Many parents are faced with the fact that their child does not behave at all as expected. This is not about moodiness and disobedience, but that is much more serious. Many for the time being do not believe that their baby can become angry, aggressive and uncontrollable in an instant. This may begin unexpectedly or may appear gradually. In principle, child aggression is a phenomenon that does not surprise anyone except the parents of an aggressive child. This question should be analyzed in detail, since it is complex and very important.
Aggression in children: what is it
Not everyone knows, but in fact it is more likely the norm than a deviation. Just in this way the child expresses the accumulated emotions: anger, rage - these are quite natural answers to some irritants. Problems begin only when aggression in children does not go away. In other words, a surge of anger does not lead to the fact that the child comes to a normal state. What it can lead to. There can be many consequences. The most terrible of them, perhaps, is the irreparable deformation of the personality of the child.
Aggression in children can occur at any age. It is not worthwhile to focus attention on children who have reached a transitional age, since the situation with them is already clear (hormones, etc.), but it’s better to talk about children who are younger.
The causes of child aggression may be different. First of all, it is worth saying that a one-year-old child is able to understand and evaluate everything that is happening around him. Even the slightest quarrel between parents can hurt his psyche. Many couples consider family scandals the norm and do not even try to somehow protect the child from them.
It is very good if child aggression was noticed very early. In this case, the parents can block her, and everything will be fine with the child. What needs to be done for this? First of all, you need to protect the child from everything that can at least somehow annoy him. All this must be done so that he does not notice anything. Further, it is worth explaining that in his behavior they are not the ones, but at the same time tell about why this is bad. You need to speak only very calmly and benevolently. No criticism or severe punishment. Here the situation can be corrected only by kindness.
If this does not help, then follow the child for a while, as this can help you establish the cause of his aggressive behavior. It is possible that your child is just not enough attention.
Children under three years of age often react aggressively to the word "no." For the most part, this indicates that he is very spoiled. He deliberately provokes his parents, and then watches how they will act, trying to stop his actions. He regards any prohibition as a challenge.
Children from three years old in attacks of aggression say the phrase "I myself". This means that the child strives for independence, and his parents are no longer an authority. Children of this age very often cease to respect adults.
Aggression in children is a common phenomenon. Parents should respond adequately to it. First of all, they should understand the fact that young children are not able to understand someone else's pain, which means that persuasion and even tears will not lead to anything. The best option here is to redirect the child’s energy in a different direction. For example, a child screaming in a room can be invited to the bathroom, saying that there it will be much better for him to scream. Arriving in the bathroom, turn on the water and ask the child to shout out its noise. Open the tap less, then stronger. Very soon, the child will calm down and even cheer.
With aggressive children you need to work unobtrusively and quietly. Only then can good results be achieved.