Japanese binding. The erotic art of shibari: how and why to bind your partner?

If you are in search of new sensual pleasures and sources of pleasure, then you should pay attention to the technique of Japanese shibari binding. This unhurried form of erotic art is able to give you and your partner many minutes of unforgettable pleasure.

What is shibari, where did it come from and why has it become popular, you will learn from this article.

What is shibari?

First of all, the concept implies the Japanese technique of human binding.

Of course, now the word “shibari” refers precisely to sexual practice, but this was not always the case. The term itself, translated from Japanese, means "weaving." Whether shibari is erotic or not is another matter.

History of occurrence

The ancestor of Japanese binding can be considered the Hojo-Jutsu technique. Her main task was to create such loops and knots so that the captive opponent could not throw them off. The true masters of hojo-jutsu did not think of shibari as the Japanese art of binding, for them the initial task was to immobilize the enemy: the loops did not give the rivals room for maneuver, and the knots pressed on the pain points.

How did it turn out that the art of captivity turned into amusement?

During the Edo period, Japan moved from hostilities to raising the economy and culture of its citizens. Then Hojo-jutsu and began its transformation into an erotic shibari. It first appeared on the stage, where actors tied a woman for the pleasure of the public.

In the future, shibari "migrated" to brothels and closed clubs. Masters used the Japanese binding of women with ropes to entertain more distinguished guests.

Why has shibari gained popularity?

The idea of ​​Japanese sexual bonding involves submission and dominance, which many couples like. Shibari can be considered one of the directions in BDSM, when the pair is divided into submissive (connected) and dominant.

In more aggressive practices, the dominant shibari may even decide whether its “victim” will breathe. Choking is also an element of BDSM.

Shibari is not for you if ...

Unfortunately, this technique is not for everyone. It requires a long immobility, which can cause health problems. You must abandon Japanese binding as a subordinate if:

1. You have diabetes. A session can last two or three hours. Are you sure the risk is worth it?
2. You have any kind of joint disease. Long immobility can impair their functioning and injure already damaged joints.
3. You have diseases of the blood and circulatory system. Shibari not only ensures the immobility of the connected, but can also cause difficulty in blood circulation due to too tightly knotted nodes. This is especially true if the amateur wants to connect you.
4. Your heart is junk. The loads during binding, despite the immobility, are quite high. Will your heart cope with them if it is weakened by disease or has malformations?
5. You have asthma attacks and epilepsy. With sudden movements, there is a risk of harming yourself due to the self-tightening of the ropes. Shibari can also cause difficulty breathing.
6. You experience pressure drops or are prone to tachycardia.

The importance of training

Shibari can be considered an erotic technique "for advanced". If you act incorrectly or do not follow the binding technique, you can greatly harm another person. Therefore, to do without excesses, it is necessary:

• Familiarize yourself with safety precautions. Read it carefully and then retell it to your partner.
• Buy the right rope. The comfort of the connected and the convenience of blending nodes depend on it.
• Practice overlaying the main nodes.
• Prepare things you might need during a Japanese binding session.
• If possible, attend a seminar or shibari lessons.

Safety precautions

1. Discuss your stop word with your partner in advance. It will be needed if he feels discomfort during binding. It is better that this stop word is not used in sexual practice and is short. For example, a caliper is, of course, a good option, but can you pronounce it if it hurts? So stop at something shorter (a “mouse,” “varnish,” or “wallpaper” would do).
2. Be especially careful when attaching nodes to the neck and wrists, as well as around the femoral artery. Refrain from nodes near the radial nerve and in the armpits, this can be deadly.
3. Do not over tighten the ropes. Optimally, if they braid the body, but do not stick into it. If you are not sure whether the ropes are properly tightened, try sticking your fingers under them. Between the fetters and the body, one finger should fit without problems.
4. It is good if the person connected has at least medium physical fitness and high flexibility. Without these qualities, the probability of injury increases significantly.
5. For the binder, basic knowledge of anatomy will be useful. This will allow not only finding erogenous zones on the body of the submissive, but also avoiding the accidental pinching of large veins and arteries.
6. Do not even think about hanging a connected person if you have not attended special courses and seminars. Excessively tightened knot, too weak rope tension and improper positioning of the support ropes - all this can lead to the death of your partner. Hanging shibari is a whole science, for proper binding for hanging you need to have a tremendous array of knowledge on this topic.

