Do men like bitching? This question was probably asked, even in the Garden of Eden - it is so long-standing - and, most likely, it will always be asked with bewilderment. How can you like that a priori has a minus sign? All the more paradoxical are the realities of life - the bitch gets a lot, and the mother's daughters remain out of work. Why is one everything and the other nothing? A bitch is never deprived of male attention. And a cozy, homely girl, who hates all the bitch of the world, is very surprised - why does she look into her beloved mouth and divine his wishes, and he runs to the one who wipes her legs against him? Where is the catch? What's the matter?
Immediately a reservation, the relationship "bitch - man" - this is not entirely normal. It is a kind of violence and vampirism. But why do men like bitching? Let's go back to childhood, because our emotions and fears, attachments and our character are formed at this time.
Start - Mom
No matter how we get out of the skin, in the life of a man there is a Mom. She is a trendsetter, the first violin and, in general, mother-in-law - means "all the blood." So she enjoys her role wholeheartedly. Everything is natural. The boy loves her more than life and ... is afraid of her. After all, mother in her childhood was hardly ceremonial - she would slap, punish, deprive sweets. Anything, if only to obey and do everything right.
"Try, otherwise you'll wave the broom!" - this is probably what every angry mother says to her lazy student son. And grabs the belt. What happens when a boy grows up? He does not understand the tears and sobs in the pillow from his wife. But the icy tone, unblinking eyes and words like "I'll lose my patience" act on him like a naughty puppy. Ears and tail are pressed, and the person standing in front of you begins to dream that a leash is thrown on him. A personās dignity is infringed, one does not have to talk about his self-esteem - she is buried. That is why men like bitch - they remember their strict mom saw.
Girls with the seal of "bitch" on their foreheads do not have to do anything. They do not need to conquer the male gender. It's a shame even for the guys - they spread in a puddle in front of them and drag them to the registry office, throwing gifts.
Continued - teacher
There is one more image - the first teacher who says: āTo write the control like this, it is necessary that the brains donāt work at allā, āThe first time I see such a foolish thingā, pointers and rulers are also used to physically confirm the threats. Now this is not used, at least in large cities.
And at home, my mother continues: "My son is such a mediocrity!". Double punch for a guy. Mom is the first woman in the life of a boy whom he loves without memory. The teacher is the second, whose authority is sometimes more than the authority of her mother. Both are āpressingā him, but they are the main women in his life, thatās why men like bitching, itās very simple - emotions and attachments from childhood are extrapolated to all adulthood.
Do you think a guy who had such a mother and such a teacher would like a timid, cramped sissy? Not! They need a soldier in a skirt. This is all at the level of instincts, the subconscious and, of course, the libido. They are incredibly attracted to egoists who care only about themselves, they, the commanders, are forced to obey, which for many men is sweeter than honey.
Captive Behavior
The classic henpecked in the arms of a bitch will be afraid not to please her. He will try his best to behave correctly and become ... a good son for a new mother, who, of course, is not happy with everything. If satisfied, then not for long, and it is an interesting fact: if she is happy with everything, she automatically ceases to excite him, excite him, and like him. The henpecked and mother's son is a classic case when for some reason a man likes a bitch in its purest form, so that everything is as tough as possible: to beat, so tossed, scolded - with all my heart and with all my spite. A poor husband in such a family constantly feels very uncomfortable and all the time as if he should apologize for something:
- he does not pay attention to home and his wife, since he is at work all the time;
- he was late to the restaurant;
- reacted negligently to some important issue;
- he brings little money;
- he forgot to buy coffee;
- he looked askance at his wifeās mother, and - God forbid - refused her request.
And when at least one of these ātriggersā is triggered (let's call it that, since being a bitch with her scandalousness and generating conflicting energy is a kind of continuous post-traumatic stress disorder), the song begins on the part of the missus a la āYou cooled down to me, I what do you mean - a rag ?! " The husband rushes with all his might to make amends and receives additional ācuffsā. These are the swings, and not boring!
Paradoxical happiness
Bitch in the world of men is a frequent and trembling phenomenon in all mothers of boys. Psychologists and sexologists believe that if a man manages to revive these feelings of fear, replaced by happiness in the background (or what seems like happiness amid constant stress), let's say - to dip a man in childhood, then the family will be strong and the marriage will not break up. In any case, such a husband from such a wife does not want to go anywhere.
From the point of view of psychology, everything is very simple. A person always wants to escape from problems in childhood, because it was comfortable and safe there, we were protected there. A man finds himself a woman who will remind him of a mother who, in childhood, was unhappy with him and whom he is afraid not to aggravate relations, and tries to smooth things over. Having acquired this format, he will be afraid of losing it.
Do you think these men are few? Experts argue that this type prevails in Russia ... And the tyrant mothers are to blame for why men like female bitch.
Woman in this pair
The lady in these relations behaves simply disgusting - she complains about a bitter fate, curses her, saying that she has to endure an infantile body at home, tells that she married a strong man, and received a child.
Such women, as a rule, come from families in which the mother dominated, and the father did not have the right to vote and was a kind of "appendage." If a boy grew up in an atmosphere full of love and respect from his parents, he will never pay attention to a bitch. Craving for bitch is a pathology and a sign of trouble in the relationship between son and mother. And the question arises as to what men like bitching: unsubstantiated and disliked, clogged and pathologically suppressed by the female "I". A bleak picture!
Pathology treatment
Dear men, like any unhealthy behavior, such a disease in a relationship should be treated. But first, it must be identified. Evaluate if there is love in your couple? Or is there just fierce competition and a desire to be the first, and hence the born need for conflict?
Your girlfriend only thinks about how you would be harder to "extort" and how to be a bitch in a relationship? With a man who respects himself even a bit, such tricks do not work ...
