In modern Russia, most girls prefer to “support the local producer” and, without hesitating, marry the Russians. However, many Russians also look at overseas countries and at the local gentlemen there. Sometimes squinting with sincere distrust, and sometimes with an open soul and genuine interest. This happens for various reasons, and far from always mercantile considerations come first. Let's plunge into this raging sea of human passions and study what our romantic, matrimonial or even mercantile-minded compatriots are looking for, looking for the best share on .
Irina V. from Cherepovets
“I did everything quite spontaneously, flew with my friends to rest in Spain, in Madrid I met Sanchez, my future husband, - before that they corresponded with him on the same online dating resource. I didn’t know Spanish either, they talked more with gestures or in broken English. I just fell in love with this welcoming, hot country, its hospitable people, and, of course, Sanchez, my future husband. And quite a secret: here in Cherepovets you will not find such tapas and such a gazpacho in Andalusian style. I'm just crazy about local cuisine! Learning to cook paella. "
Marina M. from Moscow
“In Moscow, I had my own small business - a hairdresser. I didn’t even think about meeting foreigners for the purpose of a serious relationship, I used the profile on the dating site for foreigners mainly for learning English - I talked with native speakers. I flew to London to visit my brother, who is studying there as a designer. Ironically, I met Joseph, too, at the hairdresser, but already in London. He was waiting there for his sister, who was doing the styling. We talked about this, he turned out to be a big fan of Russian ballet. It was as if a spark ran between us - love at first sight. It turned out that we had talked to him on a dating site with foreigners before when I was still living in Moscow. Well, we decided - that's all, it's fate! Now we are thinking about where to live - in London or in Moscow. ”
Irina Sh. From Urengoy
“In Germany, I took an internship from work, but it turned out that I stayed for permanent residence, did not plan anything in advance. Eric himself is from Canada, he works for an international corporation in Berlin, so we both ended up in the same boat - mastering an unfamiliar country and learning German together. Met on one famous dating site. Fate, probably. ”
Zhenya from Ufa
“I grew up in a very poor family, I was abandoned by a drinking husband with a child in her arms - so I was left completely alone. Together with a friend, we managed to come to work as nurses in Finland, here I found my husband. We found our new job on a dating site with foreigners - at first we went just to stay, and then it all worked out. I must admit, at first there was no great love, there was basically only a calculation - to provide for ourselves and my child. But then I got used to my husband, to Raimo, and so we live. I respect him very much and appreciate his tenderness and care. Tolerate - to fall in love. "
As we can see, the motives for meeting foreigners and life stories can be very different. Someone seeks a better life and pursues exclusively selfish interests, someone simply falls in love at first sight - with a man, with a new country, with his language, culture or local cuisine. Sometimes, to one degree or another, all these factors may be present.
Among the advantages of such communication is broadening one's horizons. A person who travels to other countries learns a lot of useful information and develops as a person. Mastering one of the foreign languages at a level sufficient for everyday communication is also a huge advantage. As one of the great ones said, "you will live as many lives as you learn languages." Having mastered one of the foreign languages, a person will be able not only to communicate in everyday life, but also often apply for a higher paid position.
Economic factors also play a huge role in meeting foreigners. It is no secret that the average salary in Russia and, for example, somewhere in Norway can differ significantly. A higher standard of living helps to cope with everyday troubles more easily and provides a person with more opportunities for personal development. Pension benefits in many Western countries are also much higher. High-quality medical care in Russia is only possible for very good money, while in many Western countries, medical insurance allows you to claim a very high level of medical services. If a girl with her new foreign husband decides to take a mortgage, then somewhere in Italy they will pay 2-3% per annum, and not 9-15%, as in the Russian Federation. There are many examples of economic benefits that can be derived from marriage abroad.
However, the decision to marry a foreigner is potentially associated with so many acute problems. Firstly, the girl finds herself in an unfamiliar social environment and is forced to assimilate. Not every person can easily learn a foreign language, even if he has a penchant for this. The social structure and traditions of another country will also differ significantly from the usual. Even gestures can mean something else - for example, in Bulgaria, saying “yes”, people shake their heads from side to side, which means “no” in our country. In the USA, in many private homes, especially in the southern states such as Alabama and Florida, it is not customary to take off shoes indoors, so you will not find slippers there, but very powerful vacuum cleaners will be available everywhere.
Secondly, it is a matter of religion. If the foreign husband is a Muslim, then it is better to discuss this issue in advance so that then there will be no family tensions and squabbles. However, a compromise is always possible here, but for this a man must initially feel the desire to seek him. Difficulties can arise even with Christianity, because a particularly zealous Catholic or Protestant can hardly understand and accept his Orthodox bride. Moreover, not everything will be smooth if one of the partners turns out to be a believer and the other an atheist.
Climate and food are a different story. If a girl has lived all her life, for example, in Murmansk, then it will be unusual for her to fry all the time in the sunshine somewhere in the suburbs of Madrid. Although a young organism can tolerate such a change in climate relatively easily, and in some cases it may even be useful. As for food, in many foreign countries you simply will not find some traditional Russian products, such as buckwheat or even herring and brown bread. In general, the hotter the climate in one country or another, the more energetic and spicy the food its inhabitants eat.
In conclusion, I would like to note that each case, of course, is individual, and therefore the decision on whether or not to marry a foreigner should be made by the girl herself. In some cases, the pros may well exceed the cons, and a new, strong cell of society will be created. The main thing is to make this decision carefully and thoughtfully, and not to cut off the shoulder.