The modern development of Internet communications allows the current society to almost completely disengage from communication in reality and make new acquaintances in social networks and on various portals. It sounds, of course, as something not quite logical, but such are the realities of the present world. Phones, smartphones, tablets, netbooks, laptop computers - a huge number of all kinds of gadgets, in addition to performing a lot of important and significant functions in a person’s life, at the same time helping to ensure that real communication between people is minimized. Young people are increasingly “freezing” in various social networks, and even more often, young people are looking for communication on all kinds of dating sites. How to meet girls on similar platforms? How to find the right approach to young girls by correspondence? And what phrases for dating a girl on sites of this kind are considered the most appropriate? You will find the answers in the article.
Why exactly this method?
There is a category of people who completely refuses to understand why to create a page, to register on a dating site, if it is much more pleasant and logical to start a dialogue with people live. This is all, of course, very good and correct from the point of view of direct direct contact, meeting with glances, sensations of the very spark that develops into something more. But there are also a lot of conventions that do not allow people to get acquainted in public places.
For example, a busy work schedule does not allow you to often visit nightclubs, cafes and restaurants, where there are a dime a dozen opportunities to meet new people. Or, because of our own shyness, I can’t take the first step towards the object of sympathy that is standing nearby at the bar counter. In short, the reasons can be varied, and all of them sooner or later lead to the fact that guys begin to think about solving a non-substantive problem: how to get to know girls on a dating site and how to communicate with those representatives of the fair half who ignore very banal messages of the type : "Hello how are you?".
Important details of your profile
Before you go on the attack and start looking for a potential “victim of love”, immediately after registering on a dating site, go to the high-quality filling out your profile. In fact, this is a rather important aspect in the success story of your online communication. Logging into dating sites without registration often only allows you to view other people's profiles, but this method of visiting your web profile does not allow you to write or read detailed information. Therefore, you should still be patient and register on one of the popular platforms.
If you are already registered and you already have a profile, analyze her attractiveness from the perspective of a potential young lady who is looking for an interesting, charming, attractive and purposeful young man. To write too abstruse and eulogies about yourself is also not an option. They will also think that you are a bouncer or a typical balabol. But notes of humor may be quite appropriate in this context. For example, you can specify: "I am looking for the obstinate for taming." Or something like: “Maybe I’m not special, but I will carry my special one on my hands forever.” Girls like a bubbling mixture of the type: "romance plus humor and plus charisma." Therefore, show originality, be creative in your mottos and descriptive characteristics given in the questionnaire - girls should be interested in your personality, otherwise they will not communicate with you.
How to attract the attention of a lady from the first SMS?
In order to impress a girl by correspondence, one does not need to possess the supernatural skills and talents of a fabulist. Do not rush from one extreme to another: do not be too trite, but do not reinvent the wheel. Your first message for a girl on a dating site is a greeting, so to speak, to be concise, but catchy. It should attract attention among dozens of letters from other similar pick-ups seeking their hackneyed “Does your mom need a son-in-law?” and "Ks-ks-ks, what a kitty!" conquer at least one beauty. But, believe me, such phrases repel several kilometers back at once.
It is possible that after such a "tackle" the girl simply throws you into a black list or ban. Therefore, be smart, include your own sense of humor, allow a humorous form of communication (within reason, of course). You will see, avoiding banalities in your appeals, you will understand that it is not so difficult to get acquainted with girls on a dating site and communicate.
Priority: Intrigue
To initially engage in dialogue with a girl on a dating site, it is necessary to arouse her interest. Try to start communication with the mysterious phrase: “So here you are, I found you!”. This will lead the young lady into bewilderment, and after a second she will be interested to find out where you still looked for her there. You can trick a little and start the appeal with words like "I saw you today - you're alive even more charming than in the photo." Such a message is not lost among the disgusted "Hello! Get to know each other? ” The girl will reply to the message, saying where you saw her there.
