Great if you have a beloved man. But how to preserve the riot of feelings that was first, for many years?
Be not only a lover, but also a friend
Try to create an atmosphere of complete trust in your relationship. Make it so that the beloved man could just be himself next to you, so that he does not need to seem strong and omnipotent. One way or another, he will be weak in some way. But the difference is that if you allow him to show this weakness, he will trust you more. He will share with you his thoughts, plans, fears and doubts, without fear of condemnation and contempt. If you show that you need the
perfect man without flaws, his weaknesses will not go anywhere. Simply, he will carefully hide them, not devoting you to his thoughts and feelings.
If you think that your beloved man did wrong, turn your friend on. Imagine that your darling is just your good friend. How would you behave in such a situation? Usually, men do not really need advice, they seek to solve all problems on their own. Just show support. You can say something like: "Yes, of course, you were not quite right. But what you’ve done will not be redone. Now let's start from what we have now. In any case, I’m on your side. Don’t worry, we we’ll deal with this situation. You are a strong / wise / ... person. Everything will be fine. " If you "cut" sweetheart, it will not change anything. If a man realizes that he was mistaken, he will blame himself for incorrect actions even without you. No need to add oil to the fire and put pressure on his self-esteem. Be allies. Let your beloved boyfriend know that he is loved and appreciated with all his shortcomings.
Do not be a "mommy"
The maternal instinct is laid in us, but it is not worth it to bring down your unspent love on a man. He is an adult and independent person, even if he remains so. If you become too patronizing of a sweetheart, soon he may, as they say, "sit on his neck and hang his legs." Or he will tire of your excessive custody and rebel against you. Both options do not suit us. Let your beloved man make decisions independently and be responsible for their consequences. Even if you see that his actions will lead to a sad outcome, do not insist. Express your own opinion and leave him the freedom of choice. Otherwise, instead of support you will get another child. A man is not capable of vivid feelings for a woman who behaves like a mother.
Turn on feelings to the fullest
Allow
yourself to love! Love yourself and give affection, care and passion to your loved one. Do not let your relationship become a
"sluggish schizophrenia." Let you have fun, joint hobbies, adventures. Do not let life sour! Experiment!
Also do not forget about any "amenities." For example, write him gentle or passionate SMS when you are not nearby. You can come up with some original personal gift to your beloved man. Create your personal traditions - for example, drink coffee in the morning and talk about something. You create your own life! Work on it.