Even though Orthodoxy is actively lobbying in Russia, progress does not stand still, and sexual education continues. In particular, the benefits of sexuality for women are assessed. And more and more people realize that her needs are more important than the old morality, which insists on the preservation of virginity.
Virgin club
Since the sexual revolution thundered, the girls themselves began to choose at what age it is better to lose their virginity. There are many proponents of sexual freedom. But there are people who adhere to other principles or find themselves a virgin after 25 years for some reason. It is noteworthy that there are many of them, and clubs of such people have even been repeatedly opened on the Russian Internet. They discuss the main problems faced by virgin girls at the age of 25.
Major issues
And in the first place is the social issue. Previously, a girl at 25 was considered an old maid, and even earlier, the vow of celibacy was valued by the church. Modern Russian society is a mixture of traditions of different eras. But for the most part, a woman who has long been waiting for her only one is taken with disdain. Problems arise - how to find someone who shares such beliefs, how to find a real man, a girl at 25 years old. Questions also arise regarding the effect of this period of abstinence on the psyche and physiology. After all, initially nature conceived that a girl is capable of performing a reproductive function from the moment of puberty. And she comes at age 16 in girls.
When they lose their virginity
According to official figures, girls in modern society do not seek sexual intercourse as early as possible. Only 15% have first sexual contact in their teens. But as a rule, it has the character of an experiment, without bringing much pleasure. Everything has its time.
As a rule, girls use this experience to arouse sexuality in themselves, to arouse attraction. After it, most often there is a long abstinence, since before the full sexual life they did not mature. The principle of "everything has its time" applies to young men. After the first sexual intercourse, a lull follows. And full-fledged sexual contacts with them begin at 17-20, at the time of admission to new educational institutions.
The danger of late virginity
As a rule, residents of Russian cities in 22 already have sexual experience, several partners. And about 20% of women remain virgins at 25. Sexologists say that with the onset of sexual activity in the latter category of women, the development of sensuality slows down somewhat compared with those who lost their virginity earlier than this age. As a rule, former virgins at 25 years old for another two to three years do not experience much pleasure from an intimate life.
At the same moment, sometimes they are left alone. Statistics say that only 18% of virgins at 25 years old get married. And this is typical for most countries of the world. For this reason, the requests of girls at 25 years old, when they are still virgin, are filled with some anxiety.
Also, representatives of the male sex distrust for some reason those who at this age have not yet had sexual intercourse. Even unconsciously, they may distrust the virgins at age 25, suspecting them of cunning.
Somewhat shocking were the results of research in this area. Men under hypnosis were asked about virgins at 25 years old. And most of them replied that they did not want to get involved with such women, since they suspected them of being not sincere.
The male sex avoids contact with women, whose sexuality is doubtful. Intimacy plays a crucial role for most men. For this reason, those who are estranged from sex, they consider suspicious and unattractive. They consider late deprivation of virginity as a sign of asexuality, they believe that therefore such a girl was alone for a long time.
In addition, society puts pressure on women who later lost their virginity. And a woman can get depressed for this reason. As psychologists say, such a problem is common.
Is the norm achieved
Sometimes late virginity is associated with delayed hormonal, psychological development. However, over time, such a woman can reach the norm. And someone from this category at an early age experiences attraction. And he understands that with the onset of sexual activity, their studies and work will suffer. And they resort to abstinence until they choose the optimal moment.
Effect on the psyche
Also, prolonged abstinence can lead to reduced self-esteem. After all, the entire surrounding society inspires inferiority to a virgin at 25 years old. And often pressure is experienced with difficulty, interest in life, self-esteem are lost. Gynecologists may also be tactless. Such girls can hardly share this secret with anyone, since few support them.
Myths
In Russian society, the myth that girls begin sexual life early is widespread. But as mentioned above, this is not so. Up to 16 years, 1 out of 4 schoolchildren entered into sexual contact, and every second student. The age of the beginning of an intimate life depends on how prosperous the family is, intellectual abilities, self-esteem and level of education.
The next myth says that the hymen in women becomes thicker over time and the later deprivation of virginity will be even more painful. But this is a prime fallacy based on ignorance. The spit density of all is different, and this does not depend on the age and other characteristics of the person. This is an innate characteristic. And if the pleva was elastic at 18, it remains so for life.
The fact is that sexual contact at an early age brings harm to the body. Pleva protects the body from infections during the formation of microflora in the vagina. And as a rule, stabilization occurs by the age of 18. Also, the epithelium in the vagina during adolescence is thin. Its formation ends by the age of 18. For this reason, it will not be difficult to injure him during sex. And in the end, this can lead to inflammation, adhesions and infertility.