You can continue this game form of communication in a question and answer, using the characteristic features for the situation of millions of girls living in your area. For example, to say that she was standing near a supermarket (which is full at every step in any locality), her hair was loose (like that of millions of other girls in their everyday look), and she had a handbag in her hands (in fact, like all women). Your interlocutor will definitely be interested to learn more information from you, and when this intrigue comes to a standstill, you can admit to her that you were really just struck by her charming smile in the photo and could not help but get her a mutual desire to get to know each other.
Provocative conversation topics
If you meet a girl on the Internet, the word “provocation” does not have the very meaning that we are used to using in the context of aggression directed against an opponent. Not at all. On the contrary, here we need not to compromise the interlocutor in the person of a beautiful girl, but to urge her to further dialogue. Rather, here the provocative topics that you mentioned at the beginning of your correspondence should be in the nature of motivation, stimulation, motivation to continue communication.
For example, you can write to the subject of your sympathy: “I know your name. I know how you look. But, besides everything else, I know something else about you that your other subscribers don’t know. ” Do you hear? That is the provocation. Perplexed and heated by impatience to find out as soon as possible what this mysterious stranger knows, the girl is unlikely to resist. She will answer you for sure. And even if it will be short: “What?” - you can continue even more confidently. For example, answer: “How what? That you are the very girl who deserves great, simply boundless, feminine happiness. By the way, in turning you into a happy one, if you will allow me, I will participate with pleasure. ” You will cause at least a smile on the lips of your interlocutor, and at the very least - make her continue the dialogue with you.
Directive conversation
Today's contemporaries are increasingly looking in men for brutal and strong alpha males. Masculinity, a strong inner core, independent and freedom-loving character - all this should be combined in an ideal boyfriend of an ideal beauty. Therefore, the directive form of your first appeal to a girl in correspondence on a dating site (of course, in its correct manifestation) is a direct path to success and the key to your companion's condescending attitude. It is important not to overdo it or confuse the dominant style in dealing with rude and boorish behavior.
What phrases will still be most appropriate when meeting a girl on the Internet? For instance:
- Stop flipping profiles of other men. Yours - here it is: it is writing to you and waiting for you to tell me what time it is to pick you up today.
- Hey. Stop toil, write the address where to pick you up in the evening - today we are going to the cinema.
- Do you even know that I like you? Not? So here I am telling you this. And I want to hear your voice. Do not Tom, beautiful, write your number.
Well, in general, something in a similar style. At the same time, do not forget that your screen saver in your profile should correspond to your style of communication. If you have your pimple photo from the eleventh grade on the avatar, write it is gone: your insidious plan will come to an end right there.
Give compliments right
Both paid and free dating sites are teeming with a huge number of guys today who cannot realize their desire to meet a beautiful girl in real life, and therefore turn to Internet platforms to try their luck at least here. And since the overwhelming majority of them are stupidly wishing to find a sexual partner at a time, the texts in their messages, respectively, are completely banal. In order to avoid ignorance from the representative of the fair half, save your first message from a completely uninteresting banal text. If you intend to compliment her, then do it right. And if this is flattery, it should only be of high quality.
How to turn a banal “tackle” into words beautiful and pleasant for a girl:
- Not “You are super!”, But “Your eyes are amazing: deep, deep, just incredibly expressive.”
- Not “You have a beautiful smile”, but “Your smile in these photos is unrealistically bright, it really infects you with positive and as if warms you with warmth.”
- Not “You are pretty to me”, but “Just stumbled upon your photo and realized who will own my heart in the next sixty to seventy years.”
In the future, you can use this kind of examples. What to write a girl on a dating site? Yes, anything, if only not triviality. Better to be original and extraordinary than terribly boring and just “like everyone else”.
Interesting openers
Opener is a modern interpretation for the initial words of dialogue: phrases used in communication for the first time and able to impress. In other words, this is a good start to a conversation with the interlocutor. What are the most relevant versions you can use when chatting with a girl on a free dating site? For instance:
- You are aware that the legislation of the Russian Federation provides for criminal liability for depriving a person of the right to happiness. You don’t want this, do you?
- I saw your profile picture and finally realized why I was registering here.
