Do you believe in female friendship? Many dispute the very fact of the existence of such a phenomenon. Proponents of this opinion are sure: girls do not know how to be friends. After all, the main thing for any woman is family and children. That is what they are striving for. And friends often interfere with personal happiness. Is it really? Let's figure it out.
Envy
Women's friendship is very multifaceted. Girls easily make friends. With people of your gender you can talk about everything. And it is the fact that sometimes girls are too frank with each other, interferes with normal relations. After all, envy is an innate feeling. Therefore, it is difficult to refrain from looking askance at your friend, whom fate presents good work, a rich gentleman and a beautiful car on a silver platter. And the most amazing thing is that such lucky people are still unhappy with something. They come to a meeting with a friend and complain that her lover gave her a Lexus, although she wanted a Ferrari. At such a moment, the less affluent girl can not restrain herself. She has to travel by public transport, and her friend aches that the top in her car does not recline.
It should be understood that all people are different. Some do not know how to sincerely rejoice for others. But envy happens not only in women, but not in all, it is violently manifested. So if you are disappointed in friendship just because your childhood friend is jealous of you, you should understand the fact that your friend is an unworthy person, and there are people in the world who are more worthy of your attention.
Jealousy
What causes many relationships to collapse? Because of jealousy. Female friendship is no exception. Your friend may be lonely. That is why she really appreciates communicating with you. And when you pay less attention to her, she can deliberately begin to do nasty things, just because she wants to keep you. You should treat these things the same way you treat young children who crave your attention. Talk with a friend and explain to her that you do not want to spoil the relationship, but there are many interesting people in your environment. And if your friend doesn’t have enough communication, try introducing her into your circle of friends. In this case, she will get to know your friends better and stop being jealous. You need to be a little psychologist. If you notice that a friend is jealous, then she has low self-esteem. Talk to the girl about it. Tell her that she is beautiful and smart. No need to condemn a person just because he has little joy in life. Try to become a ray of light and help your girlfriend survive a difficult period. In this case, you will not be disappointed in friendship and will be able to maintain good relations for many years.
Grievances
There are no perfect people. Therefore, it makes no sense to try to please everyone at once. Do as you wish, within the framework of the reasonable, of course. And if at the same time you have to offend a person, do not be discouraged. After all, fulfilling the requirements of others, you risk losing yourself. We give an example. Your girlfriend wants to go to a party on Saturday, but you have no desire to go there. You have only two days off this week, and you want to devote yourself to one evening and just read a book. Do not deny yourself this pleasure. Honestly tell your friend how things are. A smart girl can understand you. This refusal does not mean that female friendship does not exist. The intention to devote time to yourself is a selfish desire that helps you to remain a whole person. But in return for the refusal, you should offer something. In the case of a party, you can tell the girl that an exhibition will open in the week, which you can go to together. Always offer an alternative, otherwise you may lose friendship thanks to numerous denials. And always talk about grievances, do not keep them in yourself. They tend to accumulate. And it’s much easier to solve the problem right away than to wait for the moment when a snowball of misunderstanding and reproaches will fall on you.
Different social circle
Do you still think that female friendship does not exist? You might just be out of luck with a girlfriend. After all, if you have once been burned in a relationship with a man, this does not mean that it makes no sense to start all over again. The same should be done with friendship. Sometimes relationships spoil through no fault of your own. You may not notice this, but you are growing. And this happens regardless of your desire. Promotions, meeting interesting people, and improving your status can ruin an old relationship. It makes no sense to worry about this. If you grow up, get a good salary, live in a prosperous area and dine in restaurants, naturally, your poor friend will be envious. She may even try to pull you out of this luxury, saying that you are too bullying your nose. But if you understand that you have changed, and a friend simply does not want to do anything to improve her life, this does not mean that friendship does not exist. It’s just the time to find interesting new friends who will help you grow, not degrade.
Divergence of interests
People are changing, and that's normal. Many skeptics say that there is no female friendship, only on the basis that the relations between the girls deteriorate due to the divergence of their interests. But this happens not only in women. People tend to change. You probably had friends at school or college with whom you were n’t out of water. But today you do not communicate with these girls, and why? Perhaps they chose the wrong road. For example, they can continue to attend clubs at the age of 30 and call you with them. But you are not interested in these youth parties anymore. You prefer to go to social events and attend theaters. And you must admit, there is nothing wrong with that. People’s interests change, new people appear in your environment. Do not cling to the past and try to establish relationships that no longer rest on anything. Do not give up on friendship. You can always find yourself a like-minded person.