Previously, the prevailing opinion was that migraine was a consequence of late virginity. Doctors also said that virgins in 25 actively appear acne. But in fact, such phenomena are provoked by hormonal disruptions. And they have nothing to do with the fact that a woman has a hymen.
The myth is that in the absence of sex life , you do not need to go to the gynecologist either. After all, a visit to this doctor is also necessary for the prevention of many ailments. With the onset of menstruation, it is necessary to go to the gynecologist at least once a year.
About deprivation of virginity
A virgin at 25 years old should remember that the first sexual intercourse is painful. And if the vessel is damaged, profuse bleeding may begin. But if a woman is aroused, there is a lot of lubrication, pain and blood will be less. Defloration can also be dangerous. And if the pain and blood remain longer than 2 days, this is a direct indication for visiting a gynecologist - the vaginal walls may have burst.
It’s best to pick up an experienced first partner. He will be able to excite the girl.
It is widely believed that pain will be less if defloration occurs in the bath. Indeed, warm water relaxes muscles and nerves. In this case, there are fewer cramps, and the pain will decrease. At the same time, water will flush the grease.
“If you are using a condom for the first time, there will be more pain,” reads the following misconception. Probably once it was. But modern products are impregnated with grease and do not affect defloration.
The myth is that it is impossible to get pregnant during the first sexual contact.
You also need to know that modern sexologists consider late virginity as a deviation, as it is believed that it increases the risks of mental disorder, as well as changes in the genital organs.
Stories
Some virgins, 25 years old and later, hide the fact that they still have hymen from their boyfriends, afraid to scare them away. Often they do not marry for a long time, and sometimes they never marry. Someone wants to have only one partner and begins to very strictly approach the selection of candidates.
They become ravens. At first, the future late virgin notes that the guys are happy that she did not yet have a partner, cherish the hope of becoming the first. However, the older the adult, the less such enthusiasm is encountered. As a result, the fact of virginity begins to be carefully hidden. And if it opens, this is followed by a lecture on how sex is needed for health and the proposal “to solve the problem”. But the late virgin still continues to search for a candidate for husbands. Gynecologists begin to meticulously question why the virgin is not yet married; society is also actively asking such questions, increasing pressure on the woman.
In some cases, religious beliefs affect the fact of a long storage of virginity. And even if a girl is attracted, she continues to endure. This is most clearly manifested in Muslim women, in families with strict mores. Such girls crave relationships, their body asks for natural physiological acts, but under strict education they continue to leave themselves with nothing, hoping to resolve this situation once.
Complexes
And complexes interfere with someone. And even in adolescence, such a future late virgin will not think about the "storage" of hymen until the wedding. As a rule, her friends lose their innocence at the end of school, and she is in no hurry. Often such a fate befell those who were brought up in a strict family. Seriously think about their position of such people makes approximately the 23rd birthday.
They communicate with representatives of the opposite sex, but in intimate relationships they do not represent themselves, they are even unpleasant to do this, and communication does not go beyond kisses. And men begin to react negatively to this, break off relations. And this, in turn, further aggravates negative feelings, mistrust of men at a virgin at 25 years old.
And she continues to look for someone she could trust. She tries to find guarantees that he does not disappear after the first night. Often, these women turn to psychotherapists in an attempt to resolve their issue. Sensuality in this category of women develops somewhat slowly, and they do not experience strong influxes of attraction.
And one of the women believes that sex before marriage leads to problems. It is widely believed that accidental sex is dangerous, and such women are afraid to have an intimate relationship before the wedding.
Religious motives
And someone, under the influence of religious motives, cherishes the dream of having only one man in his life - his husband. And often such late virgins have stories about how they quarreled with their boyfriends on the basis of sex. They are in pain because of this, parting with young people. But they try to be like nuns. Often such women believe that, having lost her virginity before marriage, the girl becomes unhappy.
The benefits of sex for women
In addition, sex is a natural physiological act, and its role for the body is great.
According to statistics, a woman with regular sexual life is less likely to suffer from flu viruses, colds. Sex increases the amount of antibodies in the body by 30%.
Intimate life reduces sensitivity to pain. It's all about the hormones produced. As well as those who regularly have sex, the mood rises. This is due to the activation of the nervous system and the parts of the brain that are responsible for sensuality.
Sex speeds up the metabolism, helping to fight extra pounds, and also slows down the aging process. Full sexual life provokes the production of collagen, as well as the hormone progesterone, which make the skin supple.