The main event in the life of every woman is the birth of a child. But after all, childbirth completely changes the female body, especially if the baby was born not naturally, but thanks to the operation. Therefore, you never know for sure how your body will react to the first sex after cesarean section.
What do the doctor's say?
Is there a greater burden on the female body in the world than bearing a child and giving birth? At least once, those who went through these trials will agree that this is not only a physical, but also an incredible moral burden. therefore
to overcome the psychological barrier associated with deformations in the body, and return to normal
sex life is not so simple.
If we talk about the physiological side of the issue, then most doctors say that the time when you can have sex after cesarean comes after at least 5-6 weeks after surgery. This conclusion is motivated by the fact that this time is enough for the body to acquire a normal postpartum state for it. Although some gynecologists allow their patients to resume intimacy almost immediately after the birth of a child, unless, of course, the woman herself wishes it. But the most cautious experts believe that sex a month after cesarean is very dangerous, because it threatens with additional bleeding and microcracks, so in this case 2 months is the minimum period of abstinence.
Possible consequences
In order not to guess, try after a birth to periodically visit your gynecologist - he will help individually determine the readiness of your body for sexual intimacy with a man. Such specialist consultations often protect careless young ladies from the occurrence of all kinds of infections and bleeding.
To understand the cause of such consequences, one should recall the nature itself.
the birth of children. It's all about the wound resulting from the separation of the placenta from the surface of the uterus, which can unsuccessfully disturb too early sex after cesarean. After how much this wound will completely heal, only your doctor can tell. Therefore, do not rush, it is better to wait longer than to be treated for an infectious disease.
In addition, tissues and ligaments of a woman’s genitals undergo a significant deformation after the birth of a child, and until they regain their former shape and elasticity, several months can pass. This process is accompanied by pain, therefore, even if the doctor says that it is already possible to have sex after a cesarean, do it carefully and slowly, do not particularly zealous with intricate poses.
Psychology or physics?
It is safe to say that every woman who has felt all the “charms” of the maternity process, experiences even the slightest, but still fear of her first intimacy with a man. And even if during the birth of the baby there were no complications, we will still wind ourselves up and worry about possible pains and tears. So we went on to the question of the psychological burden that the first sex after childbirth entails . Caesarean section - an operation that leaves a mark. Many girls before
childbirth groundlessly complex about their appearance, worrying about an imperfect tummy. What can I say now, with the appearance of this scar on half a stomach! As a result, newly made mothers often do not allow husbands to their corrupted, as they think, body.
But in fact, everything is completely wrong! After all, men marry not only a beautiful figure - their chosen ones also have other virtues. Why should a woman experience even the slightest inconvenience from intimacy with a man to whom she “heroically” presented a child? Think about the following: another name for Caesarean is “royal section”. So, maybe, in the eyes of your husband, you are a real “queen” who sacrificed her beauty for the sake of a new life?
What do gynecologists advise?
Is there a time when you can have sex after cesarean section? In each individual case, the answer may be different. The first thing you pay attention to
attention - the degree of healing of the suture. But only appearance cannot be trusted, go through an ultrasound scan. And only after that you can know for sure whether your body is ready for intimacy. If your doctor’s answer is positive, then most likely he will recommend that you first follow a few simple rules when having sex:
- Use special lubricants, because the hormonal background after childbirth is disturbed, which often leads to excessive dryness of the vagina. As an alternative, enjoy the foreplay a little longer.
- Let the first time be slow. Ask your husband not to rush and do all the movements smoothly.
- The chosen posture should be such that the woman herself could control the whole process.
If the pain does not leave you for a long time, then tell your doctor. Then, if possible, he will offer you a procedure for covering the vagina with estrogen cream. But this option is not recommended for nursing mothers, since it affects the intensity of milk production.
What do sexologists advise?
So, you have chosen the time when you can have sex after cesarean. Once you have decided so, it means that your body requires relaxation and the full surrender of captive passion. But how can this be done if only thoughts about the possible disappointment of her husband get into my head? Do not dwell on this - with absolute certainty it can be argued that his love for you arose not because of your then flat tummy. And now he is unlikely to fall out of love with you because of a trifle strip on your body. Just put yourself in the place of a lover: would your attitude towards him change if he had such a scar? Of course not. So do not torment yourself or him, but rather think and remember what your man loves, what turns him on.
How to prepare for the "first" sex?
The first thing that comes to mind is an erotic lingerie that will so turn your partner's head so that he even forgets to think about anything else. Give preference to a short, transparent peignoir that is slightly darkened from below, which will certainly help you to feel beautiful and
desired. If you take into account the fact that the young man missed your body pretty much, then believe me, both of you will enjoy this kind of sex after cesarean. Your man’s reviews will prove it to you!
So, the moment of intimacy has come, and your main task now is to step aside from all problems and worries, to throw thoughts of a baby and diapers out of your head, about a scar on your stomach and possible discomfort. Indeed, as they say, thoughts materialize, and if you do not cheat yourself, then the chances of a good romantic evening will increase significantly.
Listen to your body
Psychologists argue that the resumption of sexual intercourse after childbirth is accompanied in most women by serious psychological moments. But only the woman herself can determine when it is possible to have sex after a cesarean - for this you only need to listen to your body. If you do not feel much postpartum stress or fatigue, sleep normally at night, you do not worry about your scar after surgery, and you do not feel any discomfort, then your body is ready to return to a normal family life.
For more self-confidence, try to look at your body in the mirror more often. Thus, you will get used to this, as it seems to you, flaw and stop completely noticing it. Having fallen in love with yourself again, you will become an even more self-confident woman, and even a happy wife and mother.
Modern medicine can do anything
A reminder of the birth on your stomach, a scar after cesarean section, is delayed very quickly, as the body returns to its prenatal state. But if you are so picky about your appearance, and a barely noticeable scar does not give you peace, then do not worry - modern medicine
able to work miracles and get rid of any signs of surgical intervention.
The most effective method of combating scars on the body today is laser resurfacing. Only 6-7 procedures and a half to two months - and on your stomach there will not be a single trace from the scar bothering you. It will also be necessary to apply special preparations that support tissue regeneration.
If you can’t decide on such procedures, then think about it, perhaps the bored scar doesn’t spoil your body at all, but rather decorates it, reminding you of the birth of your child.