The dream of true, deep, all-consuming love somehow comes to every person. Some people visit such thoughts when they are 16 years old, others think about it seriously only for about 40 years, and still others begin to consider themselves ripe for a real feeling only at a very advanced age. How to find love that will be true?
First of all, a little theory. There are so many kinds of love that it’s easy to get confused reading serious sources on this subject. Usually contrasted with two types of higher feelings - Eros and Agape. But in fact, modern sources emit at least 8 types of love. We will only talk about the two mentioned. Let's start with Agape, which is considered the most “noble” kind of love. This type involves high sacrifice, devotion, constant reflection on how to please a loved one. Christian sources call this kind of love supreme. In practice, pure Agape almost never occurs in human life, since it should be distinguished by absolute selflessness. It is believed that only God can love a person like that . Eros - earthly love, is characterized by sensual attraction and great attention to the physical attractiveness of a lover. It is this kind of love that is actively propagated by popular culture. Of course, Eros’s love alone is not a bad thing. But you should not be guided by it as an ideal if you set yourself the task of “How to Find True Love”. It is better to take love-Agape as a sample.
Generally the question "How to find love?" not quite correctly set. After all, they don’t look for the true feeling, they create it. Therefore, the question should be reformulated a little differently, "How to find a partner with whom you can build a deep, trusting and warm relationship?" But much depends on you personally, on your skills and willingness to build relationships. And then the question will be: “What do I need to do to build a relationship worthy to be called true love?”. We will answer both questions.
How to find a partner if traditional methods like searching among colleagues and acquaintances do not help? Access the internet. A good option is dating sites, including international ones. The fact is that the choice of interesting people on international sites is wider. One interesting “domestic” candidate (candidate) will account for ten to twenty foreign ones. The world is big, you don’t need to be limited only to Russian-speaking boys and girls. Of course, learning a language is not easy for everyone. But in any case, the new language will come in handy for you, it’s both useful for a career and for development. True love requires an investment of time and energy. Are you ready for anything for it? Well, take care of language skills. But you should not be limited only to dating sites. There are still interest clubs on the Internet, thematic forums. You can find someone who loves the same books as you, and similar interests almost guarantee that you will have something to talk about.
What needs to be done in order to build a relationship with a good partner? First of all, learn to forgive. Even in the most harmonious pairs, disagreements and quarrels occur. Therefore, without the ability to forgive and forget good relationships can not be built. Train in relationships with loved ones that you already have. Until your existing relationship gets better, it makes no sense to start looking for a partner and you need to forget about the question "How to find love." When the relationship improves, you can move on to the next step: accustom yourself to constantly look for ways to please people near you. It can be sincere pleasant words, small, non-binding gifts or stories in a positive way to third people (gossip on the contrary). You also need to learn how to look for good in people around, it will help you look at the world in a different way and it will attract people very much, so it will be easier for you to find your love. Sit down and write on a sheet of paper at least the 10 best qualities of a loved one with whom it is difficult for you. This will be a wonderful training and preparation for making your future chosen one or chosen one like you.
How to find love? Just expand your geography of search and start working on yourself. And soon the one you have been waiting for all your life will appear.