New meetings always make a person worry and worried, because I want to present myself in a good light, like the interlocutor, interest and leave after positive communication only positive impressions and emotions. Familiarity of parents with the guy’s parents is especially nervous. After all, how the dialogue will take place between all participants in the meeting depends on how further relations develop. Perhaps in the future, the girl and the guy will start a family. Then avoid regular meetings between relatives will not work.
Perfect acquaintance
Such a meeting takes place only after the first meeting with the guy’s parents took place, and the girl is familiar with the relatives of the beloved, knows what kind of people they are, what they do, what they love and what they are fond of. So tell your mom and dad about them so that you get the right idea. They should be aware of the main points. And at the same time think together where to go, how to behave, what to talk about. Do not be afraid to heed the opinions of elders. After all, they wish you only the very best, they want their child to be happy, not to know the sorrows.
Is the boy’s parents getting to know the girl’s parents? No need to be afraid, everything will go fine if you plan your tactics in advance, think over your appearance. In general, consider even the smallest nuances.
Choice of outfit and makeup
Regardless of the place where the parents first meet the guy’s parents , don’t wear short things: a skirt, a dress. Be natural, no pretentiousness. A prerequisite is a minimum of makeup.
If you go to a restaurant or cafe, for a gala dinner or dinner, then the length of the outfit is up to the knees. If an acquaintance of a guy’s parents with a girl and her family occurs in an informal setting, then do not overdo the image, be simpler. Of course, you must be beautiful, no matter where the meeting takes place.
Behavior tactics
Follow the rules of etiquette. During lunch, sit down at the place where you were invited to sit down. Name the guy’s parents by first name and patronymic, thereby showing respect and attention to them. You do not need these “Aunt Natasha” or “Uncle Petya”. Such treatment is unacceptable. Also, do not immediately contact: mom, dad. It is still unknown how your relationship with the guy will turn out, whether it comes to the wedding, in general, no familiarity. Do not lie or exaggerate your dignity and merits, do not be false and deliberately ostentatious. Artificiality and deception will quickly reveal themselves and make a negative impression on the relatives of the beloved.
Advice
Behave naturally, try not to show your excitement. If you can’t help but worry, then drink valerian before going to your parents.
By the way, in order not to embarrass the guy’s parents, ask your mother not to take photos from the days of your carefree childhood. For example, where you are posing while sitting on a pot, or lying naked on a sofa, etc. Also ask your relatives not to go into nostalgic memories associated with your participation.
Conversation topics
So, here it is, a long-awaited acquaintance with the guy’s parents! How to behave, what to say, so that the conversation is not boring and tense, but is held at the highest level?
Key topics and conversation rules:
- do not ask questions first; if you are addressing the relatives of a loved one, avoid unnecessary questions that make them uncomfortable;
- do not praise the interior and decoration of the apartment / house / cottage, excessive flattery is inappropriate (provided that you understand the decor and arrangement of housing, you can clarify something, offer something);
- obsession and excessive attention and care will adversely affect the overall impression of you as a person;
- smile at the guy’s mother first, give her a compliment, the smile should be sincere and good-natured;
Choose neutral topics for communication, try to establish contact between your parents. Find common ground, even if your family is fundamentally opposed in terms of both views and lifestyle. Suppose a father and a boy’s mother are from the village, ordinary people, and their own girls are the “cream of society”, city dwellers, so to speak, intelligentsia. The total between them is zero point zero percent. But it is necessary to somehow unite them, bring them closer. What will help? Of course you are their children! Perhaps the parents will recall funny funny cases related to your upbringing or growing up, let them share thoughts about your future together or plans for grandchildren. Then you will not even notice how the time of acquaintance will fly by, and you will not feel tension and awkwardness.
Praise your relatives, tell us how wonderful they are, that you love and respect them. They will be doubly pleased that the child treats them like that and is proud of their mother and father.
You don’t need to do this!
So the day has come when the acquaintance with the guy’s parents will take place. The tips that you must adhere to nullify all the unpleasant moments are presented below.
What should not be done when meeting young:
- do not quarrel and do not sort things out;
- Do not show excessive love for each other;
- Do not scold or criticize your beloved or beloved;
- Do not point out each other's shortcomings;
- no need to kiss or cuddle endlessly, parents already understand that you love and are loved;
- In no case do not be late for a meeting, it is indecent and will put you in an unsightly light! Punctuality - First of all, try to appear 10 minutes before the appointed time.
Gifts
Gifts are a guarantee that the acquaintance of parents with the guy’s parents will take place on a good-natured and pleasant note. But there are rules that must be followed when presenting a present:
- flowers are a universal gift for both men and women, just keep in mind that bouquets are different;
- do not give expensive presents so that parents do not feel uncomfortable;
- Be sure to give gifts to both parties (both yours and his mom and dad), this principle works flawlessly, as all relatives will be glad that they have not been forgotten, that they paid attention to everyone.
After all, the most important thing is care, which manifests itself even in trinkets, trifles. Please your parents, pleasant emotions at a meeting will create a welcoming atmosphere. Take with you a bottle of good wine, provided that all relatives drink alcohol. If the acquaintance takes place in an informal setting, at a picnic, then make a barbecue, buy quality beer, or maybe something stronger, then communication will improve faster.
Conclusion
Let your parents meet the guy’s parents will be the starting point in your relationship, which will grow into a wedding, and then into a carefree family idyll! Do not be afraid that you will not be able to 100% like the mom and dad of a loved one. Do not despair, because all people are different, with their own oddities and "cockroaches in their head." The most important thing is how you relate to each other, your feelings, mutual love and trust. Parents, both girls and the groom, will understand that your couple is perfect, but what else is needed? To make the children happy. Or maybe the first meeting will mark the creation of a strong, large and friendly family, in which laughter, good nature, coziness and joy will always reign!