How many people know who asexuals are? As practice shows, there are too few such knowledgeable citizens in our country. And, in fact, this is not surprising, because this concept appeared recently. And therefore, let us try to figure out this difficult, at first glance, issue.
Who are asexuals?
So, asexuals are people who are not sexually attracted. However, they do not like any kind of sex, both with representatives of the opposite sex, and their own. Therefore, do not confuse them with gays or lesbians, and even more so with bisexuals.
Scientists and psychologists still cannot completely agree on what caused this view of such an important component of our life. However, it is reliably known that every year more and more people openly declare their asexuality.
Why do people have such thoughts?
Many are interested in the question: “How to become asexual?” There are many theories about what makes people give up sex. But among the whole variety of this information, the following versions seem most plausible:
- Unsuccessful sexual intercourse. Very often, dissatisfaction from the first intimate contact can become the cause of what is happening. For example, when one of the partners was too dirty, according to the other. Or when reality is very different from a person’s fantasies, and therefore no longer attracts him.
- Psychological trauma. Sometimes people become asexual after experiencing self-abuse. After such a tragedy, they have long associated sex with something dirty and disgusting.
- Congenital pathology. Let it be rare, but still some people are born with congenital asexuality. In this case, it is more a physiological barrier than a spiritual one.
The most famous asexual guy and his new movement
You can’t talk about asexuals and not mention a guy like David Jay. This young programmer from America from a young age knew that he was different from his peers. While all his friends spoke only about sex, he could not understand what was special about him.
For young David, it was just a dirty act, the only purpose of which was to continue the family, and nothing more. When he was 23 years old, he was already completely sure that sex was completely uninteresting to him. But it was not enough for him to realize who these asexuals were. He wanted to find like-minded people around the world.
Therefore, in 2001, he founded a worldwide network dedicated to the ideals of asexuality. And, strangely enough, soon his site began to collect thousands of views. Moreover, over time, a whole movement appeared that brought together under its banner girls and boys from all over the globe.
The world through the eyes of "new" people
So, with those who are asexuals, figured out, now it's time to understand how they see the world around them. After all, as in any movement, they have their own rules and ideals, which are very different from those that are familiar to us.
First of all, all asexuals are very cold about sexual intercourse. They describe this action as unnecessary dirty gestures that spoil the beauty of true feelings. In this regard, almost all members of this organization preach Platonic love.
However, there are even those who do not recognize kisses, considering them a hotbed of germs. Although such an attitude is still rare even for asexuals. In general, everything is limited to the usual abstinence from sexual intercourse.
But what about the children?
Many, having heard about asexuals, are wondering where their children come from. But here it should be understood that these people are not impotent or barren - they simply do not like sex. Consequently, they can step over their convictions in order to achieve a higher goal.
However, it also happens that both partners simply cannot tolerate sexual intercourse. Then they can decide to simply adopt a child. Especially often this happens to those who cannot conceive for a long time and no longer want to suppress their inner self.
Who is at risk?
For some reason, many have the wrong stereotype that such a type of thinking can be developed only by those who are already well over 40, or from inveterate losers. In fact, the opposite is true, and numerous sociological polls testify to this.
So, an asexual man is as familiar as a woman. Moreover, most often the first signs of this worldview begin to appear at the age of 16 to 25 years. Moreover, in most cases, by the age of 20, asexual is already fully aware of his needs and ideals.
Why did they become known only recently?
In fact, many asexuals are still hiding their true feelings. The reason for this is the fear that society will reject you. After all, who wants to build a relationship with someone who does not want to have sex?
The turning point was just the same generalization of information about these people and that they are not alone. Thanks to this, asexuals were finally able to get out of the shadows and look for a couple among their kind.