Necessary things

Before starting a session, prepare the following things:

1. Scissors or knife. They will be required if it is necessary to cut the rope. Unraveling the knots can be too long, so be sure to have something sharp next to it.
2. First Aid Kit. It should have ammonia, iodine and a healing cream. You may need bandages. But all this will be useful to you only if you are not careful enough with your partner.
3. Blanket or clothes. After the Japanese shibari, the bound will be tired and chilled. Due to prolonged immobility, blood flow will deteriorate, so it’s better to cook something warm.
4. Water and food. A Japanese binding session can last more than five hours. Surely you are hungry. In addition, feeding a related partner can be unexpectedly erotic.

How to choose a rope

The main element for Japanese binding is, of course, the rope. And then the question arises: how to choose it? After all, a poor-quality rope can harm the submissive by wiping the skin to blood.

The main qualities of a good rope:

1. It should stretch well. This is necessary to maximize the comfort of being connected and to avoid unnecessary calluses.
2. It must be durable. Everything is clear here: a bad rope will break at the most crucial moment. What kind of romance and aesthetics can one talk about in this case?
3. She must be new. Change the ropes once a year. Old ropes are significantly inferior to new ones in strength and tensile strength.
4. A rope that is too thin will crash into the body. Choose those that are about 8 mm wide.

You can choose both a synthetic rope, and made of natural materials. Masters prefer the latter: they do not rub the skin, are pleasant to the touch and hold their shape for a long time. In addition, synthetics will slip when tying knots, complicating your work and depriving you of pleasure.

The length of the rope depends on what you plan to do. On average, 12-15 meters are enough for tying the female body, however, for smaller shibari elements, you can purchase short pieces of rope (4 meters).

Possible problems

1. The occurrence of pain should be discussed immediately. In no case can not tolerate even the slightest inconvenience! Shibari is a long practice, so a little sprain can be extremely detrimental to your health.
2. Talk with a related partner before having sex. How does he feel? Does nothing hurt? Is your head spinning? Only making sure of its adequate condition, you can indulge in love joys.
3. If hematomas and severe redness appear, you must immediately stop the session. Vascular damage is a real scourge of Japanese binding.
4. Dominants need to closely monitor the state of the associated. Remember that his health and life depend on you! If you see that the submissive begins to behave inappropriately, roll its eyes and breathe hoarsely, then clarify its state of health. Ask the couple a few questions: what is his name, where does he live, what is his favorite color, and what kind of stop word have you chosen. If you get an indistinct answer and have difficulty with it, immediately cut the ropes.

Essential elements

• Hands binding in front. Only the wrists are wrapped with a rope, in rare cases the loops fall on the fingers. Despite the apparent simplicity of this element of Japanese binding, hands are almost impossible to free from it.
• Hands fixation at the back. In this case, the hands are wound behind the back and are tied from the palms to the shoulders. Also, the rope fixes the shoulders and torso. A rather complex element, but practically not hazardous to health. Do not leave your partner tied to this technique for a long time, your hands may leak.
• Fixation of bent legs. Occurs due to the binding of calves and hips. It completely makes it impossible to straighten your legs, because your body will actively resist you. Be careful with this element: unlike the others, it can seriously harm with diseases of the knee joints. And with healthy knees, it is also better not to stay in one position for longer than three hours.
• Tying straight legs. It is produced from the ankles to the knees, the legs cross and very closely pressed against each other. As a result, they can be bent, but they cannot be arranged.
• Aesthetic torso strapping. The most famous example is the isolation of the female breast using Japanese binding. Such nodes do not reduce mobility, but they can become a piquant highlight in the relationship: this shibari element can be worn even under clothes. No one will know.

Shibari feelings and aesthetics

In everyday life, we do not pay too much attention to our own bodies. For us, it simply exists, we do not even feel its borders. Only with long observation of oneself and special meditative practice does one realize awareness of one's body.

Knots and ropes encircle the torso and are slightly pressed into the skin. You feel the boundaries of yourself in space, pay attention to the skin and muscles, feel the support thanks to the Japanese shibari.

A carefully crafted composition can be perceived as a work of art. Japanese erotic bonding is designed to delight aesthetics and only then sexual impulses. In Japan, this technique is poorly perceived as sexual. For the Japanese, shibari is erotica, a kind of leisurely art. Enjoyment is implied both during binding, and when admiring the result.

So if you are only worried about the question of how to have sex with shibari, then it is better to postpone binding for later.