The terrible thing is that such powerful passionate conflicts replace normal family relationships, and against their background the usual quiet family harbor looks and seems very fresh and unnecessary.
Tips for the stronger sex
If you, instead of just living and moving forward, are constantly puzzled by the questions, "Have I not earned respect and happiness?", "What is this life for?" and the like, say stop. These are neurotic symptoms with very detrimental effects. Think, if not about your mental health (and physical, too, because this relationship is exhausting), then about others. About their households, about children who see this disgrace and then extrapolate this format to their lives. Do you need it? And all the more harmful to them!
Change yourself, otherwise you will never get out of the state of war and conflict, you will always have that feeling of resentment, that sense of guilt and self-pity, you will consider yourself an eternal victim. This is fraught with years of unhappiness and stolen life for absolutely everyone who is involved in this and who is watching it from the side. Believe me, this is miserable.
As soon as you hear from your dearest "half" elevated tones, hysterical notes, orders and ultimatums, slamming doors and breaking dishes, you are required to instantly stop this behavior, saying firmly that if this does not end, then the relationship will end. And if it happens again, then you knocked on the wrong door.
Mentally healthy men are able to stop any womanās tantrum, itās never too late to do this, at any stage of the relationship. The bitch neurotic will be overwhelmed by the tough approach to herself, she will be dumbfounded.
Men, it is important for you to realize that you are attracted to a certain type of women, and, having understood what is happening, you will find yourself on the path to recovery. Find yourself a woman who will take care of you, but when faced with a bitch, do not bow your head, but show healthy resistance and in no case let her get the better of you.
It is not easy to overcome the craving for such women, but it will certainly pass, and you will turn into a normal person, and not a BDSM victim. A normal person does not continue a relationship in which he is not respected.
Who is a bitch?
Probably, the majority will have a certain collective image of a cynical and cold woman, insanely sexy and beating everyone in the field of eloquence, self-sufficient and walking along the blade of a knife. With such a woman it is impossible to relax.
Why are they so attractive? The bitch has gathered in itself those qualities in which the stronger sex usually lacks. Such ladies both beckon, and at the same time repel. It certainly wonāt be bored with them, and the man will have to lay out everything without a trace, right down to bed. Stress when dealing with such ladies adds āpepperā to life. Sometimes this is not enough for many.
Which men like bitching?
Several options should be mentioned here:
- A weak man who prefers to live in someoneās shadow and be led. He will be glad if the bitch will lead their duet - he will gladly follow her. This is a son-mom behavior model. These guys are often abandoned, and they themselves leave very rarely.
- Another reason why men love bitch is the character of the male conqueror. The lady must be "taken" with a sword in his hand. Such gentlemen are flattered by the attention of a cold impregnable lady; this is a hunter for whom relations are only interesting when they need to strain. As soon as the lady stops twisting the ropes from him, he becomes bored and he disappears.
- Those who like to compete also love āpepper girlsā, because a bitch is a challenge to a man, his superiority and leadership in all areas. And, entering into a relationship with a bitch, a man "grows", as he tries to try his best to keep up with his soul mate.
- Finally, the man - a hidden masochist - becomes attached to the bitch, as he receives from her what he wants - submission and humiliation. This is psychopathology. Bitch such relationships are boring, she needs to flare up, peaceful decay is not her.
Why does the lady become a bitch and is not a fake in front of us?
It is important to understand:
- Many girls, after reading a mass of smart books like "How to be a bitch with a man," concluded that it was these ladies who rule the world. After all, there is no worldview, so you need to use someone else's, and even seasoned with such a tidbit.
- The girl looks at her idol bitch and copies it.
- Bitchiness can be a protection against the male, when, disappointed in love, a woman closes, cowardly and afraid to hurt herself.
- The lady realizes that she can easily achieve everything in life by manipulating men. This is the most dangerous bitch. She will unscrew everything that is spinning. From such people really have to run headlong.
How to distinguish a bitch from a serious, legible girl?
Please note that if a woman is the owner of such a set of qualities, this does not mean that she should be recorded in the bitch. After all, no self-respecting girl will rush to meet you right away, she needs to take a closer look. If a man thinks he is a prince for any of us, this is a mistake.
The most frank communication will help to remove all the masks. Be patient. Show respect for the desires of the girl, for her sense of freedom, understanding of personality, awareness. The girl will also definitely ātestā you, provoking and modeling various situations, checking you for consistency and firmness, probing the boundaries between creeping and respect. Here it all depends on how a man behaves. Will he be able to understand whether they are using it or just give an opportunity to prove himself. Listen to your heart and do not turn off your head.
Do not be afraid
The bitch lives in every lady, this gives her piquancy and acts like any medicine. But if there is a lot of it, it can poison the girl. What men really shouldn't do is be afraid. In the end, who does not take risks, does not win - this is the right life guide. Men love bitch, as they give the stronger sex feel even stronger, real heroes, living people, live a full life without robbing themselves.
How does a bitch behave with men?
The following is important in her behavior:
- Kind and strong are what people are attracted to. And no matter what gender a person is. They are not hunters, they are very independent and are ready to stand up for themselves when the line of permissible is crossed.
- "Steel Magnolia" - a flower outside, an unbending metal inside. She uses femininity in her own interests.
- She is honest and has a sober mind, not succumbing to romantic fantasies. She draws strength from her mind.
- She has the ability to withstand pressure.
- Bitch lives by his standards and plays by his own rules. She is confident, free, strong. She understands that a man will always treat her the same way she treats herself. An unsure beauty will seem ugly to a guy.
- Not a scum or a brawler, not rude and not cruel. This woman is very polite and infinitely honest. She will not bustle before anyone. And in fact, to communicate with such ladies is much easier than with the coquettish coquette, drowning in lies.