Quite often, parents encounter a problem when their 1-3-year-old child bites other children on the playground or in the kindergarten, gets nipped, in other words, behaves aggressively. It is scary and alarming. Why is the baby so belligerent?
Why does a child bite mom
Staying in the spotlight all the time is very difficult. “Mom is always busy with something, and if I bite her, she will definitely talk to me” - this is an approximate course of reasoning of a crumb that lacks parental attention. Further actions are clear to you. The kid bites his mother, not paying attention to him, and she cries out and starts to say something to him - the goal is achieved.
The thing is that a baby under three years old needs not only physical, but also emotional contact with his mother. And she seems to be nearby, but her thoughts are far away. The child acutely feels this and is trying to correct the situation. He does not care what the emotional reaction of the mother will be, the main thing is that she be!
What to do in this case
If attention requirements thus become frequent, think about how to change your home routine so that there is enough time for a warm, full of love and affection communication with the child.
If you are very busy, then remove the baby from yourself and calmly, but strictly looking into his eyes, say: “It hurts me. You can’t do this. Children do not bite. I'm busy right now, but you and I will play soon. ” Remember, your goal is to make it clear to the baby that his act is a serious problem, but do not yell at him and even less try to bite in response.
Baby bites children
If this happens in your presence, then immediately try to separate the quarrels. Even if you know that another child provoked such a reaction in your child, take care of this child. Comfort him, take pity. Pay all attention to the bitten baby. Ask: “Does it hurt? I feel so sorry for you!" Your child will understand that he has done something inappropriate. Invite him to apologize, and if he persists, then be alone: “You still do not know how to behave properly. But soon you will realize how boring it is when there is no one to play with. ”
A child bites children from an excess of emotions
Children from one to three years old still have too little vocabulary; they often do not have enough words to convey their emotions. A crumb is much easier to bite than to think and try to express your resentment or, conversely, an excess of positive feelings. Therefore, you must help him in this, teach him words and gestures that help in this: “I feel bad! I'm sad!" or "Hooray!". And if he is too angry and offended, let him stamp his foot, tear the offered piece of paper, hit his pillow with his fist.
If the child bites the children, he must be taken away from the scene and seated for some time alone (1-5 minutes). The kid must learn the connection between the cessation of the game and the fact that he began to bite. In addition, the overexcitation will pass while the baby is alone.
How to help a child
Do not reproach the child often. He may get used to it, stop paying attention to your words, or will do everything in spite. When punishing a baby, do not insult him, saying: “You are a bad boy! You are a bully! ” You should not talk about a bad son or daughter, but about a bad deed, emphasizing that your baby will surely recover, and each time making it clear that you love him.
Understand that if your child bites children, it means that it is difficult for him to communicate. And your duty is to help the baby and teach him good relations with others.