How to apologize to receive it?

Very often in our lives there are family dramas, quarrels, loss of friends, and all this because we do not know how to ask for forgiveness. It’s not enough to say a mean “sorry.” This must be done consciously, sincerely, sincerely, so that the offender does not find a way out and there is not a grain left from the chagrin. We will understand the article on how to apologize correctly.

Let's consider three basic rules

Do not be afraid - you are in no case demeaning your dignity, but only apologize for a specific offense. Yes, it’s hard to do, because acting means admitting guilt. The main thing is to realize the mistake.

So, to the rules. To forgive you:

1. Do not make excuses. When you start to make excuses and look for excuses, thereby transfer responsibility to another person, and this, in turn, repels your opponent.
2. Do not demand anything. It often happens that at first they apologize and then they say: "Well, you are also to blame, now apologize to me." Of course, there can be no question of forgiveness.
3. Do not blame. Sometimes emotions take over, and then instead of apologizing, you begin to recall old grievances. This can not be done in any case. After all, you get a vicious circle.

The main thing is not to make any claims and not make excuses. And, of course, you need to be sincere, look into the opponent’s eyes. We’ll give some tips on how to apologize correctly.

Psychologists' recommendations

According to psychologists, it is important not only to remain sincere, you need to choose the right time and place. So, how to apologize:

• First of all, it is necessary not only to accept, but also to acknowledge your guilt. The situation should be sorted out. But it can also happen that you are not to blame. After all, everyone has their own truth. But is it worth it, sometimes because of nonsense, to lose your dear relationship? Take the first step towards.
• You need to think not about yourself and your own experiences, but about the well-being of another person. There is no need to hurt his wounds if you are going to beg forgiveness insincerely.
• Try to look at the situation from the side, put yourself in the place of the offended.
• Think in advance how you will ask for forgiveness. You need to speak clearly and concisely, clearly. Try to convey your apologies to the opponent, say that you understand the feelings of the offended.
• Do not drag third parties.
• No need to take on someone else or exaggerate their guilt.
• Do not be intrusive. If the offender is not ready to accept an apology, do not prosecute him, do not give reasons why you should be heard. No need to put pressure on the person. Everyone has the right to choose.

And, of course, you need to apologize right away. The further delay this event, the more difficult it is to beg forgiveness later. After all, distrust of you will increase. Be prepared for the fact that the opponent will not accept your apology. Do not despair - this is his right. Perhaps he needs time to understand and make a decision. If he begins to raise his voice and insult, calmly listen, thank and leave. At least your conscience will be clear, you have done everything you could.

What words to choose?

Learn how to apologize correctly. What matters is how you start talking. The wording of the appeal should be as detailed as possible, for example: "I want to ask you for forgiveness." The word “want” shows that you sincerely express a desire to apologize, and no one forces you to do so. Avoid the phrases: “I'm sorry,” “Please forgive,” “I'm sorry,” “I'm sorry.”

Tell me at least three times that you have pleaded guilty. Only from the second time they will hear you, and from the third they will believe. Draw conclusions. Promise your opponent that this will not happen again, convincingly, so that they believe you. But at the same time, you need to clearly understand for yourself that you keep your word.

At the end of your apology, you can offer a gift in compensation for non-pecuniary damage, which may be flowers, money, or any other present.

How to apologize and answer last Sunday?

The last day of Shrovetide week provides an excellent opportunity to stop and remember who you offended and apologize. For many, the holiday has become a fashionable tradition. People utter words of forgiveness without investing any meaning, soul, or awareness. But you may not know about the grievances hidden on us.

A person can be offended not only by deed, but also by word and glance. Therefore, asking for forgiveness on Forgiveness Sunday is necessary with all your friends. The first is the senior in rank or age. First, they apologize to those who were offended by indelicacy, then from those with whom a difficult relationship has developed. The answer to the phrase “forgive me” follows with the words “God will forgive”.

How to apologize to a girl?

It doesn't matter if the ex apologizes or the spouse, the guy. This must be done sincerely. Consider common mistakes. What should be done:

1. Allow to cool. It is important that the girl walk away and calm down, you can wait a day or two.
2. Apologizing, you should not go on the offensive and say the response phrase: “But you ... You are the first to start ...” and so on. This will only aggravate the conflict situation and will not give a result.
3. Do not shade, be persistent and decisive.
4. No need to fall to your knees and play a performance. Give a bouquet, or rather make a surprise. To do this, use courier delivery with a pleasant sincere message in a postcard.
5. If a girl asks why you did this, simply answer: "Because you are a fool."

It’s better to apologize to your beloved in your own words. Let's consider some options:

• Honey, forgive me, for God's sake. I don’t know what came upon me, some kind of turbidity. I realized that I couldn’t live a minute without you, give me the opportunity to fix everything.
• Darling, I know that I committed a terrible misconduct, but I realized everything. It's hard for me without you, unbearably sad.
• I understand that you are angry with me. Yes, I’m a fool, I'm sorry, and very guilty, I was wrong that I vented my anger on you. Let's meet and spend the evening together.
• Forgive me, honey, let's not waste time offending. I sincerely recognized my guilt and really hope for your prudence and a big loving heart.