- Do you listen to Scorpions too? They are incredibly cool, right?
- I look at your photos - have you been to Lviv? Have you visited at least one of the most beautiful Lviv cathedrals? These are amazing buildings, agree!
- We argued with friends: they decided that I dare not write to the most beautiful girl on the site. And you know, I did lose. Because you are not only the most attractive girl on this dating platform, you are the most beautiful of all whom I have ever seen in my life.
- I know that hundreds of guys a day write to you. But that’s not all. Do you want to prove it?
However, not every greeting for a girl on a dating site can be perceived by her correctly, and not everyone can attract her attention. Therefore, it is also worth considering those options that are best avoided.
Bad examples
What words can become decisive in a dialogue with a girl and play not in your favor from the very first welcome address? Often these are boring phrases that every second and even almost the first boyfriend writes to beautiful ladies:
- Hello! Let's get acquainted?
- Beautiful. Will you give me a number?
- How are you? Let's talk?
- Hey. I am Anton. I am 20 years old. And you?
Even more negative feedback is received by those who do not know how to get to know girls on a dating site correctly and tactfully. They immediately go from greeting to vulgarity and indecent offers. These are, for example, as:
- Wow, what, I want you!
- “How about a meeting for s / o?” - “s / o” refers to sexual relations.
- You have a very seductive big breast! Let's talk about it?
- I would lie with you ... for overhaul !.
Well, and other unpleasant phrases in a similar way. Such men are immediately cut off by decent or just knowing their worth girls. Therefore, even if your only goal is intimacy with a new friend, then do not be so straightforward. Everything should be in moderation, flirting should be virtuoso, and work on attracting attention to jewelry.
Less philosophy
Leafing through profiles of girls on a dating site, pay attention to their preferences and interests. Music brings people together in many ways - you can talk about your favorite artists and get into the top ten, systematically moving from this topic to a more individual one. You can also discuss common hobbies: if the girl’s page contains sketches for tattoos, try to talk on this topic, be interested in her answers, and be curious.
But do not forget about the error, which often negates all communication. Do not be a “truck”, do not load the interlocutor’s brains with excessively abstruse information. Avoid a long philosophical monologue for your part - this will frighten away your passion in an instant. Especially if she doesn’t really like to think at all, in principle. Seeing in the profile of the beauty of the selfie in the burger, you do not need to describe the harmful value of high-carb food and list the components that make up Coca-Cola, you will depress your interlocutor and seem to her at least an incredible bore. Or if you, for example, boast of your exorbitantly high level of IQ, she will consider you a snob, a braggart, and plus to everything else she is also stupid. With women, one should not talk about the games of the mind, but about love and romance.
The most original phrases for beginner pickups
If you don’t know how to impress a girl, use the following tips. Over time, you will learn to “compose” them yourself.
- I am sure that you are following your impeccable figure, but something tells me that a couple of cakes and a cup of coffee will not hurt you during our conversation tonight in a cafe, what do you think?
- It seems to me that such an amazing girl like you cannot fail to notice an amazing guy like me. Let's get acquainted, pretty?
- Good evening, beautiful stranger. I am a journalist for a well-known magazine, and I would like to interview you on how you manage to be so beautiful?
- Girl, if you don’t help me right now, I’ll just drown in your eyes! Let me get out of this magical whirlpool of impeccable beauty.
- I don’t understand how such a spectacular girl can look for a guy on a dating site. You are made for love, true love. Can I steal you from here to meet in the real world?
- When I went to your profile, my beloved dog Jerry barked loudly and began to lick my cheek. Do you think he also felt that you are an extraordinary girl whom I simply must meet?
- I’ve been sitting on the site for fifteen minutes and I’m thinking - what the hell am I doing here? And then I came across your page and realized: for the sake of meeting an angel of unearthly beauty.
As you can see, all ingenious is incredibly simple. Be natural, do not bother with building too long sentences. But in excessively short terms, you risk being perceived incorrectly. Try to show your interest in the interlocutor as naturally as possible, she will be pleased with the attention of a pretty stranger.