First love ... Sooner or later it comes to everyone. And it doesn’t matter whether a person wants it or not, it sweeps the boundaries of reality, carries away into the world of dreams, emotions, keenness of feelings, and sometimes, alas, great disappointments. First love always appears when you are not waiting for it at all. Most often this happens during school years. Of course, there are people who with a smile remember the feelings that surged in the younger group of the kindergarten, but they can hardly be seriously called true love.
And indeed, the first emotions that people experience in relation to the opposite sex often bring only pain and disappointment. Many are already subconsciously ready for this, having read books and having listened to other people's stories. They believe that the first love will pass, and another will come for it. And the facts prove that this is so. Such feelings rarely arise for the last time. And stories when a person connected his life with the object of first love are generally rare. But this does not mean at all that the new feelings that arose in adolescence can be considered something stupid, frivolous, childish.
According to psychologists, first love is a serious test for a person’s personality. The future depends on what it will be, that is, how relations with representatives of the opposite sex will develop in the future. Experts say that, ideally, youthful love should be fully completed. Such a feeling should later simply be remembered with a slight sadness, smile, or warmth. But, unfortunately, situations where the image of the first lover pursues all his life are far from rare. Very often it is women who face them. Perhaps they are more vulnerable than men, they are more serious about everything and are prone to exaggeration. But, nevertheless, ladies often get stuck in their feelings about first love, and feel severe pain, can not build normal relationships with those people who are close, with real men. You can’t remember your whole life the first kiss or sexual experience with a loved one, thinking that there will be nothing more divine. Yes, first love is not forgotten, and this is a fact. But remember it is necessary only at the edge of consciousness.
Memories of first love most often come to those young women who have not been able to find happiness in family life. That is, they can be married, give birth and raise children, but all their lives torment themselves with thoughts of Him. Although in fact, He had long forgotten about their existence, and in general did nothing good for them: neither in the past, nor even in the present. Women who, like masochists, always remember the past, need to stop plaguing themselves and others. Better to solve your problems in the real world.
It also happens that those who simply love to suffer idealize their feelings of youth. Such women enjoy being unhappy. They come up with a continuation of the failed stories and live them in the head over and over again. There are also instances that tend to split feelings. They love the current spouse, but at the same time, they do not let go of their old feelings.
What advice can be given to such sufferers? Live in the present. And if the first love brought you the strongest emotions, and then became the cause of incredible pain and disappointment, let it go. Nobody is able to forget her, but life alone will not lead to anything good with memories. Everything that happens to people happens as it should be. Therefore, it is worth saying fate “thank you” for having once given such strong feelings. And if they left a “scar” on the heart, caused pain, then this is just a sign that you live. A new feeling, if one truly reveals one's soul to him, can truly become a panacea for suffering.