It doesn’t matter if you say the words in a meeting, on the phone, or ask for forgiveness in SMS messages. The main thing is that they be sincere and come from the heart.

Verses for Apologies

You can find poetry on the Internet, but it’s better to write it yourself. Let it come out and not very folding, but from the heart. For example:

• I love you infinitely, I want to scream about feelings. Hear me, beloved angel! Sorry! Can't wait to hug you!
• Forgive me, my love. I was a fool, repent and regret. I’ll go to any length to atone. Give me a chance, I will be able to prove to you!
• From separation it hurts and is sad. The act makes me sick. I'm very afraid of losing you. Without you I must be at the bottom.
• You are the best thing in my life! You are a ray of light and my love. I stumbled, I'm a fool, seriously! Let me see you again!
• Answer, please, do not be silent! I realized my mistake. I'll fix it, find the keys! And I’ll open your heart again.
• I betrayed you, there is no forgiveness to me. I dare not ask you for a chance. You only know that I love you. And I endlessly regret what happened.

If the little flame of love still glows in the girl’s heart, then it’s still possible to kindle it in a big flame. The main thing is not to give up.

Take advantage of social networks

We looked at options for asking forgiveness in verse, but there are still ways. So:

• Record a video with a declaration of love and recognition of the mistake and post it on her page "VKontakte", for example.
• Throw postcards with sincere words.
• Post a touching status on your page.
• And you can read poetry to a beautiful melody.

There are tons of ways to ask for forgiveness. The main thing is to really want it. But you can’t deceive and lie, otherwise you will not have a second chance.

If none of the ways help?

Suppose you asked for forgiveness correctly, but she holds on like a rock. Do not give up. So, she needs to give time to cool down and recover. Be patient. If the insult was strong, then it is better, of course, to explain in person. You can also:

• Meet from work and take to your favorite restaurant or to your holy place.
• Deliver the desired gift by courier.
• Arrange fireworks under the windows.
• Spray cans all asphalt in front of her house.

Include fantasy in your work. If your surprise is unexpected and sincere, she will certainly appreciate it and, perhaps, will forgive it soon. So, now we know how to ask for forgiveness from a loved one. How to melt a man’s heart?

Need to pick a moment

Of course, it’s better to apologize right after a fight. But you still have to focus on your man. Someone needs to cool down and recover, and with someone the conflict needs to be resolved immediately, otherwise it will grow like a snowball, turning into an avalanche.

There are some practical tips.

So, how to properly apologize to a guy:

1. Look only in the eyes, be sincere.
2. Apologizing, do not cross the line of accusations and claims.
3. Speak calmly. Never scream, control emotions.
4. Stop on time. A young man, after listening, may not give any reaction. But this does not mean that he did not forgive you. Perhaps he needs time to think, and you will begin to growl and speak out angrily. Then definitely ruin everything completely.
5. Show female cunning, hug, kiss, cook his favorite dish. Better have a romantic candlelight dinner. In the end, you can let a tear go, but only sincere.
6. Refer to him by name, so the information is better absorbed.
7. Apologizing, one should not remember his beloved sins. And to begin with the words: "Of course, I am to blame, but ...". This will immediately cause him discontent, because he will understand that you are trying to shield yourself.

Another tip: do not look at examples of apologies from your girlfriend or mom. All people are different and require an individual approach that you know better than others. To apologize to a guy via SMS is not a good idea, but making an appointment is an ideal option. And yet, if you decide to send a message:

• No need to write immediately after a quarrel and get your loved one with calls. This will make it even more angry.
• If the disorder is not serious, then you can write a comic message. Strong quarrels cannot be prayed for so easily. You can convey to your beloved that you admit guilt and experience pain from separation.
• No need to shout about frantic love. Leave all this lyrics for later. Do not blame him for what happened, do not demand changes in character. This will only close the circle of misunderstanding and resentment even more.

Do not forget that SMS messages and social networks are means for transmitting a message that you want a personal meeting. Do not reveal all the secrets.

Consider the mistakes made

What you should not do:

• Settle a conflict over the phone or via SMS.
• Maintain a long pause. You need to think about the fact that a loving person, especially in a quarrel, is bad not only morally, but even physically.
• Never blackmail. Once with your packed suitcases, you can stay outside the door. And suicide attempts can completely turn it down.
• Do not drop dignity. Do not throw tantrums, scandals - men do not like this.

It is always necessary to maintain common sense and to show wisdom. Do not chop the shoulder. After all, one simple quarrel can serve as an occasion for a difficult parting. One must be able to make concessions. So, we figured out how to apologize correctly. Yes, you can take the advice of psychologists, girlfriends or parents, but you can make the best decision yourself. Act intuitively and sincerely, as your heart commands, and everything will work out.