Why do people love or dislike their work? As a rule, this is due to the type of activity that is interesting or uninteresting for a particular individual, job duties, salary level, presence or absence of opportunities for growth, and other production issues. But there is also another important factor on which love or dislike for a particular place of work, interpersonal relations in a team, depends in many respects. And if there is a change of work, it is better from the very beginning to try to build normal interpersonal relations with colleagues, because then it will be difficult to fix anything.
So, how is it necessary to behave in order to harmoniously join the team, gain respect and not quarrel with anyone? This, of course, is not about minor misunderstandings, but about serious hostility, which can greatly ruin the impression of your favorite work.
Firstly, it’s great if the interpersonal relations in the team are built on goodwill, responsiveness and attention to each other. This does not mean that it is necessary from the first day of work in a new place to rush to please everyone, but also to stay alert, constantly waiting for a dirty trick and reacting with lightning speed to any words and comments, should not be. Such behavior, which is often just a defensive reaction, can be regarded by colleagues as a tendency to conflict, the desire to stand out from the team at any cost and unwillingness to move closer.
Therefore, in order to establish interpersonal relationships in the team, do not stand apart. Of course, in the first days at a new place of work, many feel rather uncomfortable, but you need to try to radiate self-confidence and be open to rapprochement. If colleagues are going to have lunch or drink tea, it is unreasonable to refer to the fact that you have a lot of work, because it is precisely such moments of relaxation in a semi-formal setting that are the best time to gradually establish and regulate interpersonal relations in the team. You need to try to become a good psychologist and identify the strengths and weaknesses of all members of the team, but not in order to stand out by your superiority on occasion, but rather to be able to circumvent sharp corners if necessary.
In order to adapt faster in a new environment, it is necessary to understand what types of interpersonal relationships prevail in a given collective. If relations are built on the principles of authoritarianism, selfishness, aggression or suspicion, then working in such a team will be very difficult. But it will be even more difficult to maintain your “I” and not to go down to the general level. But, as a rule, even in not the best team you can find several employees who also don’t like working in an oppressive atmosphere, and here it is necessary to establish relationships with them, first of all. If interpersonal relationships in a mini-team (albeit consisting of only a few people) are more humane, open and friendly, the work will bring much more pleasure. Moreover, there is a likelihood that other employees will gradually catch up with you and thus interpersonal relationships in the team will become more harmonious.
But, as a rule, initially everything is not so bad, employees turn out to be normal people (albeit not without oddities and features - but who doesn’t have them?), Interpersonal relationships in the team are gradually improving and life is entering a measured rut. The most important thing now to be done is not to destroy the existing relationship. To do this, not so much is needed: to observe corporate ethics, not to gossip and not to discuss some colleagues with others, not to try to attract too much attention by all possible methods, and not to try to imitate individual employees (albeit in a high position).
But building relationships with colleagues, we must not forget about interpersonal relationships in the family. Speaking globally, relationships in the family are much more significant than relationships at work, because work, in the worst case, can simply be changed. It is more difficult to change a family, and more often it is simply impossible (if it is not about a spouse, but about children). Therefore, it is necessary to strive to build interpersonal relationships in the family so that they are based on goodwill, openness, mutual assistance, and sometimes altruistic. In relations with children, there should also be a note of authoritarianism, or rather, authority. And then you will be able to achieve a truly remarkable result and rush to your favorite work in the morning, and in a hurry to return to your favorite house in the evening!