establish contact and inquire about the mood, mood, and only then go on to talk about hobbies and leisure. On the day of your first acquaintance, think over interesting questions for the guys so that each of the interlocutors, if there are several of them, felt the need for such communication and enjoyed talking on abstract topics.
Male psychology
Young people are more secretive than the fair sex, and prefer to listen more than talk. Women enjoy long conversations, and men, on the contrary, can get a little tired of hours of conversations. Because of this, there is a misunderstanding in the relationship, when a girl for a long time tells something and asks her lover to repeat or express her opinion, and he only shrugs.
Young people try not to show themselves in a worse light, therefore it is better not to ask some questions to the pen guy at all, so as not to put him in an awkward position. Men prefer to remain silent about their welfare, and the exception can only be made by very wealthy owners of mansions or expensive cars. So, by asking about the car, you can put the person to a standstill if he drives not the expensive Mercedes, but grandfather Volga. Before you come up with a question for the guys, ask if they will enjoy talking with you, or if they prefer to ignore an overly curious person.
If a guy is just a friend
Depending on the status of the young man, a certain line should be outlined in relation to you, which is not recommended to go beyond. If you made acquaintance with a guy out of motives to find a reliable friend in him, take an interest in his views on life, hobbies, education or place of work. It is recommended that you ask ridiculous questions to the guys so that they relax in a conversation with you. From such communication, a real friendship is obtained, which, after banal correspondence on the Web, develops into trips to music festivals, exhibitions, or cycling. Ask your potential friend to remember a happy childhood and tell about the first fall from a bicycle, the first trip to the zoo or a failed culinary experience. Feel free to tell him about your mistakes. Having made a guy laugh heartily, you can be sure that for a long time such a girlfriend like you was missing. Do not ask a friend about his views on the female ideal, his first sexual experience or about the desired number of children, otherwise the young man will think that you are applying for the role of his companion.
Madly in love ...
It's no secret that many current newlyweds have found each other, not in real life, but on the Internet. Studies show that marriages made after meeting in the virtual world last much longer. The successful development of communication should be monitored by two, not just a man. Sometimes the initiative should be taken into the hands of a girl and talk to a potential partner. Questions to your beloved guy should help you learn as much as possible about him. The main thing is to prevent stupidity and not to ask about the man’s former relationship, but asking about his views on the ideal hostess will not be out of place. And it would be better if the girl in love asks the young man about his mother. If a guy really loves his mother and speaks extremely well of her, be sure that she is his ideal. Having heard the phrase “you look so much like my mother” from a guy, you can expect that your relationship with this person will be strong and long, marriage and a happy family life are possible.
What to ask is not recommended
For guys, the question should not carry a lot of mental stress. It makes no sense to be interested in the basketball player’s opinion on probability theory or to reflect on Kant’s philosophy with an architect. It is not recommended to ask a stranger about his religious and political views, the number of partners. Communication with a young man should be positive, so you should also not be interested in his past, in which there is a place for sad memories, otherwise he will avoid further meetings with you.
Anonymous Issues Service: Get to Know Him Better
Even the most courageous girls will not always dare to ask a guy about something indecent or intimate. In this case, anonymous questions services such as ask.fm will come to the rescue. The young man is not shy and writes in response to his personal life, sympathy or antipathy for a particular person, and even about his sexual experience. Questions for ASK guy can ask any plan, even about yourself. Many girls use this and openly ask if he likes Masha Ivanova, and if he wants further relations with her. The young man does not want to seem like a fool to an anonymous audience, so he will answer clearly and reasonably.
And do you love me?
The big mistake of the girls is that they are usually very impatient and from the first days of communication annoy the guy with questions about their attractiveness. The time will come, and anyone will be able to find out about the interlocutor’s attitude to himself, but if you constantly ask: “Do you like me?” - You can be sure that such straightforwardness will not lead to anything good. Maybe the answer will satisfy you, but it is unlikely that in the future your conversations will be just as frank. For
guys, the question should not be asked for personal gain, besides, men do not really like it when women take the initiative in their hands, so even the most impatient girls must wait until the interlocutor begins to show sympathy and first signs of attention.
Caution: a lie!
Never trust the person you are talking to 100% until you meet him in person and find out as much as possible about this person. On a social network, a nerd boy may seem like a millionaire from the United States, and no one will know the whole truth. To make sure that a
virtual friend is the one who claims to be in the photos, offer to chat with him on a webcam. On the Internet, everyone is trying to seem better than they really are. Communication on the Web should be easy and easy, so try to ask
ridiculous questions to the guys so that they are relaxed in a conversation with you and do not try to create an image of a serious macho. Choose the right tactics, then the interlocutor will trust you, and communication will be long and interesting.