Good friendships do not always start on neighboring pots in kindergarten. In elementary school, finding the right friend is easiest. Why? It's not that people get worse with age. The fact is that a small person is more flexible, more plastic. And therefore, real friends are often familiar from early childhood - it is easier for them to adapt to each other.
Trace in the psyche
Children grow up, but the imprint in the soul, imposed by children's friendship, remains. If you are used to a silent friend, it will be difficult for you to communicate with the talkative for a long time. And if you are not used to diluting the pauses yourself, then it will definitely turn out to be hard with the silent person. What does true true friend mean?
What to learn
To get good people as friends , you must learn to help and support yourself. Moreover, sincere, kind and warm support may be more important than material or business assistance. Because true friendship is primarily a phenomenon of an emotional level. A business partnership is another. In high school , it is desirable to learn both business and emotional communication: both of these skills are very useful in life.
Asymmetry is natural
True friends usually know how to communicate at all levels - both near and far. Friendship is not only mutual, but also more or less unequal. We are used to the fact that only symmetry in relationships is considered normal. But life shows that we are too different to be in a state of absolute equality of receiving-bestowal. How to be a true friend? The main thing is to satisfy the psychological needs of the partner, and not to count who, whom and how much exactly.
Why make friends?
If it’s hard for you with a person or he wants too much, it’s worth discussing it with him. And according to the results of the conversation, decide whether you need this friendship in principle. Selfless friendship is almost the same myth as selfless love. After all, you can get from a friend not only values and services, but also mood, ambition, confidence. Friendship by type of "landmark of development" is very productive. The most attentive and stimulating are "paid friends" - coaches. They help a person achieve their goals, relying on competence in a particular field and psychological preparation.
Constructive approach
True friends are people who can focus on someone else's problem and seek constructive solutions. They give good advice that can really help. If the person near you really cares about you, he will give careful, thoughtful advice that takes into account many factors. If people of this type are close to you, consider yourself very lucky.
True friends are those who complement you. They can be very different and very different from you, but it is the difference in approaches that will allow you to solve complex tasks “one left”, if you took up the work together. Just if you want to make good friends, turn off the calculator in your head and learn independence. A strong person needs communication not for the opportunity to parasitize, but for rich leisure and bright personal growth. Learn to be friends - and share your strength with others.