For some, this abbreviation means a lot, for others it is an empty phrase. But almost anyone knows: BDSM is something related to sex. Let's try to figure out what these four intricate letters mean.
Decoding abbreviations
BD (BD): Bondage and Discipline - bondage (binding or fixing of body parts) and discipline.
DS (DS): Domination and Submission are two opposing, mutually exclusive concepts: domination and obedience.
SM (SM): Sadism and Masochism - sadomasochism, masochism and sadism. At its core, it is a pleasure from pain.
In theory, this abbreviation should look like BDDSSM, but it was simplified and decided to reduce to four sonorous letters.
Features BDSM
- This is something where pain does not have to be present. Your sex theater, where you can only play the master and the slave, is also considered BDSM.
- This extensive topic of sex is not a perversion in any way. Fans of light slapping on the pope can immediately be called members of this "subculture", let alone grabbing a girl for her luxurious long hair. Just don’t be shy.
- BDSM - this is something where you can do without sexual contact as such, if this was not indicated in the agreement between the dominant and submissive.
- Each lower partner should have a “stop word," because people don’t know how to read thoughts. You need to come up with original words that cannot be shouted out by chance in a fit of passion.
- BDSM is something that does not relate to violence at all, because everything happens by the good will of the participants, everything is discussed in advance, and sometimes contracts are even signed.
Types of BDSM
Role distribution
- The game of "doctor." In addition to changing clothes in this case, it is permissible to use medical items to your taste: from an enema to a conservator.
- "Brutal Games." One of the partners plays a horse or a dog, but the most important thing in this game is a collar, sometimes with a leash.
- Game of age change. More often, the one who portrays the eldest dominates, but connect the imagination, then old age will be a symbol of weakness.
In all BDSM games, it is imperative that someone be the top, and someone will perform the function of the bottom.
Impact on the bottom
- bastinado - kicks on the partner's feet;
- trampling - walking on the lower with bare or shod legs;
- flagellation - flexible tools used for flogging;
- bondage - restriction of freedom by binding;
- suspension in a motionless state;
- mummification - fabric and bandages are used to wrap a person;
- the types of impact include fear of the disgusting. For example, the so-called golden rain (urination to your partner);
- wax - sensations from its drops on a naked body are just on the verge of pain and pleasure;
- sharp objects - the person’s fear of the sight of blood plays here. The meaning of this method is precisely in this, and not in causing terrible pain.
BDSM dating is practiced all over the world. In some countries there are specialized theme clubs that people come to in order to get new vibrant sensations. You can also meet your future partner in them. Unfortunately, in Russia such establishments exist only underground. But you can find the person you need in various forums.
BDSM sex is unlimited, the main thing is to renounce stereotypes and dislikes, to try and get real pleasure.