Very often you can hear complaints and talk about the infantility of men and women. But for some reason, this no longer surprises or discourages anyone. Life in a modern rhythm sometimes itself pushes us to such behavior, stops the person growing up in a person and keeps a small, if not unintelligent child, inside an adult. The deification of youth and eternal youth, the enormous choice of entertainments that modern culture offers - this is what provokes a small child, who is deep inside each of us, to wake up and sometimes say too loudly about himself, while far moving the adult away. But, unfortunately, very many begin to like such a childish adult life and they are in no hurry to return everything to normal. Often, parents are to blame for this, especially mothers who want to delay the growth of their child longer.
But sooner or later, such a moment comes when their beloved children express a natural desire to marry. And then there are problems in their family life and well-grounded complaints from satellites.
An infantile man is absolutely not ready for such a way of life, he cannot understand what his wife wants.
Infantile behavior, both of the stronger sex, and of the weaker sex, what is it? What is it manifested in?
An infantile man is a man who has preserved a children's perception of the world, pronounced childish features. Undoubtedly, they can successfully disguise themselves as maturity, but this is more like quantity than quality.
So what are these features?
1. Egocentrism is an obsession with oneself purely on oneself. For a small child, this is quite natural. Because of his perception and age, he cannot understand that people are different and see the world around them in different ways. But in a seemingly adult, it is strange to observe too expressed egocentrism. Recently, this has become, unfortunately, a common occurrence. How does an infantile man behave? He is absolutely sure that everything around was created only for him and the world should revolve only around his beloved. Others are good only when they do something for him. After all, it is precisely the desire to satisfy one’s needs for warmth, love, protection and support from an infantile man that is the most valuable asset. Other people, their experiences they are not interested at all. Such people are inherent in the belief that only they are always and in everything right. But when problems arise in relationships, it usually sounds like “I don’t understand others” but “people don’t understand me.”
2. Dependence - in this case one must understand not life at the expense of other people, but inability or unwillingness to serve oneself. Usually wives complain about such behavior - the husband is completely not taking the initiative in housework and, of course, serving him is a huge problem. Wash, clean, wash the dishes - not a man's job. There is a spouse who will do it with pleasure and even have to say thank you. The killing argument is her husband’s words, “I earn and bring money to my family”.
3. The game - it is she who plays the main role among the other types of life. Indeed, the era of the Internet is great, which provides a huge selection of entertainment and games that make it possible not to "die" from boredom.
In fact, an infantile man is good for one day, that is, play, have fun with him is possible and very good. Such people have the ability to win over people. Is your new acquaintance the soul of the company, merry fellow? Most likely, this is an infantile man who is currently in his native element.
4. Inability to make decisions. To make some important decision, you need to have a well-developed willpower, but this is one of the components of a strong personality, and where can it come from such men? An adult is able to act in spite of fatigue, in spite of various difficulties, while relying only on his own willpower. But for a child, the words “I can’t”, “difficult” are a very weighty argument not to do something. An infantile man tries to choose the least difficult path for himself.
When infantile people are faced with reality, they prefer to hide behind invented rules or try to arrange complete anarchy at the same time, denying all sorts of restrictions that life sets.
It is in such trifles that infantility of men, and women, is also manifested. But to be fair, we all begin with this. Each of us reaches maturity at completely different times, or vice versa never reaches. It depends on what kind of life we ​​see. We meet her with all the difficulties and failures, or, conversely, she is like an eternal holiday ... There is one factor through which the infantile man cannot or does not want to step over. It is a pain. It is she who makes of many adults sometimes even earlier than the set time. This is the pain of mistakes, it is eternal fear for loved ones and loved ones.
Having no desire to accept this, infantile men are drawn to mature women as if awakening parental care from them. If they find their sacrifice (and you can’t say otherwise), they will forever receive strong support and the opportunity to be an eternal child. By the way, an infantile man and an infantile woman can never live as a family, because any child needs parents.
What to do with such children? Well, perhaps it all depends on you. Do you want real life or be an eternal nanny? If you are tired of such a role, then it is most right to leave, quit it. Do not be afraid that without your guardianship such a person will disappear. Not at all. For his age, enough of these "mothers." But if you get peace of mind from such a union, then you should not change anything.
The most important thing should be your decision how and with whom to live.