Sexual relationships ... Incredibly broad, emotionally and physically important part of adult life. Many young boys and girls are wondering at what age it is worth joining this component of human relationships for the first time so as not to experience bitter disappointments afterwards. So, the beginning of sexual activity - when should it come?
Growing body and mind
Healthy intimate relationships can arise only in people who possess not only a physically matured body, but also a reasonably harmonious developed mind. It is under these conditions that sexual life can bring pleasure to a person, not only purely physical, but also - much more importantly - emotional. It’s wrong when the girls decide to part with their virginity just because all their friends already have partners. It is unacceptable to enter into intimate relationships under pressure when a guy threatens to part with a girl if she does not agree to intimacy, or, especially, under the threat of violence.
At what age do you start having sex? There is no clear answer and no concrete figures on this question: each person develops differently. Someone needs a sexual relationship as early as 16-17 years old, and someone may not be attracted even at the age of 20 years. In this regard, I would like to quote from one well-known book: “When should sexual activity begin? If you are already worried about this question, then it’s time to go. ”
What about liability?
When planning to start an intimate relationship, you should remember the following: sex is not only the satisfaction of certain needs of your body, and not only deep relationships between two people, but also a serious adult responsibility. Willingness to take care of yourself and your partner. Sexual life is the ability to protect yourself and your loved one from the dangers of unwanted pregnancy and disease. Of course, few people think about this side of sexual relations, which is probably why in some countries there is still a tradition according to which a girl should be a virgin until the wedding night. To take care of her took not a random partner, but a legitimate husband.
If the first intimacy is planned, and one of the partners (or both) is less than 17-18 years old, then you should think in advance how his parents will react to his or her adulthood. The excuse that mom and dad will not know anything, will not work - parents are much wiser, and all the secret sooner or later becomes apparent.
Sex - the ability to give
And from this perspective, sexual life is not always familiar to young people. All of us are egoists at heart. We prefer to have fun rather than make sure that someone near us is well. But sex implies the active participation of two people, each of whom is ready to pay maximum attention to his partner. This is very difficult to accomplish at the very beginning of an intimate relationship, when boys and girls are inexperienced and, as a result, simply do not know how to completely trust and dissolve in another person. Moreover, a lot depends on an experienced partner. Caring and affectionate, he is able to correctly lead a virgin (or virgin) through an act of defloration, which is difficult from a psychological and physical point of view, and selfish - to instill an aversion to intimate life forever.
The first sexual experience forever remains in our memory. And it only depends on our free will and reasonable choice whether it will be a magical, albeit painful, beginning of an adult, giving joy, an intimate life, or will be remembered with regret and disgust, as an unpleasant event that you want to erase from your memory as soon as possible .