Shared memories
Why have people been friends for many years? Because they find each other interesting, they have something to talk about and something to do together. And they have something to remember. A common past can bind people together. You can communicate with your childhood friend only because you always have the opportunity to experience those childhood emotions with her and remember cases that your memory cannot hold. Friendship is formed on shared memories. The more of them, the closer the person is to you. Why, then, they say that there is no female friendship? Because even childhood friends break up. They no longer have common interests, they have nothing to talk about. Why is this less common in men? The fact is that, gathering in the evening, the guys discuss football, politics and books. Girls like to gossip. And if they have nothing to talk about, they miss each other's company. I don’t want to remember the same thing all the time. Therefore, so that communication does not come to naught, you need to maintain a relationship, accumulating new memories. Go out for a walk more often. Joint trips to various events will strengthen your friendship.
The trust
What is the most expensive gift you can give a person? That's right - trust. If he is not, there is no normal relationship. Let them say that there is no female friendship, but you know that this is not true. It does not exist only where there is no trust. If you can tell a person about your personal problems and experiences, then there is friendship. You must be sure that your secrets will not be recognized by the whole world. Just on the collapsed trust, myths about the lack of friendship are created. But there are always gossips. And in order not to be disappointed in a person, you need to listen carefully to him. If your friend spells out the secrets of your mutual friends, be sure that your secrets will not be news to anyone either. Therefore, in order not to get into an awkward situation and not to be disappointed in female friendships, periodically check out the person you trust.
Help
Close people always take a direct part in our life. They advise us what to do in a difficult situation, help morally, physically and financially. And if you managed to find in the life of a person who at the right moment is always nearby, hold on to him. Let the female friendship does not exist, do not believe it. If you have a girlfriend who can come and comfort you in the middle of the night, who cares and makes you happy, then you're in luck. After all, friendship is tested precisely in trouble. Therefore, do not hesitate to seek help. You are not alone in this life. It makes no sense to drag a heavy strap and enjoy your suffering. If you are surrounded by good people who can help, do not pay attention to evil languages that will claim that they are not looking for good from good.
The same view of the world
We need to value people who think the same way you do. Let them say that there is no female friendship, but if you find a girl who shares your life values, consider her a gift of fate. Even if there is a wonderful man next to you who shares your views on things, he will not be able to replace a girlfriend with whom you can talk about everything in the world. Your husband or boyfriend will not be interested in listening to the ode to the new boots you bought at the sale. And a friend will be sincerely interested in information where you can buy wonderful boots at a bargain price. Only with a girl you can go shopping, to a beauty salon or to a photo shoot. Perhaps you and your friend are fond of floriculture, embroidery or knitting. In this case, you can spend more than one evening having a fascinating conversation, in which you will find out where you can buy beautiful yarn, interesting patterns or seeds you need.
The ability to be yourself / cry
Lolita Milyavskaya’s song “Women's Friendship” carries an incredible semantic meaning. After all, it’s true, a woman needs a friend in order to be herself. With men, girls sometimes behave very unnaturally. They are trying to look prettier and smarter than they really are. Wearing masks daily, sometimes you want to relax and just be yourself. Sometimes it is just necessary to be sad and cry to someone in a vest. And there is no candidate for this role better than a girlfriend. You can tell her about all the failures and troubles, and she will always support you. You will know that you are not alone, and already from this thought it can become easier. Yes, life sometimes presents unpleasant surprises, and only the best friend will always give practical advice on how to cope with grief and how to survive it.
Is there a friendship?
You may or may not believe that the earth is round, but it will not become flat from this. The same goes for female friendships. Due to the fact that you will not believe in its existence, it will not die out. If you are very unlucky in life and you are disappointed in friendship, this does not mean that you need to assure everyone around that it is not. Try to find a like-minded person with similar interests. Believe me, communication with women is simply necessary. Gatherings with friends help to ease the soul and relax. Sometimes you just need to talk to someone. With a girlfriend, you can commit unthinkable nonsense, which will then become the best moments of your life. It's always worth learning from mistakes. If fate made you believe that female friendships are incompatible words, then try to refute this statement. And perhaps if you stop closing yourself from the world, you can find a girl who will become your best friend.