The telephone is one of mankind's greatest inventions. Before the appearance of the telephone, communication at a distance was very difficult, while the telephone opened up truly tremendous opportunities for people. However, along with the indisputable advantages of the telephone, society has also found new problems caused by it. Many people are either not able to conduct a normal dialogue on the phone, or simply do not like to do this, while being very sociable in the company of people. How is a telephone conversation different from a regular conversation?
The fact is that there is no non - verbal communication in a telephone conversation . In addition to intonation, timbre , etc. a person does not receive from the interlocutor any additional information that he is so used to, unconsciously, of course, count on. So people with highly developed abilities of non-verbal analysis really do not like talking on the phone. However, in modern society without him nowhere. In at least two areas of life, the phone is extremely important for a man - this is business negotiations and a girl’s invitation to a date. Girls also quite often do not know how to communicate by phone, however, since a man acts as an initiator, it is somewhat easier for a girl to overcome her fears.
A man should literally radiate confidence both when talking with a business partner, and when talking with a girl he likes. Only a confident, strong voice will help achieve success in these areas. By the way, in these situations there is much in common. It seems unbelievable, but it is, because in both cases the goal of the man is to achieve victory, whether it be a date or a successful deal.
And so, if your goal is a date, it is extremely important for you to choose the right topics for talking on the phone. Do not turn your conversation into an hour and a half conversation - for this you will have enough time on a date. You should immediately make it clear to the girl why you are calling her. At the same time, keep in mind that if you know little, then, as a rule, she starts a conversation from a defensive position. The girl is afraid that you will deceive her, play a trick on her, turn out to be not the one you impersonate, etc. In addition, she is afraid that she will be bad on a date: bored, awkward ...
Therefore, you should start talking on the phone with attempts to break this ice. Speak clearly, confidently, do not make jokes, show that the date is of great importance to you, and that you are very serious. Do not forget to tell her what you will do on a date, when she can come home, etc. In general, do everything so that she stops worrying.
After the goal is achieved, stop your conversation on the phone , otherwise you risk very much that your spells will fall, and she changes her mind. You are unlikely to achieve more from the conversation, but you can easily make a mistake and spoil the upcoming date.
All the tips written above can be safely applied to business negotiations. In this case, you should completely abandon extraneous topics. Politely take an interest in the affairs of the interlocutor and proceed immediately to discuss the topic. Working hours are limited, therefore, the interlocutor, for sure, will evaluate your ability to speak in essence and define you as a business person. Conduct a dialogue with confidence, immediately outline your goal in the conversation and incline the interlocutor to it. Prove yourself calm, thorough and competent.
Remember that the main thing in a telephone conversation, whatever it is, is the ability to achieve the goal. You do not need to wonder how to learn to maintain a conversation, since you, in principle, do not need to support it. Get from the interlocutor what you want or leave him time to think, and all friendly and extraneous conversations are better set aside for live communication.