Many forums have touched on the existence of true friends and friendships. A huge number of people expressed their opinion on this matter. At the same time, someone believes that the best friend exists, while someone believes that friendship is a relative concept and over time it passes. So is there really real friendship, and the best friends are myth or reality? So let's try to figure it out.
To at least somehow answer this question, I had to find out information and structure it into a separate accumulative base. So, having collected everything you need, I had to single out three main questions that give the alleged portrait of a best friend. So, let's begin.
To begin with, you still had to understand, so what is friendship? Friendship is a stable and long-term relationship between people, which should be based not only on mutual understanding, mutual assistance, experience, selflessness and much more. But that is not all. Friends in life must follow common goals, attitudes, interests, intentions and ideals. The best friend will always understand you perfectly and can always come to peace.
Friends and pals, what's the difference ?
Friendship should not depend on personal communication, because my best friend, wherever he is, will always remain the best friend. If we talk about friendships, then they just depend on constant communication. It turns out that if there is no communication, then there is no friend. Although most of all we communicate with friends.
The qualities of true friends
- Spiritual intimacy. Intimacy of souls in friendship is of paramount importance. After all, no common interests can unite people for a long time. A best friend will always find a soul mate and be able to empathize with her.
- Support. We need friends for this. But at the same time, support should not be limited to anything - it should be in everything. True friends are known not only in joy, but also in trouble. A friend’s success will never be the envy of a best friend. Rather, a best friend will also rejoice with you. That is how true friendship is checked or not.
- Honesty. Even if there is an unpleasant situation, a friend must remain honest. If your friendship is not frank, and one of you is hiding something, then this friendship can not be called true.
- Reliability. This is one of the most important qualities present in true friendship. If you have a best friend, and from time to time you can cry to him in a waistcoat and talk about your problems, without being afraid that others will find out about this, then you are very lucky.
- Devotion. Remember: a loyal friend is a true friend.
- Care. Friends always care about each other, regardless of the circumstances.
- Confidence. If you have confidence that a friend will always come to the rescue and will never leave you in trouble, and will also be a reliable support, then this is real friendship.
- Unselfishness. Taking the initiative into your own hands, even if you do not ask at all, is a sign of a true friend.
If at least one of these qualities is absent, or is not fully manifested, then this is not friendship, such relations are called friendly.
The difference between male and female friendship
In order to better understand this difference, I will cite an anecdote as an example.
Imagine a situation when a wife did not return home after a party. A husband calls ten of her friends and they all answer his question about whether they know where his wife is and answer no. The same situation, only with her husband. The wife calls ten friends, 7 of whom report that the husband spent the night at their place, and three claim that the husband is still with them, just sleeping.
Many believe that the best friend is a man. Judging by the joke, these conclusions are not made from the air.
So to summarize. The best friend is a person who is not only knowledgeable about your past, but also completely sure that you have a great future, and in the present accepts you as you are.