For a young man to initiate the transition of friendships with a girl into a deeper sphere of intimate communication is always an important step that cannot be made spontaneously. In childhood, the proposal to meet means a completely different thing than in late adolescence or youth. A guy, even if he is serious, should remember that each phase of the relationship has its own charm and trying to get ahead of events or push the girl to difficult decisions is not worth it.
So what does it mean to date a girl?
Dating is how?
What do the words “date a girl” mean? Having the intention to approach the chosen one with this proposal, the guy most likely represents the future relationship as a continuous series of pleasant events. And this is partly true - the period of dates is filled with a unique feeling of happiness, especially if the girl fully answers the feelings of her lover.
However, along with the joy of the closeness of a loved one, the young man also receives a significant share of responsibility for his girlfriend. In addition to the fact that the girl will need to be protected from any manifestations of aggression from the outside, the young man will also have to defend her right to be present in her life. Many of his relatives or friends may be opposed to the relationship, and the decisiveness with which the young man stands for his love will play a big role in the development of tender feelings.
What does it mean to date a girl? Staying true and counting on reciprocal fidelity, being on the side of your girlfriend in any disputed moments and being able to listen - all this can become pleasant responsibilities if you do not perceive them as a heavy burden. Even difficult situations that develop during the construction of new relationships can become a reliable platform for the further growth of young love.
Preparing for an important step
Before you call a girl on a first date, you need to try to reduce the likelihood of a refusal on her part, or rather, she needs to like it. Young people can know each other all their lives, but only in the prospect of future relationships does the girl look at the young man with “wide eyes”, evaluating him no longer as a comrade, but as a potential life partner. After all, meeting a girl (which means also meeting at least partially her expectations) is also an opportunity to look at yourself as an adult.
The guy should remember everything that he previously knew about the interests of the girl, about her preferences and rejections. If he does not have such information, you can search for the necessary material in social networks, on the personal page of the chosen one, but psychologists do not recommend asking her friends. It is not known in what form this information will reach the girl, and how she will perceive the news that “digging” behind her back in her life. It is better to approach her with a proposal poorly prepared and armed only with his sympathy, than knowingly run into hostility.
What does it mean to invite a girl to meet and how to do it?
First, the young man should make sure that his sympathy for the girl is dictated by stronger impulses than friendship. For love experiences, you can take a strong physical attraction, not associated with high feelings, and the excitement of competition for the heart of a "popular" girl. Having excluded the possibility of an erroneous perception of the situation, it remains only to act:
- We need to find out what are the chances that the girl will respond to the proposal positively. To do this, you need to compare all available information about its interests and prepare a plan for further action, taking into account all the information collected.
- The way to offer the chosen one to be together does not have to be original and certainly not public. The young man should remember that this is not a request to marry him and excessive pomposity can only embarrass the girl.
- Having made a decision, you should act quickly, and not walk around your girlfriend, leading her into confusion with his hints.
Of course, it may happen that the girl’s plans do not include a serious relationship, or her heart is already taken. In this case, do not focus on failure and devote more time to self-realization. Still, what does it mean to start dating a girl?
If you like a classmate
What does it mean to date a girl 14 years old or younger? The specifics of the age of the chosen one does not yet imply active romantic actions on the part of the satellite. A teenage girl wants to feel like an adult, but physiologically she is not yet ready for intimacy and will carefully avoid any form of intimate caresses (except for kisses).
If a young man is the same age as a girl, there are no big difficulties in observing a certain distance. The main thing for young people is not to follow curiosity or try to completely copy the behavior of older couples. In adulthood, there are many other interesting points worthy of imitation, for example - the ability to trust each other or to be faithful.
For older children
What does it mean to meet with a girl of graduation or student age? It is important for older girls to see next to them not so much “popular” as a substantial young man with prospects.
A sense of humor and the ability to be yourself under any circumstances will help a guy to focus on himself. Any attempts by a guy to attribute to himself unusual qualities or create the illusion of a more successful personality around him are obviously doomed to failure and will only prevent them from capturing the heart of the desired person.
In addition to working on himself (improving the ability to conduct a conversation and forming a decent external image), a young man should think about the need to have personal money. Not too often, but from time to time a girlfriend will need to be taken to the cinema or cafeteria, to please her with small gifts.
If a young man is still in school and is not able to earn extra money, he can talk with his parents and ask him to allocate money for personal expenses. The student is quite capable of getting a job with an hourly pay and proving this, first of all, to himself that he is ready for an independent life.
Proper behavior is the key to success
Inviting a girl to meet (which means taking on the responsibility to support her in all areas of life), the guy should not forget that the time of youth is a period of easy relations, without burdening with overwhelming duties. A young man (except in individual cases) should not take upon himself the full material content of his girlfriend, meet all her desires or become “his own man” in the circle of her family.
Proper placement of emphasis in a relationship is a very important point that does not have to be discussed directly. A guy can simply hint to his chosen one that he is not yet ready to get acquainted with her parents or that the amount of his extra income does not match her desire to rent a separate apartment.
The decision to lead a full sex life is also not a question that any of the partners can take independently. If a girl wants to meet (which means her willingness to enter adulthood), this does not mean her desire to have sex. Haste in such a delicate subject can harm rather than deepen tender feelings. In any case, the guys should get to know each other better before moving on to intimate relationships.
What to do if a girl refuses
What does it mean to meet a girl, if the circumstances are successful, it is no longer a secret, but when the chosen one rejects the proposal to be together? There can be many reasons for this behavior of a friend:
- the guy failed to express his desire to meet the right words;
- the girl’s ideas about the “prince” do not coincide with the image of the young man;
- the guy was too intrusive;
- the young man has built up an unfavorable reputation.
Difficulties can also be found in the life of the girl herself, for example, her parents do not allow her to meet with boys until graduation. Having been refused, the young man has the right to ask about his reason, but should not turn the conversation in such a way that the girl was forced to make excuses.
If the feelings of the young man are strong enough, and he is not ready to abandon plans for his beloved, he can continue to be with her, showing her attention as a faithful companion. In any case, the girl will not forget the proposal made to her once and, possibly, will later reconsider her attitude to the guy.
Moving from dating to relationships
A serious relationship for a young couple starts from the moment they decide on a joint future. Not necessarily, voicing their desire to get married or move to a new level of intimacy, young people should immediately begin to live together, because often young lovers simply do not have a sufficient material basis for this. However, there are circumstances that enter into force without fail, as soon as a young couple changes the phase of easy relations to serious ones (for example, acquaintance with relatives).
Usually, at the beginning of the journey, young people need help from their parents, as from people more experienced in life matters and financially secure. However, relatives are not always ready to provide this help, believing that youthful love requires more time testing or that a girl and a guy do not suit each other well.
Faced with opposition, young people must show steadfastness, but this can be done only on one condition: having proved by their actions that their decision to be together is sound and not subject to discussion. The young man should (without interrupting his studies) start earning money, and the girl should learn how to housekeeping. After making sure that beloved ones take their future with all seriousness, even the most zealous skeptics will calm down and stop obstructing.