What is aggression?
Aggression is an integral form of behavior that is more or less inherent in every person. She is one way of self-defense. If an adult is able to control their outbursts of anger, then the child does not yet have such a skill. So how do you negotiate with the little brawler? All parents must have seen at least once how their child squeals, rests, shouts ... At such moments you feel especially helpless. What are these “buy, buy!” in the shops! And the complaints of the teachers about the pugnacity of your child? We think it is not worthwhile to talk in detail about this. Better try to learn how to properly respond to such attacks of your beloved baby.
How to be
First of all, you should learn to control your own emotions. Believe that aggression in a child is natural. It is impossible to control or regulate it. It is also impossible to put constant bans for a child to express his anger, for example, "Do not shout!", "Do not make noise!", "Do not stomp!" You should not be punished for this either, because then the child will be afraid to express his emotions. This can lead to the fact that he will hide from you his true experiences. Permanent prohibitions can make a child a "weakling" who can’t fight back in the right situation. But such behavior of his offspring also cannot be ignored. Before taking punitive measures, you should understand “where the legs grow from”, because of which your beloved son or daughter so often began to express their dissatisfaction with such behavior as aggression. A child has many reasons for this. First, look for the problem in yourself.
Lack of attention
Mom and dad are the most important and main people in a baby’s life. And when the baby
he constantly hears from his beloved parents: “I have no time now, play on my own,” he begins to think that they don’t need them. It becomes a shame for the kid due to the fact that mom and dad, as it seems to him, have ceased to love him. And he does what he can: screams, fists, throws toys. He needs attention. The child ceases to frighten the punishment, as the principle of "if I scream, they pay attention to me." This situation very often leads to the fact that there is aggression in the child.
What to do?
The answer is ridiculously simple: pay attention to your little brawler. Sometimes you need to double the strength. Despite the busyness, fatigue, try to talk with the baby, answer all his questions, be sure to caress. Such tender feelings soothe overly active children. Love your child and often show how much he is dear to you.
Passive aggression in a child
If suddenly your baby for no apparent reason began to behave badly, then this is a sign of a manifestation of passive aggression. It is difficult to deal with it, as often the child himself does not understand the reason for this behavior.
Speech aggression in a child
This type of aggression is characterized by offensive, rude and offensive communication. There are several ways in which you can try to overcome this manifestation. The first and most common is direct censure. The second can be called ignoring the behavior of the child. Third is the method of projecting the good qualities of the baby. For example: "I thought you were so obedient with me, but, it turns out, you behave very badly." Here are some examples of how parents should behave when they are faced with a concept such as child aggression. Good luck and love your kids!