Aggression of a child can be the result of a combination of many reasons. Having figured out what exactly is the basis for the occurrence of destructive phenomena in the psyche of a little man, you can eliminate painful factors or help adapt to them. The reasons for the child’s aggressive behavior are more often found in family problems.
Unwanted children deplete the nervous system in attempts to prove that they are good
Even families that really wanted a child fall into a similar situation. But mom and dad hoped that a boy would be born, and a girl was born, or vice versa. A child who was born as a result of an unplanned pregnancy, regardless of the circumstances, is doomed to prove his worth in his family all his life. Therefore, he is prone to bouts of aggression, as he understands the attitude of parents on the facial expressions and intonation of the conversation.
Hostile parents provoke children to aggressive behavior
The indifference of the parents is "read" by the child, as a hostile attitude towards him. After all, children are maximalists, they interpret the lack of love in the family as hatred. Why is it so difficult for adults to show affection and affection? The reasons are different, sometimes insurmountable within themselves. It is difficult for mother to love children very similar to her father, who betrayed her and left for another woman. Dad, who suspects his wife of cheating, projects a negative attitude on everything connected with her. And children are the most powerful connection. Sometimes a double-digit feeling arises for a son or daughter because they love a mother-in-law or a mother-in-law with whom a peaceful dialogue has not developed. A situation is emerging that fully justifies children's aggression. The child is simply protected from parental hostility. By virtue of the children's mindset, aggression works as a defense against indifference.
Adult family conflicts cause aggressive behavior
When parents quarrel, especially in front of children, psychologists talk about the destruction of emotional bonds within the family. Against the background of this adverse phenomenon, the level of aggression of children increases naturally with the frequency of quarrels. A randomly abandoned offensive phrase that both adults forget about after five minutes can be worked out by the children's mind many times, for a long time. Impressive children are able to repeatedly experience the quarrels of their parents with a whole set of negative emotions. The situation is aggravated if by chance someone during a stormy showdown of relations accidentally throws a phrase that hurts children's vanity.
In a child you need to see a personality
Parental cautionary remarks in many cases trigger aggressive behavior. The situation is precisely in this way, when, due to his own bad manners, the father or mother crosses the boundaries of elementary tact in relation to children. Edifying intonation takes on a humiliating and offensive accent. These are those irritants that, according to all the rules of theory and practice, cause anger in a sane person. If you publicly demonstrate neglect of the child as a person, this is fraught with many complex complexes that will haunt a person in adulthood.
Total parental control pushes children to aggressive behavior
Exaggerated custody of the child negatively affects his psyche. Strict conditions of discipline do not leave room in the development of children for the release of natural negative emotions. The more time a boy or girl will be in a state of accumulation of unpleasant feelings that suppress their personal desires and opinions, the more harm their passive-aggressive behavior will bring. The line between decent severity and flashy brutality is much thinner than it seems to the average father or mother, mired in the settings of personal career growth.